Family & Relationships - 21 January 2007

okay so my ex *charlie is good friends with my boyfriend *sam. so charlie told sam that I had sex with him within the first two weeks... which is a COMPLETE LIE. I NEVER even had sex with him and yet sam believes him because they are good friends. sam doesnt think its a bad thing or anything but i don't care! i do, it really bothers me that he can lie like that and get away with it. what do i do and how can i show sam that its not true?

*names have been changed

2007-01-21 13:36:56 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

1.) The girl I like sits next to me in a number of classes. She knows I like her. Whenever I want to say something to her I can't becuase I'm so nervous. I blush whenever we make eye contact. What can I do to make myself less nervous around her. 2.) My friends are always picking on me cause I like her, they're always like "You two make a good couple" and etc. It doesn't bother me, but it's getting annoying and I don't want the girl to be offended. So, what should I tell my friends?

2007-01-21 13:36:04 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Well, I got into an argument with my friend...
SO, the question is... how long are you supposed to wait before having sex with your partner?

I told my friend, there was no such thing as having sex on the first meeting (after you're officially boyfriend and girlfriend) for a classy lady or a gentleman, unless you're meeting a sl4t or a mofo...

So what do you think?
To me probably about 3 months because you really want to know the person you are with before you jump the boat...
And... smart person need to find out whether or not their partner has std...
And I believed that sex is the expression of love not lust... don't you think?

2007-01-21 13:35:28 · 22 answers · asked by Jimmy the Cricket 3 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-21 13:35:26 · 2 answers · asked by Drzomg 1 in Singles & Dating

Sorry if i sound noobish, please dont flame me for this

2007-01-21 13:35:14 · 4 answers · asked by remmus2k 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-21 13:34:22 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

when i go to work and then icall him he lies about where he is at itsl like i can tell hes lying. to me.

2007-01-21 13:33:46 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

2007-01-21 13:33:35 · 21 answers · asked by counterculturalist 3 in Singles & Dating

Cell Phones, Online Chating, not knowing your neighbor. You can walk down the street or a hallway and people would be talking to everyone but EACHOTHER. Is only talking to people you know being social or Anti-social?

2007-01-21 13:33:34 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

most of what i've seen is so frowsy (matronly) looking! i'd like something classy, elegant. any ideas would be appreciated.

2007-01-21 13:33:30 · 13 answers · asked by annenymous 2 in Weddings

Hi, I have two young boys (4 and 1) but I am not happy with their father. I feel as if I should stay because he is their father but he makes me unhappy, he's lazy, he drinks and he doesn't give me the love and affection that I am starting to crave. He doesn't seem to realise that there is a problem because everytime I ask him to do something, he changes for a month or two then it's back to normal again. HI want out but I'm scared of starting again. Of how hard it will be for my kids. How hard it will be to move. How do I let go? How do I move on? HOW DO I TELL HIM I DON'T LOVE HIM ANYMORE???????????????????????... To be honest, if we didn't have kids together, I wouldn't be with him.I think that if I'm happy, my kids will be happy. We aren't married. I don't want child support just want myself and my kids to be happy. He's been caught drink driving while on suspension for drink driving. When I want to go out I stress so that I don't enjoy myself but it's the opposite for him. HELP ME?

2007-01-21 13:33:03 · 23 answers · asked by tamarasykes1980 1 in Marriage & Divorce

who never did drugs or anything of that sort and who was romantic and knew how to truly love someone for who they are and not their looks?

2007-01-21 13:32:59 · 12 answers · asked by Tidus 2 in Singles & Dating

I haven't even started dating him yet, but I will soon, I can feel it. I love him already but when should I tell him so? And should I panic if he doesn't say it back?

2007-01-21 13:32:51 · 6 answers · asked by Kali 2 in Singles & Dating

my boyfriend brandens phone is off probly bc his mom didnt pay the bill and his birthday is tomorrow and weve been together for 2 weeks and i havent talked to him for a week and he gose to a diff school and his moms a class A b*** and if his best friend trys to pick him up so we can all meet up some were his mom says no! well i hope his phone gets turned on but what can i do i miss him so bad and i wanna say i love you but i dont know how... stupid eh? but w/e well please help!

-livie the half emo kid

2007-01-21 13:32:35 · 3 answers · asked by livie the 1/2 emo kid 1 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-21 13:32:26 · 13 answers · asked by crazymofo 4 in Singles & Dating

What happens if one person wants a divorce and da other partner doesnt want one?

2007-01-21 13:32:02 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Ok so i want to ask something, heres some backstory:
There is this whore-lets call her V- & her family I didnt want my bf to hang out with cuz I am not allowed to hang out with guys, but also cuz everytime i was there her dad would say how he should be with her and not me, and that made me pissed.
so I asked him for daze to stay away from her house. and he finally (reluctantly and with much struggle) gave up and did.
Ok- here i had a friend-lets call her S- for 4 yrs and me and my bf had some problemz b 4 and were on a break, and me and S went to a party and he got all jelous and drove to my town and called her tons of times to try and find where it waz and she didnt tell him so he drove for hours lookin for it, but gave up eventually and went home. He still holds taht against her
we worked it out, and one of the agreements was that He promised to take me back if I didnt hang out with her, so for a while i didnt, But now i want to.
everytime I ask if I can, he cuts me off for a week and gets all pissed and says "well i gave up V for you, so why are u hanging out with S?"
But I think that giving up V makes up for me not being friends with guys, not for me not being friends with S, and that pisses me off because I miss S so much.
DAmn, so my question is what should I do about this? Is there a way that I can change his mind? S already apologized (pretty damn sincirely) and he basically said she was full of BS. How can I get him to let me hang out with who I want?
Also- V might be in one of our classes in college. And we might be giving V a ride to school- which will lead to us all hanging out. Ugh.
plz help.

2007-01-21 13:31:22 · 8 answers · asked by metalstefl 3 in Singles & Dating

I broke up with my boyfriend because he broke my heart 6 months ago. I have done everything to move on with my life. i kept myself busy, got involve in activities, go out with friends and even try dating again but i can't seem to get my ex out of my head and the pain he cause me. I truely love this man but i want to get over him and move on with my life. Can someone give me some advice. Thanks!!!

2007-01-21 13:31:14 · 15 answers · asked by marshboo 1 in Singles & Dating

My bf dumped me and it was harsh for no good reason at all....on CHRISTMAS. Now hes hooking up with a girl who was my friend.
He says he is still physically attracted to me
While we went out he said he loves how small i was (5'2, 110 lbs) because hes a football/bball player and liked to pick me up alot.
He says he still thinks I'm hot and I think it's perfect because now I'm 101 lbs and his other girl is pretty big.
Honestly, I'm not trying to stop eating, I LOVE eating..I just really have had zero appetite lately and and impulse to go running. Last night when he saw me he scooped me up and tried to start kissing me (he was drunk) and said "Holy sh** I can feel your ribs. Why did I dump you!?" I pushed him away and laughed at him.

Why am I not hungry? I'm not trying to get thin but now I'm seeing maybe its a good way to get back at him because he REALLY tore me apart. I loved him and was very good to him...and now I have lost 2 friends thanks to him. Is this a good way?

2007-01-21 13:30:52 · 5 answers · asked by susie q 2 in Singles & Dating

A few months ago when my boyfriend and i were sitting together, my boyfriends mate asked us when were going to "tie the knot".Nick(my boyfriend)said that it won't be for a while because he doesn't want to get married until he is around 30(cause he wants to enjoy his single life before he commits into anything as serious as marraige).
Later on in the day when we were alone i asked him if he was serious about not wanting to get married until he was 30 and he said yeah.Because of whats in( ) ^-^
After he said that he went quiet and seemed to think about what he just said for a while.But didn't say anything.
The next day (randomly)he asked "why...when did you want to get married" we weren't even talking about that.
I told him that ive always dreamed about having my wedding when i was around 25.
He then went quiet again and thought about it.We haven't really talked about it since.
I'm almost 15 and Nick is almost 19.I know i'm way too young to be thinking about marraige.

2007-01-21 13:30:25 · 12 answers · asked by Bootsy 3 in Singles & Dating

I am so confused. My X and I have been split for a little bit. She is dating another guy and a few months ago we talked about getting together, but she had just started to see him. I know she just dated him because she was lonely, and he treated her nice. I was kind of mad that she would not end things so we could get back together, but I understand, because I actually left her a few years ago for someone else. I was young and dumb. But I have changed and feel like she is who I am supposed to be with. I decided to give her her time, and that was two months ago. Well she has started calling me saying she just is not happy, ya know the same old, How she likes him, but she is in love with me. Would I be a fool to take her back? We dated from when I was 19 until i was 23. and on and off untill now(25). I am just really really confused. I can tell she wants to come back,....

2007-01-21 13:29:37 · 8 answers · asked by ucfmanic 2 in Singles & Dating

i feel sick to my stomach when i think of my boy friend. i really like him but im the kind of person who cant deal with people talking behind my back. he is so sweet but a little nerdy. im not goin to break up wit him but i just need to know wat to do to calm my nerves.

2007-01-21 13:29:32 · 10 answers · asked by binky 2 in Singles & Dating

My mom doesn't want me dating until I'm 16 1/2 cause that's when she started dating. But I don't think that's fair cause he rmom se tthat rule, why should my mom follow the same rule, doesn't she trust me enough or does she not want me to date?
Can someone give me advice on how I can convince my mom to let me date when I turn 16?

2007-01-21 13:29:09 · 10 answers · asked by PookieLipz 2 in Singles & Dating

She adamantly refuses to any sort of making out, and she only wants to put her head on my shoulder everytime we hang out...what do I do?

2007-01-21 13:29:05 · 14 answers · asked by Johnny 1 in Singles & Dating

aaahhh! i have no idea what to do-again. why is my life sooo hard? i want to DIE. ohmygoshhh. he proposed!! that's right- the guy who'd i'd been with for 3 weeks, now 4. and i love him to death with all my heart. so soon you ask? no, i love him. absolutely no question about it honest to goodness LOVE. but i thought things were going a bit too fast for me, i'd just moved to NYC not too long ago... and i ididn't have a job or permanent living. then he proposed during dinner- BEFORE i had a chance to tell him how i felt things were too fast! then i told him. he said, "well you can live with me, you won't need a job because my income will support both of us". i love him. i do... but i don't know. 4 weeks? isn't that a bit INSANE?? i don't know. i really don't. i need some really good advice. because i'm torn. i love him. but do i want to do this, and so fast??? oooh please please help meeeee!

2007-01-21 13:28:52 · 23 answers · asked by hawaii_chick 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I am really depressed, but my husband has done some stuff to me to scar me emotionally. We are still together and I just think that seeing a theripist would help me a little bit. I am afraid that if we ever go to court and end up having a cutody battle that he might try to use that against me...can he? I am sane...very sane, just really hurt!

2007-01-21 13:28:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

when is the time to stop!

2007-01-21 13:27:18 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

not married. its our 1 year next thursday. i was gonna get her a pot wiht a seed in it and i note that says our love will flurlish like our love. but any other small ideas or just aynthing at all

2007-01-21 13:26:35 · 2 answers · asked by diabetescole 2 in Singles & Dating

my fiance and i got engaged wehn we were pretty young (16/17) and my parents have completely ignored the fact that we are engaged. we have decided on a date for our wedding 2009 when we willl be a year away from finishing college. i want to tell my family, my whole family, not just my parents but i am hesitant to do so because i don't want to upset my parents. we were going to around Christmas time, but i decided not to since my parents weren't informed ahead of time. how should we go about telling them? and are there any ideas on getting my parents (mostly my mom, ok, just my mom) to stop saying things that suggest i will not be marrying my fiance? she does this a lot (like whenever anything related to marriage/future/children/etc) and it hurts for her to brush off something that she knows is already there. we even took our parents out to dinner when we originally told them and they still act as if we aren't engaged!!! any ideas would be much appreciated.

2007-01-21 13:26:28 · 14 answers · asked by Duelen 4 in Weddings

ok been happily married 16 yrs to a great guy who is very sweet,loving,affectionate,kind and very good to me anyways last january 1 night when hubby went down to the local small store in our town phone rang was a girl she ask if ronny was home and when i said no who is this she hung up on me immediately well i question him for a few months and he said over and over he didnt know anything about the call and i totally believe him cause he would never cheat or give another girl his number..i just find it intereresting to see what other people think of this and would other married women believe their husband in this situation

2007-01-21 13:26:26 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce