Family & Relationships - 1 February 2007

My boyfriend and I dated for 4 years in college, and we are about to graduate. He is going to get a 2 year master's and I will be going to medical school for 4 years. I wanted to get married in between these transition stages, AKA this fall-- but he has a bunch of guys that are getting men's housing together, kind of like a frat except not affiliated with anything. He thinks it would be fun and beneficial for him to live a year with these guys before getting married, and build better relationships with them and all...

I feel conflicted. Should I give him this year that he wants, and maybe more? Should I give him as long as he wants before getting married? Or do I have a say in when I want to get married? Please help.

2007-02-01 01:23:34 · 24 answers · asked by reba 1 in Weddings

My fiance loves being dominated and ordered to do things to please his mistress.

Please have you any ideas or instructions i can give him?

We are not into pain just light whipping and some bonage. I get him to perform sexual favours for me or tie up my over knee boots which take forever.

I have also got him to undress me and dress me in sexy pvc outfits. I have restrained him and teased him sexually and took advantage of him. I also order him not to speak without permission and he gets whipped if he disobeys his mistress.

Please serious answers only!!!

2007-02-01 01:23:24 · 17 answers · asked by Sandie 4 in Singles & Dating

and when should it be done? after high school? after college?

2007-02-01 01:22:01 · 19 answers · asked by i totally agree with you!! not 3 in Singles & Dating

well my ex-bf wants me to go back with him but i have another boyfriend that am starting to like more then just like but my ex-bf keep reminding me things about the past but i dont know what to tell my ex-bf to get lost

2007-02-01 01:21:58 · 13 answers · asked by AnGeLiTa_YeLy 1 in Friends

I have been with my bf for about 5 months...the first 3 months were honestly OUT OF THIS WORLD. I couldnt get enough of him and I still cant. It has moved VERY quickly and we are now living with each other and he talks about marriage often. But for the past 2 months I have been questioning my feelings about him (I am a hypocondriac and worry about a lot of irrelevant stuff) I still love spending time with him, having sex with him, trust him, like doing nice things for him. I would rather spend my time with him rather than my friends.

This relationship is my 1st non dramatic one. It is very healthy and alot of romance involved. Everyone says that I look very happy when I am with him. That said I am not jealous of him and I trust him 100%. I have never trusted anyone before in my life and I question if the only reason I am not jealous and I trust him must be cause I dont care if he is with another woman? My past relationship involved an extent of emotional abuse and brainwashing. I'm not one of those woman that doesnt think I deserve to be treated nicely. I do think I should be but it is almost like I get turned off with the "niceness." My ex and I broke up about 1.5 year ago but he still sometimes creeps into my mind during the hard times. I would never even consider talking to him again but I dream about him off and on and that makes me upset.

I feel as though I dont love my current boyfriend unconditionally. I think he is very attractive. Am I only with him for his looks and the materialism? He is definetely a good guy, genuine, honest, trustworthy, humourous but I dont feel like I appreciate that about him. In my past relationship I always had this gut feeling that things were gonna work out for the 2 of us but obviously didnt for abusive issues. Now in this relationship I dont know if he is the one. I want him to be but I feel as though I dont feel as strongly for him as I did my ex...

Sorry about the long question...any suggestions?

2007-02-01 01:21:33 · 5 answers · asked by dawson190154 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

i love her, she loves me, and we know we wanna get married. im not dumb about it though, lol. I know in this day in age i need to be financially secure. now im only 22 and so is she, so besides the obvious, can i get an opinion about how i should handle our situation?

kinda looking for a guidline as to steps i should take, i wanna do this right,,

thanks

2007-02-01 01:21:01 · 27 answers · asked by Anthony C 6 in Marriage & Divorce

As a man looking at a womon wearing a tight corset, it looks so sexy.
So why don't women wear them?

2007-02-01 01:20:30 · 13 answers · asked by loadsofgoesatthis 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-02-01 01:20:16 · 13 answers · asked by mini m 1 in Singles & Dating

My ex just told me that she would love to be my friend but that's all. Is there any chance at all that this could change. I was thinking of doing what I did to get her in the first place, but i don't think she NEEDS me like she did then (almost a year ago). She's more independent, and has more money. SO is there ANY chance she could change her mind, or is this female's mind made up...for good?

2007-02-01 01:19:46 · 3 answers · asked by ConfusedGuy 1 in Singles & Dating

what if I really really wish to see him everyday? Is it a good idea to call? or should I try to suppress my feelings?

2007-02-01 01:18:54 · 23 answers · asked by coconutCake 1 in Singles & Dating

i broke up with my bf and after i heard that he cried and was punching the walls. last night at church i began to think maybe i should have not done that. because i really dont know why i left him. i think its maybe because others say that they could never see me with a person like him, and i was only thinking about myself. i want to know how can i apolize to him and we get back together. because i really wasnt thinking yeasterday. he is a very nice person, he just doesnt have the looks.

2007-02-01 01:17:28 · 19 answers · asked by jbunny 1 in Singles & Dating

The parent is not using the child support to finance their house needs, but is using it for there personal needs and HABITS. The parent is also living with their family so they have no mortgage, rent, bills etc. Also the parent has a well paying job, but is just covering their income to collect food stamps. Then sells the food stamps for cash to support drug habit. Then all in all, the other parent goes to court about the back child support, and asks if it can go to the child to help the child now since she is moved out. The judge said no and that the other parent needs the back support because she is struggling. The parent that is using these advantages, had wrote a note to the judge saying that she can't pay for the bills..... What is your thoughts on this sensitive subject about child support?

2007-02-01 01:17:12 · 15 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family

I saw where a person asked why some ppl can't lighten up on here? why they answer so seriously?
Many ppl come here with questions & answers some are totally outragious and some ppl are full of hurt.
You can feel their pain & I have read where ppl replied & were total jerks about it.
Some of us come here to be serious & not to play games or screw with peoples emotions. I was offended by this question.
To me this is a place to come for help or to give help. I realize to some it's a playground & I dont even look at those questions but it ticks me off when they arent intelligent enough to reply to a serious question ..yet feel the need to anyway.
so my question is Am I the only one here who sees these peoples pain????? Am I the only 1 taking it seriously?

2007-02-01 01:16:38 · 6 answers · asked by earthangel_candy 4 in Family

If you could magically give your wife a trait that she would always and forever have, and it would never change or go away, what would it be? This is assuming all her other traits could/might change.

Women, same question.

2007-02-01 01:15:59 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

I am 16 and i live with my dad in michigan and i am wondering what age can i be to move in with my mom who lives in Indaina.

2007-02-01 01:14:16 · 22 answers · asked by homedog52 1 in Family

have my dress...at the moment, its wrapped up in a sheet then a bag on top of my parents wardrobe (so I don't keep tryintg it on!)....whats the best way to preserve it until the day?

2007-02-01 01:14:08 · 22 answers · asked by Mrs Stevo 2 in Weddings

yesterday i was in my french lesson at college. i have two teachers for the lesson of french. yesterday the younger of the two (39 years old) came in and they began speaking in very rapid french which i could not quite understand. however, i managed to gather that the older teacher was congratulating her about something and the younger one was saying she needed someone to cover her lesson on friday like she was going out to somewhere out of school. i do not know what this means?? could she be going for promotion at another school, is she pregnant and going for a scan?? what do you think???

2007-02-01 01:13:58 · 15 answers · asked by francesca s 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-02-01 01:13:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-02-01 01:12:09 · 35 answers · asked by LuLu 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Baghdad, a cricket match, or in my bed?

2007-02-01 01:12:06 · 25 answers · asked by ? 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-02-01 01:12:04 · 6 answers · asked by muppet 4 in Singles & Dating

There is this guy I really like. The first two times I called him, he talked to me a lot. Then after his father passed away, I called him two more times he said that he was busy and he wanted me to call him back later. So does that mean he doesn't like me back?

2007-02-01 01:11:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2007-02-01 01:10:54 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

he always gives me pecks.
he hugs me so close that are cheeks touch
he tries to make me luagh
when he is talkingto me he come so close in a way that if you were looking from a distance, it will look like we were kissing.
i always thought thats its kinda a friend thing

2007-02-01 01:08:45 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

to be serious about it i am feeling like i dont knwo what to do in this marriage i know that yoru husband should love on you and you back to him but it seems as this is a one way street and i am getting so tired of trying to make things work i need a husband not a room mate my annv is tommorow and he will not even coem close to me for notting at all not even a kiss yes i read the last page saying he may have health problems ,if that was it i wish he would talk to me i am still young and i need to know so i can surport him and help him get to doctors and we can talk it out i am trying to stay faithful cause i love him but all the rejection is really doin something to me i feel a difference in me i am also feeling that numbness in my self towards him i just dont knwo any more we both are young in our 30"s and we walk around the house like old people and i know some old folks that love to kiss and hug and do things together.we just eat and sleep and talk and watch t.v what a life.

2007-02-01 01:08:15 · 8 answers · asked by BROKEN AND BEAUTFUL 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Just when i think im getting over my ex, and settling with my new boyfriend, why does my ex, who never normally thinks about or contacts me text me sayin he misses me etc...making al those emotions come right back to the surface! my new boyfriend is lovely, but how do i stop thinking about me ex?

2007-02-01 01:06:57 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

My big brother is homeless so I allowed him to stay with me for a couple of weeks until he can figure out what to do. I was really uncomfortable about it because he is a big lier and a thief but I did not want to see him in the streets, especially because it is so cold outside. I had a talk with him and told him how I felt about him stealing from me and putting my name in situations that had nothing to do with me in the past, and asked him not to do it again and he agreed not to, but I still kept a good eye on him. So far he has not stolen anything from me, but yesterday, he called me on my cell and told me that if his boyfriend ask me if I bought him some things to say yes and then the call dropped so I did not respond. When his boyfriend called me, I told him the truth because I felt disrespected by him using my name and I am not a lier. I tried to call him all evening to see if he was coming over for the night but he would not answer. At 11:00pm, I called and he answered, and I asked him if he had somewhere to stay for the night because I had to get up at 4:00am and I was tired. I told him that from now on, he needs to make it his business to let me know if he is coming so that I will not be waiting up for nothing, and after 9:30pm, I was no longer going to let him in because I don't want him in and out at all times during the night. He said that he was not coming but he will see me in the morning. At 1:22am, my phone kept ringing and woke me out of my sleep. After his 7th time calling, I decided to answer the phone to set him straight because I was upset. He instantly started cursing me out because he was fighting with his boyfriend at the time because of what I told him. He said that he trusted me and I betrayed him. Because my 2 kids were sleep and it was so late, I did not feel like raising my voice and disturbing my household so I just hung up. Do you think I was wrong for telling and what should I do about my brother?

2007-02-01 01:05:51 · 21 answers · asked by Lady Tee 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-02-01 01:05:49 · 13 answers · asked by whitney B 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

Everything started out great. We started as friends through another friend. We talked for a few weeks 'till i went to a few dances with her. Keep in mind that we live 30 miles apart. We started going out and it was great. We talked alot and got to know each other very well. We went to movies together and to her church a few times. Then in the beginning of this year things started to change. We got into more arguments over little stuff and the connection started to loosen. I started to notice that i was changing in my attitude.I started to say stuff that i didn't mean and then one night she says she's going to break up with me. We talked and she sayed that we might have a chance. Then a few nights later she says she's going to break up with me again. I convinced her not to for now. What I am asking is what should I do to gain her trust back and put us back to where we were before all this started?

2007-02-01 01:05:32 · 1 answers · asked by Grant 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

My boyfriend and I dated for 4 years in college, and we are about to graduate. He is going to get a 2 year master's and I will be going to medical school for 4 years. I wanted to get married in between these transition stages, AKA this fall-- but he has a bunch of guys that are getting men's housing together, kind of like a frat except not affiliated with anything. He thinks it would be fun and beneficial for him to live a year with these guys before getting married, and get closer to them and all...

I feel conflicted. Should I give him this year that he wants, and maybe more? Should I give him as long as he wants before getting married? Or do I have a say in when I want to get married? Please help.

2007-02-01 01:05:17 · 10 answers · asked by reba 1 in Marriage & Divorce