Family & Relationships - 10 January 2007

My sister is single, 34, works a dead-end job, lives with the father of her ex, gaining weight, drives an old car given to her by her ex, is very opinionated and yet cries her eyes out because she cannot find someone who wants to marry her. She goes for the preppy upscale kind of guys, but is unable to find another guy.

That's not the problem. She simply will not leave me alone with her criticisms. I am younger, stay in my own place, have 2 brand new cars, 2 degrees married, fit, and have a great job. Still, she won't lay off about an answering machine. I have told her repeatedly, nicely, that I don't want one. Finally, I let her have it and was very much to the point about her direction in life. Needless to say, this has caused a rift between us.

To make up, I have offered her my free funding for my master's and would help her make ends meet to go to school. What do you think she should do?

2007-01-10 07:13:43 · 7 answers · asked by Thegustaffa 6 in Family

She started asking what I meant by 'if I dated her, it would be serious' in my email. She also asked in what ways she sent messages that she liked me, and she made weird excuses for several of my reasons. She said she only wanted to be friends, and she thought we could share a 'good friendship' at the end. What does she want? I need to know!

2007-01-10 07:13:33 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

we tell you what we want, you do it. we hav a problem with something, you take care of it. and what we say goes, any comments

2007-01-10 07:13:12 · 15 answers · asked by Hopie 1 in Singles & Dating

I was completely in love with my bf, and he broke my heart. Now he wants me back. There's just something not there anymore. Maybe because I am still angry with him, I'm not sure, but will i ever get that feeling back?

2007-01-10 07:12:42 · 1 answers · asked by precious 3 in Singles & Dating

I'm open to talking about being safe and careful. I'm aware she's an adult and it's her (healthy) choice to be sexually active (or not) but it's not my business and I DON'T want to think about it. Today we had a fight. She wanted to borrow my credit card to order fancy underwear online (She reimburses me with a check when she borrows the CC) I said no. I may be old but to me the only reason for fancy underwear is for someone to see it, which I DON"T want to know or think about it. She's mad. She says I'm insinuating she's a sl_t, yada yada. She says she has a right to want to look nice if a date becomes more. I told her to buy the underwear on her own -- I don't want to hear about it. My mother sure has never known if I have sexy underwear. It's my credit card so I can chose when to lend it but my question is not about the CC. It's involving me with the underwear and my wanting to be ignorant to her sex life.

2007-01-10 07:12:24 · 3 answers · asked by Karrose 5 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-10 07:12:06 · 11 answers · asked by xoxbabexoxox 2 in Singles & Dating

could he leave you all of a sudden? you've been friends/dating for about 5 months n then all of a sudden he tells me he loves me. We're both over 20 so no we're not a coupla teenagers!

2007-01-10 07:11:09 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I CAn't understand why my *** stinks sooo much!!!

2007-01-10 07:09:51 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

What do people think about having sex while a girl is on her period? My personal opinion is that it is disgusting. But my bf and I's 3 year anniversary is tomorrow and I just started my period yesturday, should I forget about being on my period and go for it or stick to my gut instinct and don't?

2007-01-10 07:09:48 · 41 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Im not desperate for one no, but I'd love to just be with someone thats not in for just sex.
Although I dont mind having sex once in awhile.
However when I'm with someone, or like someone and we're pretty close to doing something sexual I freak out.
I swear I have the concious of God.
Yes, a good way to resolve this problem is to not do it at all, but is there something else I can do to ease the nervousness while still pleasing myself and the person Im with?

2007-01-10 07:09:26 · 8 answers · asked by Stephanie_ is_ bomb. 3 in Singles & Dating

ok so me and my grilfriend have been broken up a little over a month and at the beginning we would talk but thats it it then just this weekend we went to dinner and just talked everything out but still arent together so i asked her to a show but she said her and her sister were gonna go see but i told her that i had put the tix on hold and so she said well since u did that yea i will go with you we talked today and she says that she doesnt believe ive changed and that its too soon and she told me to let it go and stop trying so hard and go day by day and the reason we broke up is because i lied to her.Ladies do you believe that im just slowly brekaing her wall down does it look good that we are going to get back together i need help

2007-01-10 07:09:22 · 4 answers · asked by footballplaya263 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband and i met in college which was fun we had a blast.Now we have been married just about three years and i am turning 24 everything seems to be going down hill very fast for some reason.Financially we are fine living very comfortably but still hubby finds something wrong with everything and anything?We have a daughter who is turning 2 yrs old and my uncle who is turning 16 who lives with us.Neither child causes too many problems really my uncle keeps to him self really or babysits for my daughter which is a huge help.Both me and my hubby work but i only work part time.He thinks i am being lazy!and that my house keeping skills are terrible when really he never helps out and i consider my cleaning fair at least.My husband also never wants to talk about anything anymore, he makes decisions without consulting me he bought a Camaro that he crashed!All of a sudden he wants to stay out with the boys all night?No longer intrested in sex?

2007-01-10 07:08:31 · 18 answers · asked by Nicole S 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2007-01-10 07:08:11 · 19 answers · asked by TAI 1 in Singles & Dating

My b/f and I have been dating for 2 months now and we are really a good match. I find myself to be a bad person, but he says I am not- however, I decided to change this and my New Year's Resolution was to be a better Christian, meaning that I would want to save my virginity until marriage or until I know it is the right time. I am not going to back down from this and I am not considering doing that at all, but after I brought it up to him, all of a sudden he's talking about marriage. That doesn't necassarily means that that is what he wants, is it? Is there really a chance he does want to marry me? We've only kissed once and we always cuddle, and he says so much nice things about me that I doubt this fact, but I just need help backing it up, seeing that i have a mental illness [bpd] that gets the best of me almost everytime...

please help! any info would be nice to have... thanx!

2007-01-10 07:08:09 · 6 answers · asked by Lozer [[RawrRawrHerbivore]] 2 in Singles & Dating

If you had a teenage party at your home and some kids left drunk (you didnt really know they were drunk or didnt see them leave) and were killed in an accident, and the poilce asked you what your kid was doing and you knew they were drinking, would you turn them in? I mean, would you be totally honest about the party?

2007-01-10 07:07:11 · 24 answers · asked by yp_veronica_chicago 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

She is the wife of my hubby's friend. I got married a year ago and met her soon after. Almost immediately she started to exhibit signs of extreme jealousy and competitiveness. Before our marriage my hubby would eat at their place often and it seems she could not bear to cut off her apron strings to him. She wasnt happy he was engaged to me.
She quickly redecorated her place to get an exact living room set like ours (complete with potpourri and other misc items I had arranged) (we were setting up our place then), beat me to hosting a dinner I was planning for our common friends that i told her about, lied that my husband used to flirt with a girl at her flat before marriage, barged into my kitchen and criticised my ginger tea and my cooking in general, claims stronger ties of friendship to my in-laws and hubby's friends than she actually has, bought the exact clothes, shades and other things from stores where I shop, to top it off, is boastful, manipulative and plays mind games!

2007-01-10 07:07:00 · 17 answers · asked by RealChic 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

I cannot stand my bothers sister. Everytime my mother & her get together they have to talk about my life. I am in my 30's who's about to be married. I live with my mother now to help her out financialy. Ever since I can remember my mother & my aunt always talk about everything going on in my life. I didn't want to discuss my wedding plans with her. When my aunt & mom get together they totally humiliate me & disrespct me. They treat me like I am a little kid. My mother is always on her side. I found out that my uncle my moms brother & his family is visiting us this weekend. Now my mothers sister & her husband also want to come. The thing is my fiance is out of town. So I have no one to be on my side when they put me down. My plan was to do some cleaning & organize my stuff. Now I can't do that. Because mom wants to cook them lunch. When they visit they stay all day. They will ask me about my personal life. How do I deal with these people? Mom will yell at me in front them.

2007-01-10 07:06:59 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

I really care for him, I just don't see us moving in the same direction. I tell him about it all the time, He just looks at me and says nothing. I feel trapped and settling.

2007-01-10 07:06:41 · 10 answers · asked by eragin 1 in Singles & Dating

When you are in love with someone, do you tell it that person?

2007-01-10 07:06:29 · 26 answers · asked by Emile D 2 in Singles & Dating

2007-01-10 07:06:24 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

three years ago i was suffering through epilepsy...i was as immature as a madman...i wud laugh in public like mad...my actions were more or less those of a madman

three years ago...a developed a liking for her...as part of a game i wrote 'i luv u' on paper and gave it to her

eversince... we havent crossed each odr's path...she avoided me coz she hated me...i avoided her coz she wud be troubled if i approach her and i did ot want to trouble her

now i have changed...but she is the same old girl that i like...never seen a girl like her in these years

NOW I HAVE CHANGED

i just want to b her friend
but she wont change her mind

please help

2007-01-10 07:06:11 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my husband is obsessed with me playing with his... ummm... well i dont know what yahoo will take out... so he is obsessed with me playing with his butt. he like me to tongue him, finger him, use strap ons... and so much more stuff. we've been married for 3 years and we've always had a great sex life... but now that we've started trying new stuff he's always coming up with new kinky things to do. what's wrong with him? is there something wrong with him?? or is there something wrong with me cause i'm not open about it? please help

2007-01-10 07:05:38 · 29 answers · asked by Sarah 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My boyfriend left monday for 6-months deployment. It take s4 weeks for a package to get to him. I am going to put together a package for v-day soon for him. I need to ides of what to send him. They don't have much room to put things and any items have to be non-perishable. Thanks.

2007-01-10 07:04:52 · 11 answers · asked by afitchchic 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2007-01-10 07:04:15 · 23 answers · asked by Vig 2 in Singles & Dating

I can understand big issues but every little thing, you don't need to know it. I can't figure out why it's so freaking important?

2007-01-10 07:04:13 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I just got an e-mail with the subject--"online user Yahoo violation detected"---when you open the e-mail they treathen you with closing your yahoo account unless you open the atteched document --my inti virus software detected this virus---W32.mytob.EU@mm --soooo be very carefull if you get this e-mail donot open tet attachment that comes with it...good luck ..

2007-01-10 07:03:20 · 13 answers · asked by sapito 4 in Singles & Dating

valintines is next month and i have no man to share it with and i am from santa paula 805 and i want to look for a valitines to share it with so hit me up if u live in cali or near the 805 here is my email christinaspgirl@yahoo.com

2007-01-10 07:03:13 · 4 answers · asked by santa paula gurl 2 in Singles & Dating

Heres the scoop. I want my big sister to be in my wedding as my MOH- and she has graciously agreed to be that person (not like i expected anything else though- she is an awesome sister). Problem is that my sister has cerebral palsy and cant stand up for long periods of time. She hasnt mentioned anything about it being a problem, but i know if i ask her to stand for that long it would hurt her.

Would it be a tacky thing to have the bridal party up there with us until after the first prayer is read and then have them sit until the service is over? I want her to be a part of it so bad, and i am not sure how to accomodate her, or to make it seem obvious that there is a problem if she has to sit before others. What is your opinion? I know she would never ask me for special accomodations- thats why i just want to have them in place beforehand.

2007-01-10 07:03:07 · 16 answers · asked by glorymomof3 6 in Weddings

or do you like to teach them yourselves? Explain why...please. thank you all.

2007-01-10 07:02:58 · 8 answers · asked by Boricua Born 5 in Singles & Dating

..blocking the guy you love everytime he tries to show you he loves you? I just dont know why I keep doing that! How do I stop this? Is ther anybody out there dealing with the same issue? I dont want him to give up on me!

2007-01-10 07:02:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating