has this ever happened to you?
it seems that these relationships work better when the couple is far away from each other...
what is in fault when the couple meets again in person?
what is this disguise and how can we REALLY free ourselves from it?
2007-02-12 04:42:00 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
words....dont come easy...
2007-02-12 05:16:48 · update #1
Lol...
The problem with long distance relationship is that you end up idealising your partner. Some flaws that would be a big issue when you live together become but a tiny speck of dust in a long distance relationship, while a good trait that would not be THAT big of a deal in real life get inflated to be THE thing in LDR.
In the end, instead of the real person, you fall in love with this idealisation of a person. Since this person's ideal, of course the real one won't ever be able to catch up with your image. That's why when you guys meet again, there's this disappointment, possibly even resentment that will emerge. This, in turn, will ruin the relationship if it's not good to begin with.
How do you free yourselves from it? Well, it's human nature to fill in the blank, and this very nature is what makes you idealise a person in their absence. There's no real way of freeing yourselves from it other than, well... not be in a long distance relationship... Perhaps try to see each other every week or so just to keep your image grounded to the real person?
2007-02-12 04:52:06 · answer #1 · answered by babyLemon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are certain aspects of the relationship that don't have to be addressed when you are long disance. But when you actually meet in person, you have to deal with a physical relationship, planning get togethers and whatnot, and just generally getting on one anothers nerves.
It is a lot better to hide emotions when you are long distance so that your partner only sees the nice side that you show them...
2007-02-12 12:47:16 · answer #2 · answered by peliglad 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this has always happened to me.
In a way it does work better when you are away from that person but in another way it isnt.
When you're always with that one person it gets a lil boring lets admit, but when you or the other person leave on vaca. or something you guys have a break in a way and are able to breath,
so when that person comes back its like they've beeen gone for ever when its really only been a week or two.
you understand what I'm trying to get at here?
lol
2007-02-12 12:46:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiancee works out of town and is gone for weeks at a time. We have a phone relationship. I get into my own routine of things when he's gone. When he comes home, it's hard to adjust to him being there because he feels like a stranger at first. By the time we get comfortable with each other again it's time for him to leave. Long distance relationships are very hard. When he comes home we have to relearn each other again. It takes alot of work, and alot of communication.
2007-02-12 13:10:59 · answer #4 · answered by fungirl 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some people are just odd, couples are no exception. If it's a usual relationship, couples lean on each other for support with issues, however, put lots of distance between them, and they have to stand on their own two feet for a while. Does this explain anything of your question?
2007-02-12 12:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by Cory W 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋