Family & Relationships - 12 February 2007

For example: last time a babysat she came home to a little tiny mess and she freaked out and said your never babysitting for me again! and i was like OMG! and just now she wants me to babysit is she a good aunt?

2007-02-12 04:48:33 · 22 answers · asked by Logon S 1 in Family

My fiance is a worrier. A friend of ours thinks that when you get married your debts combine. I haven't got the greatest credit, and he's afraid that my creditors will go after him for what I owe after we marry, cause I do not have an income at the moment ( I'm pregnant and a stay at home mom right now ). He even mentioned having second thoughts of marrying me sooner because of this! I really need to know! I want to get married before our baby is born in Aug.

2007-02-12 04:48:04 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

hello , i am 20 not so much beauty but i am 186 cm tall and 84 kg weight, well i wanna have a girl friend , what should i do to get one , i am not a play boy i want a girl to marry with , i mean i don't want her just for sex i want some body for life how can i find that one ? with what behaviores can i attract these girls ? and how can i undrestand they want to be with me for life? (except asking them directly )

2007-02-12 04:47:09 · 8 answers · asked by pashi 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-02-12 04:46:39 · 8 answers · asked by sweetica 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Husband comes home,don't even bother to hug and kiss me. I am crying now, I don't see any more love and desire in his eyes and in his attitude. I slaved in the house taking care of the babies,3 a toddler and 2 babies,the house is spotless clean,his work clothes are well pressed,his dinner is gourmet,I don't even have time for myself to take a shower in 3 days,my hair is uncomb, I am in my nighty, why bother to change, no body sees me only my husband when he comes home and then to bed.He does not want to make love to me any more. What did I do wrong?

2007-02-12 04:46:24 · 10 answers · asked by Vannili 6 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-02-12 04:46:23 · 1 answers · asked by vmw222 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

My boyfriend continuously talks to other girls, and after I have told him how much I don't like it, he still does it. He e-mails them and texts them throughout the night. How should I handle this?

2007-02-12 04:45:19 · 9 answers · asked by tan_yuh4112 2 in Singles & Dating

My husband is 49 yrs old and is a recovering alcaholic/pot user he has been clean for more that 3yrs now, over the last year or so I have noticed some strange things, ie joinging chatrooms for people looking to hook up sexually, recently he has been chatting iwith a women online who only lives about 1hrs away, yesterday she sent him a very personal e-mail card thanking him for his wonerfreindship, she signed it with about 10 kisses. I confronted him but he said there was nothing to worry about she was someone he met online in passing and did not expect card like that, he did msn messager her telling her not to contact him again, but was that because I stood beside him and told him to do so??? what shoul I think

2007-02-12 04:44:45 · 4 answers · asked by topside 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Well, I want to do a strip tease for my boyfriend, but I honestly am terrible at those types of things! I think I would just make myself look like an idiot! I've been doing the Carmen Electra dvds and she actually teaches you a dance, so I don't think I'll be too bad at all... BUT... still, would you laugh at your partner if it was kind of... well, I guess funny... or would you still appreciate it?

2007-02-12 04:44:45 · 14 answers · asked by :-) 3 in Singles & Dating

Whenever me and my bf are done having sex, he claps his hands together and says "thats a wrap". Does anyone else have this problem ?

2007-02-12 04:43:25 · 13 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

My husband is 49 yrs old and is a recovering alcaholic/pot user he has been clean for more that 3yrs now, over the last year or so I have noticed some strange things, ie joinging chatrooms for people looking to hook up sexually, recently he has been chatting iwith a women online who only lives about 1hrs away, yesterday she sent him a very personal e-mail card thanking him for his wonerfreindship, she signed it with about 10 kisses. I confronted him but he said there was nothing to worry about she was someone he met online in passing and did not expect card like that, he did msn messager her telling her not to contact him again, but was that because I stood beside him and told him to do so??? what shoul I think

2007-02-12 04:42:45 · 8 answers · asked by topside 2 in Marriage & Divorce

has this ever happened to you?
it seems that these relationships work better when the couple is far away from each other...
what is in fault when the couple meets again in person?
what is this disguise and how can we REALLY free ourselves from it?

2007-02-12 04:42:00 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

He's in the Marines and not sure what he wants to do as to re-enlisting and has a not so good friend trying to convince him to change his mind about going to college instead and making somthing of his life and the not so good friend isnt going to college and has not plans for his life but to be a bum what do i do to get him to understand that he needs to go to college and make something of his life! thanks for your help

2007-02-12 04:41:59 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

last year my bf and i leased an apartment together. unfortunately, things aren't going the way i thought they would and we have split. well...i'm moving out and we have decided that our relationship (if there is one) will eventually work itself out. so that leaves me with the question...what is fair? i furnished the entire by myself. i bought our bed, couch, love seat, television, decorations and so on and so forth. but while i was purchasing all of these things, he was contributing to the house hold in other ways (i.e. picking up slack on the bills). is it fair for me to take all of the stuff (since i did pay for it)? i have already decided to leave the bed and linens...does he deserve everything else, too? i just need a little insight and an outsider's perspective. *serious comments only, please.*

2007-02-12 04:41:25 · 11 answers · asked by iPROMISE[♥] 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

My new beau is very handsome, smart, sweet and all you would want in a man. The only thng is that he is a member of about 15 different sites like myspace, cherry tap, etc...
He can not go a day without talking to these women, and actually sets aside time for them.
He has actually tried to make me go home before so he can talk to them.
He set up a 360 account with yahoo and made me his only friend (which I thought was silly) but, after saying he doesn't want any other girls he has started adding some. Does he have a problem?

2007-02-12 04:40:54 · 18 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

For some reason, I want to get married really early...like in my young teens...like around the age of 14. I don't know why, but I do. Whenever I write stories, it is always about a girl who runs away from an abusive dad and gets married to this guy she met and she is only 13...or it takes place like 150 years ago and this girl gets married to this guy and she is 13 and he is like, 21 or something. Why do I want to? I mean...I am 13 and I know I am still halfway a kid. But sometimes I think, "I wish I were married and had a family of my own." And I know all of you are going to say, "This girl must be crazy! Marriage isn't easy at all!" Well, I know it isn't. What can I do to fix this?

2007-02-12 04:40:54 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I went to my parents house friday night and stayed the night, intending to go up to their cabin with them all weekend & snowmobile. But, it didnt happen because I developed stomach problems and the ride is 2 1/2 hours. So I came home saturday morning and my boyfriend was already at work and he left his aim and yahoo messenger up. And this girl popped up on aim and it let me see the whole conversation. He called her sexy, said she had a nice *** & flirted a little. I told her who I really was and she told me that about a month ago he asked her to have sex. I confronted him later and he said he never asked that and the flirting was his way of complimenting her. Then yesterday I snooped through his old phone & two days after we started dating (going on 6 months) he was talking to an ex saying how he wanted her & her great bjs. I didnt confront him with this cuz it was so long ago. Does anyone have any advice/opinions or experience with this. He also said he would work on this&he loves

2007-02-12 04:40:40 · 14 answers · asked by michakitty87 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-02-12 04:39:58 · 9 answers · asked by sue i 1 in Marriage & Divorce

EVERYONE LOVES HIM....my parents, my friends, my relatives....He is wonderful, caring, trustworthy, hot, great job, gorgeous house, genuine, would be a great father.....I have always been in drama filled relationships and FINALLY decided to get out of it after 7 years and this has been my 1st non drama relationship. My ex still carries his torch in my head for some reason. I guess its cause our relationship ended with me in infatuation over a jerk and it has been very troublesome for me to forget about him every day.
I took a 6 month break and then met my new boyfriend. We clicked. We both wanted to get married to each other someday, have kids together, and live in our "now" house FOREVER.

One day my feelings clicked off. Honestly, I woke up one morning after we were dating for 3 months and had come to the conlusion that I didnt love him anymore. Since then I went on some anti-anxiety meds and my feelings have been up and down. Some days are awful while some are great. When we are out of town I dont think about anything and have a good time with him, BUT when we are at home I get all anxious and feel like I dont love him anymore...I dont know why but the smallest things he does annoy me and the next day everything could be fine. I just dont feel as romantic as I used to with him. I still enjoy having sex with him and spending time with him but feel as though something is missing or I dont love him anymore? I dont trust myself with this relationship. Please help, I hate hearing that I am not in love with him anymore...For some reason people re-assuring my love for him makes me feel better?!?!?
Are there any suggestions and/or any way I can make this work? I want him to be the father of my children and my husband and be happy with it!

2007-02-12 04:39:35 · 16 answers · asked by dawson190154 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

So a guy I like (He likes me to) has a sister that is in a local pageant, and he asked me to go. I'm not sure his mom really likes me or my family (long story) So anywho my question is what in the world do I wear to this thing? I asked him, and ya know..him being a guy was like..idk...Lol so. What should I wear? Would jeans be okay? I've searched it on the internet and can't find anything. Please. Any suggestions would be great.

2007-02-12 04:39:14 · 5 answers · asked by Katie 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

My husband blames me for everything that is wrong in our marriage and it's really putting a lot on my shoulders.
I'll be 31 tomorrow and I've been married to my husband since I have been 20. I became a mother at 21 and we were married before I was pregnant. This is my first marriage and my husband's second. The first marriage lasted 11 months and she cheated within the circle of friends after thinking he was doing it...
He is 33, works in construction, plays the drums obsessivly and golfs even when we can't afford it.
I am a stay at home mom of 3 girls ages 2, 6 and 10. All very smart, my oldest is in the gifted and talented despite being within a bad marriage.
My husband started drinking very heavy early in the marriage, within months, and with that came insults, nights gone and eventually his own group of friends. The put downs were almost instant and he would compare me to other men's wives in sexual ways. He also tends to always find the sleezy people to hang around. He is an attractive man but yet so dumb on many levels. I would never ever call him out on it, but sometimes having a conversation with him is like talking to my own children.
However, that being said, he is not book smart, but he is very skilled in his trade and he learns physical things quickly.
I like a challenge intellectually, but have deprived myself of such for 11 years now, and the only thing he will EVER talk to me about is his loves which are the drums and golf, both of which I have learned to love and know about in every aspect.
If I try to talk about my screenwriting or novel writing or show him a quilt I just made or a dress I just made he will not hear me...
Now he does eat my food and eat my baked goods without ignoring me... Go figure!
I also try to talk about the marriage and he gets mad and god forbid if I bring up intimacy, that is totally off limits! I mean, I have tried different approaches, like "let's discuss a fantasy", let's try this and that, and NOTHING!!!
He is addicted to porn and replaces me with it. I am SUPER clean and a sexy size 4 after having 3 kids and I like to look polished at all times.
I am talented, opinionated and intelligent and I am in no way materialistic, although he does say that I am because I feel we should be paying our bills, taking care of our health and dental needs and it would be wise to purchase a home instead of paying 1200 a month rent for another 10 years.
I pay our bills, I know what we have to work with and although everyone dreams, I am very realistic in what we can and can't afford.
For example... I feel I deserve a wedding ring, I felt I deserved him to celebrate our 10 year wedding anniversary this past January, and yet he says I am materialistic and want-want-want. PLEASE! Come look in my home, you'll see right away I am not materialistic, I just want our basic needs and a little extra would be nice, but I understand.
He on the other hand spends on golf, golf clubs, and drums and music stuff and xbox games... I spend on groceries, household items and needs and maybe an occasional movie from the used movie section.
His irresponsible ways and crappy bookkeeping now have him stuck with a 40K IRS bill, that is soley his.
And he just doesn't even care, he has an "OH, Well" additude...
So because of all this, I b*tch... I write list, I come up with plans and goals, and realistic ones at that...
Which is then classified as nagging to him.
Everything is nagging to him. If I ask him where he is working today?, That is nagging b/c he says "what are you my mommy?"
I ask for s*x and he says no... He also tells me that I am WEIRD b/c I want to be kissed and courted... HE DOES NOT DO THAT!
I've tried! He will not take me anywhere, unless we are driving to see his family, to whom he trashes me out to.
So for all this waiting on him to settle down crap, I got cheated on 5 years ago. He helped a co-worker who was also married move and he screwed her. I found out by hitting redial on the phone. He never came home. I packed the house, (we rented), had no money, begged this man to come back, and went to his family thinking they would help get him back, and they took me and the kids in but when he finally came back 2 months later from living with that woman, he was so mean to me. Told me in detail all about her... Then started telling me he was dating and he'd like to become a stripper. I was so understanding b/c I was so devestated. He brought that woman to my home, he took my kids around her. She had 3 kids taken away from her b/c she was a bad mom and had custody of a 4th child by yet another man. I mean this gal was putting on the I'm lonely act as her husband serevd our country in war. She was not even attractive, she just happend to be available to my husband.
Once he went to where we were, I borrowed money from my family to rent a place, 6 months after we split up... He was living elsewhere and only coming by to screw me.
I went to work doing accounting.
When I got my place, he moved in on day one.... He treated me like a dog, so 5 months later I left MY place with my kids and stayed w/ a girlfriend... Well within 3 days he had a single male roommate and even though I called him every day begging him to please just love me and make our family work, he would hang up on me.
This went on 9 months.
He finally asked me back, after I bought a new car BY MYSELF!!!
I thought things would get better and 3 out of 5 weren't bad days, but he started hanging around single men, and leaving me home more and more and the drinking was soooo bad.
And I remember calling him one weekend when he was off spending the night at his brothers and I needed formula for my 2 day old infant, he had our only car, my car, and I had no money and he kept hanging up on me. I fed that baby warm water for 18 hours he finally came home the next morning at 11am.
I had no breast milk due to problems I had during my pregnacy with my breast.
So I left again about a year ago, this time I went back to where the affair happened, where my family lives....
I RENTED this house, well actually my mom did... He went to live at his moms, and she let him be lazy and encouraged him to go to the bars.
I tried to move on, but begged him again to come up here. Eventually he did 2 months later... But during that 2 months, it would be days that I would hear from him...
I've been faithful by the way, but I cry a lot.
I get very angry when he igores me and have resulted in putting myself down, just like he does. He calls me repulsive, no man would ever want me, damaged goods and more.
I hate who I am and it sucks.
I know I am attractive because I am aware of the men looking at me, but when someone picks at you and picks and picks, it becomes routine and I have learned to accept it, but my heart aches so terribly because all I really want is my husband to love me, by that meaning forget about the past, and love each other for today and tomorrow based on new ideas and goals and making our 3 girls strong women.
I thought this is what he wanted to, but now all he cares about is being some sex god drummer with a bunch of groupies or on a golf course or hanging out with everyone but his wife. I mean I am home 24/7. I get NO break minus a trip to Walmart or the mall.
I want to be able to get dressed up, go out with my husband and come home in lust! Or load the kids up and take em to the park!
We only leave when he goes to his families to jam, or if one of his friends suggest something.
Now he did quit drinking a year ago, but he did just say yesterday, "You make me want to drink"...
I'm sick of hearing this, I'm sick of it being all my fault, and I'm sick of him rubbing it in my face that he provides the bread for this family and that should be enough, I mean he told me yesterday that he never gets me anything for my birthday because I am repulsive.
Why can't I leave him? Why can't I get through to him?
WE have great kids, and we COULD have a great marriage if he would just include me for once. I've always been on the back burner and his doormat. I mean he tells me that I am not his mommy when I ask about where he worked or what his plans are.
When am I included? He makes me so crazy, I cry uncontrollable, I yell when he calls me names, and I just can't take it anymore.
Why is he so decietful to me when I have been so true to him and accepted his every flaw and screw up? Why does he rub his flings in my face and make me feel less of a woman by not being remorseful? Not loving me and not caring how I feel b/c I want to much, a kiss is too much? I'm exausted.

2007-02-12 04:37:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Let's say you are staying about a five-minute-walk from the coast. Your boyfriend has gone out, late one night. During the small hours, you decide to go for a stroll along the beach. You find him skinny-dipping, in the distance, and his clothes are within your easy reach. Do you:

. Do nothing.
. Run off with his clothes, but bring them back, after giving him a nice fright.
. Run off with his clothes, go back, and leave him to walk home naked.
. Run off with his clothes, go back, leaving him to walk home naked, AND lock him out, for the ultimate joke.

2007-02-12 04:37:19 · 23 answers · asked by truffle_girl_2007 1 in Friends

as a relationship

2007-02-12 04:37:06 · 10 answers · asked by lisa b 1 in Singles & Dating

Anyone out there in the state of Indiana know what a person needs to do to get their child support modified? My bf has a 22 yr old, and an 18 yr (18 yr old has his own apartment, and he is still paying child support. We have tried checking online, and have even contacted the courthouse, but cannot seem to get an answer. I moved here from Cincinnati, and in the state of Ohio, I believe the amount is automatically reduced when a child becomes emancipated. What's the deal in Indiana?

2007-02-12 04:36:45 · 4 answers · asked by Starlight 4 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-02-12 04:35:58 · 1 answers · asked by femme fatale 1 in Singles & Dating

You ran into your ex and you gained 40 pounds?

2007-02-12 04:35:47 · 10 answers · asked by alex77055 3 in Singles & Dating

And don't just use him for money and security.

2007-02-12 04:35:21 · 10 answers · asked by Monkey Boy 3 in Singles & Dating

if your boyfriend takes you to this nice fancy restrant and you eat dinner hold hands talk about how you love each other and when you get back in the car with him he puts his hand down my pants and does a little somthing to my p***y later on we went to a drive in movie and we watch a movie and he starts to kiss me and he does the same thing he did in the car
Is that normal? (we have been togther for 3 months)

2007-02-12 04:35:15 · 7 answers · asked by shortybam 1 in Singles & Dating

i m 20th jan 85'born on 22:10 hours my luck line is very poor i have to struggle a lot for even small things

2007-02-12 04:35:08 · 11 answers · asked by anku arora 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

my wife cheated on me about 3 months ago and im very confused and in need of support or words of wisdom from any on who has gone through this
will it get better? im in love with her will i forgive her?she loves me will she ever get past what she has done?what are the chances it will work out?

2007-02-12 04:35:06 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce