Husband comes home,don't even bother to hug and kiss me. I am crying now, I don't see any more love and desire in his eyes and in his attitude. I slaved in the house taking care of the babies,3 a toddler and 2 babies,the house is spotless clean,his work clothes are well pressed,his dinner is gourmet,I don't even have time for myself to take a shower in 3 days,my hair is uncomb, I am in my nighty, why bother to change, no body sees me only my husband when he comes home and then to bed.He does not want to make love to me any more. What did I do wrong?
2007-02-12 04:46:24 · 10 answers · asked by Vannili 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to take care of yourself and love yourself before you can expect anyone else to love you. If you get up and shower, comb your hair and dress yourself you will feel a little better. I know how you feel, but I work full time on top of all that.
2007-02-12 04:54:02 · answer #1 · answered by baby girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't do anything wrong. My best friend is going through the very same thing. Men always want more or something different that what they have. They do not realize that being a stay at home mom is a really tough job. It has no set start time and no set end time. That it isn't easy to be the nanny, financial planner, teacher, maid, and chef all at the same time. Not to mention finding time to play with your children to give them the time they need. And if ever you find a spare second in the day you never get the chance to spend it on yourself. I would say try talking to your husband. See if you can really make him listen and hear what you are saying. If you can't get his attention then you have to decide to remain there and be taken for granted for the rest of your life. Or if it is time to put yourself and your needs first. I do not think I could live out my life happily if I knew that I was always going to be taken for granted. Hope everything works out for you.
2007-02-12 13:02:11 · answer #2 · answered by navy wife 1996 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl i agree with every one that have left their opinion
I know it most be very sad from you doing alot of things around the house and not feeling the attention that you deserve from the person whom you love but spike you flame up mamma
yes you have the kids and is busy but take time off take a shower and fix yourself up. I'll bet you your husband well give you all the attention that you need remember men goes to work comes home hungry and atleast espect to see there wife fix a little not looking like trash or nasyt looking that will not turn them on at all.
So if you leave the kids with someone you trust and get yourself fixed i gaurantee you being happy and him enjoy you alot best wishes
2007-02-12 13:04:25 · answer #3 · answered by mary o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry you feel so unloved but this needs to stop you did not take vows to be a slave and you really need to start taking care of yourself alot more stop worrying about the house so much and instead of gourmet dinners try dominoes and you need to step up and tell him enough he needs to start respecting you as a mother, a wife,and a person after all you do not have batteries installed in you but i also feel if your going to be a doormat you will get stepped on you need to stand up and demand more from this relationship or your going to end up hating him and it could end up in divorce stop it before it's to late and good luck
2007-02-12 13:04:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You became Alice... the Maid. No longer the wife. Take action. Do something for you! Send the Kids to the Grandparents, fix your self up, and get to know your husband again.
If that does not work, start asking questions. Don't hide any more!
2007-02-12 12:54:07 · answer #5 · answered by kris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have not done anything wrong with him but what you have done with you is let yourself get away and you need to get yourself back. Start each and everyday with you time (even if its 10 minutes),reach out to your family/friends and see if they can watch the kids for a few hours a couple days a week so you can get things done in a less stressful way.Talk to your husband also and let him know how you feel . Let him watch the kids while you do somethings for yourself.I hope things get better for you but remember only you can make it happen.
2007-02-12 12:58:04 · answer #6 · answered by HummerBabemv 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This sucks for you lady. You are so busy taking care of your babies that you became the "frumpy housewife". I applaud you for putting your kids first.
However, make sure you take care of yourself too. You might have to have a friend or relative come over and help you with your kids so that you can do so meting for yourself.
And of course, make sure to keep looking smoking hot for your husband.
2007-02-12 13:05:02 · answer #7 · answered by Billy Bob D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Millie, I am sorry to hear that you are so miserable. Your husband does not realize what a wonderful wife he has. He obviously only sees you as a mother, cook, and maid. You need to talk to him and let him know how you feel. Tell him that he makes you feel undesirable. Tell him that you want to feel like his wife/lover again and you miss the intimacy that you both once shared.
2007-02-12 12:53:37 · answer #8 · answered by Harry Taco 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well--- you've said it...." don't even have time for myself to take a shower in 3 days,my hair is uncomb".... Be sexy for him, wear sexy clothes...put perfume.... Suprised him... !!!!
2007-02-12 12:52:13 · answer #9 · answered by L!LO 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
although u take care of the children , him and your household..u gotta take care of yourself too! make sure ur fresh, make sure ur hair is done and last but not least talk to him about it!!!
2007-02-12 12:52:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋