A few months ago when my boyfriend and i were sitting together, my boyfriends mate asked us when were going to "tie the knot".Nick(my boyfriend)said that it won't be for a while because he doesn't want to get married until he is around 30(cause he wants to enjoy his single life before he commits into anything as serious as marraige).
Later on in the day when we were alone i asked him if he was serious about not wanting to get married until he was 30 and he said yeah.Because of whats in( ) ^-^
After he said that he went quiet and seemed to think about what he just said for a while.But didn't say anything.
The next day (randomly)he asked "why...when did you want to get married" we weren't even talking about that.
I told him that ive always dreamed about having my wedding when i was around 25.
He then went quiet again and thought about it.We haven't really talked about it since.
I'm almost 15 and Nick is almost 19.I know i'm way too young to be thinking about marraige.
2007-01-21 13:30:25 · 12 answers · asked by Bootsy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But doesn't every girl dream about that?
I just wanted to know if you think he is commited.We've been together for 8 months and love eachother so much.We are best friends.And i want to spend the rest of my life with HIM.Do you think he is commited?
2007-01-21 13:33:26 · update #1
If he said that and then stuck by his statement, chances are that things won't be getting any more serious if at all between you two.
You're only 15, you shouldn't tie yourself down to someone who doesn't share the same views as you.
Honey, 8 months is NOT a long time in reality.
2007-01-21 13:33:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
1.) It's technically illegal to be dating someone as old as he is.
2.) If he were that into you, he'd want to marry you.
3.) You're right, you're too young to be thinking about marriage. I'm 23 and know that I've got a ways to go before I'm ready to be married (plus I still have to find my future hubby).
4.) You're 15, and take it from someone that's 8 years older: You haven't met all the people you're ever going to meet. How on earth can you know that of all the people you've met in your 15 years, and all the people that you will EVER meet, that he's it for you? I was in a relationship for 2 1/2 years when I was 19-21 and thought this guy was it for me, but finally woke up one day and realized that he didn't love me, want me or need me (his silence on the phone when I asked him if he did was enough). I thought he was it for me. I'm 23, single, and happy. I know I won't be married by 25, but that's okay with me--just before 30 :)
You've got a lot of life to live kiddo, just enjoy it and let it happen.
2007-01-21 13:34:33 · answer #2 · answered by GLSigma3 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Considering the fact that you're only 15 you haven't experienced enough to know that he's even the "one" for you. I think you should let things flow for now and wait to see what's going to happen. He's young now so of course his mind frame is going to be that he wants to enjoy the single life. That could change earlier than 30 yrs old or even later. You can't really put a time frame on things like that. Based on what you said I think that he is committed to you but maybe not as seriously as you are to him...
2007-01-21 13:39:04 · answer #3 · answered by Ladee D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are BOTH way too young to be even TALKING marriage. Marriage is for life. It's not a decision you make at that age. He might be comitted - but to marriage? Highly unlikely! It takes grown MEN years before they feel ready to sign up for life. I highly doubt he is anywhere close to ready to even consider that. You have a very long life ahead of you. Just focus on being bf/gf and have fun. Then if you are still together in 5, 6 years talk about it then. And 8 months is NOT long! It takes that long to plan a vacation - not a lifetime together!
Good luck
2007-01-21 13:35:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
He picked 30 years old for marriage for the same reason you picked 25 years old. Marriage requires a great deal of maturity and you both have picked an age when you feel you will be able to handle it all.
2007-01-21 13:44:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Way too young get a job, buy a house first that takes time and you have lots of it and how do you know where you will be in ten years.
2007-01-21 13:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by lara 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
from what you wrote he seems to be saying whats acceptable in front of his friends. then when you questioned him later he seemed hesitant either way. you two are young and only 8 months into this love business..............i dont see it lasting but that doesnt mean it cant happen. i advise not to get too tied up in this relationship.
2007-01-21 13:44:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are. Parents don't need to be married, just involved with the child. You have a great turn-of-phrase. You should write more.
2007-01-21 13:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Relax it will come with time.
You are both in the right time frame for each other.
Good Luck
2007-01-21 13:33:58 · answer #9 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
forget about your ?.what is a 19 yearold doing with a 15
year old? by the time u reach your goal age he'll be the age he wants.
2007-01-21 13:37:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋