When we talk on the phone, it doesn't seem to matter if I am calm or not. At some point during the conversation she starts interrupting me in mid-sentence, jumping on me with harsh statements and argumentative words. I eventually get to the point where I have to almost match her level of intensity before she'll calm down and listen to me. It just ebbs and then flows, ebbs and then flows, ad nausem.
She is highly critical of things that I say, think or do and seldom offers a compliment to me even when deserved. You uses statements such as "You're never...","You can't do...","You're not","You're being..." etc. rather than phrases like "I understand what you're saying.","Yes, I agree." etc.
We've been having these sort of non-productive conversations since I could talk (I am now 30 years old). She treats me like a child and it aggravates me. Even now, at 30, she treats me as though I am in grade school.
What gives? Any insight(s) would be profoundly helpful.
Thanks,
Paul
2007-03-25
09:17:12
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