For example: last time a babysat she came home to a little tiny mess and she freaked out and said your never babysitting for me again! and i was like OMG! and just now she wants me to babysit is she a good aunt?
2007-02-12 04:48:33 · 22 answers · asked by Logon S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Well, I think that you should let her know you are a little worried about whether or not you can handle it...
I think it is fair to let her know how you feel...that is your aunt...and she should still respect you...not only as a niece...but as a person...you have feelings to...
Put the ball back in her court by letting her know how you feel...then she will make the decision for you...by saying sorry...or by saying o.k....I'll find someone to do it....
2007-02-12 04:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by LIFECOACH 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She's giving you two messages here, babysit/no don't! Does she pay you? If she does and you want the money and can put up with her antics, then babysit. If you're doing it just as a favor, then don't babysit. Is she a good aunt? Well that depends on the total picture, not just babysitting. Do you like her? Does she do what she tells you she's going to? Can you talk with her? All those things make a good aunt. Something else you should remember, you're watching her children, they're looking up to you, have them help clean up the messes, it will help them out and keep you in your aunt's good graces. Best of luck to you.
2007-02-12 12:58:10 · answer #2 · answered by kisinabrit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your babysitting experiences with your aunt are a constantly negative experience, then you ought not babysit for her anymore.
Have you spoken to your parents about your concerns? Do they understand how your aunt has made you feel in the past and why you're unwilling to accept that kind of treatment again?
2007-02-12 12:55:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont think she is a bad aunt. maybe she is a neat freak. if you do babysit for her again, make sure to clean up any mess that was made before you leave. and if you do go back, i would talk to her about it. ask her if its ok to have the toys/games out, that way, if they are still out when she gets back, you can say that you asked her and she replied that it was fine. again, make sure to pick them up. hopefully this is the only mess you are leaving?? if you and the baby are old enough, why dont you ask her to bring the baby over to your house instead. then she cant yell about a mess, because it will be in your house instead.
2007-02-12 12:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by Breesy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its not that she's not a good aunt. She's probably just a little too house proud or something. Tell her honestly that you dont mind babysitting but if she's going to get angry everytime then you wont do it anymore. Simple as that. If you dont speak up it'll just keep going on.
2007-02-12 13:09:00 · answer #5 · answered by littleminnie1000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's desperate. Or, she might want you to have the chance to develop your experience (heck, not on my kid, tho).
You can give it another chance if you want, but if you you decide it's not worth the stress, tell her something like this: "I kinda' want to, but I think I need to wait 'till I'm a better sitter, I'm not keeping it together that well yet." This way it sounds like you are the reason you won't sit, not her - it helps her 'save face' and not look like the reason for your refusal (which will be good for you in the long run, keeps her from getting attitude about you).
2007-02-12 12:56:40 · answer #6 · answered by Zeera 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. She's neither a good aunt, nor a nice one. If she wants you to sit again - just remind her of last time. "Oh, sorry. You said you never wanted me to sit again.". As for a tiny mess - who cares? As long as her kids are safe and sound - THAT is what you're getting paid for!
2007-02-12 12:53:08 · answer #7 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may just be old fashioned and expects her house to be properly cleaned up when the babysitter's there. Also she might be afraid you've allowed the children to do something they're not normally allowed to do.
Try just picking up after you and the kids when you babysit, that's not asking too much from a family member.
2007-02-12 12:52:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe to you it was a little tiny mess, but to her it was something else to add to the to-do list. I don't think that she is a bad aunt, or that you are a bad niece, but perhaps a middle ground might be good.
The next time she asks you to b-sit, remind her that "last time didn't seem to go so well for either of us, so maybe it is better that you find someone more in line with your desires."
2007-02-12 12:52:26 · answer #9 · answered by Shredded Cottage Cheese 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps remind her of the fact (nicely of course) that she didn't want you to babysit any more due to the small mess that you didn't have time to clean up, last time.
Maybe let her know you don't mind helping her out but if she could please tell you what is and isn't expected of you...it might assist you in doing a very good job for her and staying within her expectations.
Otherwise...decline if you feel you should and you could let her know that due to last time, you don't feel that you are living up to her expectations and you don't wish to disappoint her or yourself :) Honey vs vinegar (nice talk vs aggressive talk) gets you further almost every time ;)
Good luck
2007-02-12 12:54:08 · answer #10 · answered by dustiiart 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋