i broke up with my bf and after i heard that he cried and was punching the walls. last night at church i began to think maybe i should have not done that. because i really dont know why i left him. i think its maybe because others say that they could never see me with a person like him, and i was only thinking about myself. i want to know how can i apolize to him and we get back together. because i really wasnt thinking yeasterday. he is a very nice person, he just doesnt have the looks.
2007-02-01 01:17:28 · 19 answers · asked by jbunny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you judge based on looks it's better you stay out of relationships.
2007-02-01 01:21:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do go back with him, what would you really be doing it for? So he won't hurt? So you won't feel guilty? You need to find out.
So, why would you listen to what those others have said? That's a big choice you made based on THEIR opinions.
I cannot understand the emphasis on his looks. I don't wish to be rude, but that seems rather shallow.
Imagine if you were blind. You would only be able to go on how the person was, right? Whether nice to be with or a pain to be around. And you would choose the nice, right?
I hope you can see what I'm trying to get at here.
2007-02-01 09:27:45 · answer #2 · answered by Jed 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn't sound like you should get back with him, your feelings of guilt won't help the relationship at all, and feeling sorry for him is no reason to get back with him. It appears you listen to what people think, rather than to how you feel, so a relationship with him wouldn't work anyway. You need to become strong minded, and learn to think for yourself, and not care about what other people think or say, only then, can you have a meaningful relationship with another person.
2007-02-01 09:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by grandm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, clearly you should have put more thought into before talking to him yesterday. If you honestly want to get back together with him for the RIGHT reasons just talk to him. However, if you just feel bad now and are going to change your mind in a few weeks and break it off again I'd say don't do it just to make him feel better now.
2007-02-01 09:22:07 · answer #4 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my! He seems very immature for starters. Striking out like that after a break up....that's a red flag honey. So you don't have a concrete reason for breaking up with him...you don't need one AND you certainly don't owe him a solid explanation. For one thing, you aren't that attracted to him, but I think your gut was pulling you away. On some level you just don't click. That's OK. You shouldn't settle. You did the right thing. Now you just need to stand behind your decision. Respect yourself and your decision. There's someone better out there for sure!
2007-02-01 09:23:56 · answer #5 · answered by spiritual.rollercoaster 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks arent everything. If I had a dollar for everytime one of my girlfriends friends said, "Girl, you can do better." I'd be a rich man. Follow and I mean always follow what you want to do in relationships and not what your fam and friends want. Because in the end its your life. How do you apologize and get him back? Well, its e z.... just apologize and get him back.. str8 up. Be good.
2007-02-01 09:21:24 · answer #6 · answered by Asianfmle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks aren't everything its what inside that counts, when 2 people get married they don't marry becuase of the way each other looks because peoples looks do change with age they marry them because of the way they are,, the way they think, the feelings they have Shame on You, how would you feel if your ex had the looks and you didn't and he did what you did to him?
2007-02-01 09:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by Mary O 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if everything was ok and you only cut off because of your friends loose talks its better to get back together , because his look is important only for others and in first days
never forget that his look gives you an advantage : Good for you ,he's not attractive for the other girls so you can be happy together forever :)
"Good Luck "
2007-02-01 09:42:16 · answer #8 · answered by Farzaneh H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You listened to someone and dumped him? its wrong. So you made the mistake and you have to learn a hard way. You need to talk to him how much you make mistake. Truth always is a must. It might be hurt him a bit but as long you tell him the truth. LOOKS ARE NO MATTER!
2007-02-01 09:21:12 · answer #9 · answered by MissGal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well listen to me now,i'm a 52 year old woman so i know a few things about guys and red flags ok?If he punches wall when he gets mad thats a big red flag that he has a temper problem ok?
I would not go back with him and you should'nt either!
2007-02-01 10:13:06 · answer #10 · answered by prettywomen512 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋