..blocking the guy you love everytime he tries to show you he loves you? I just dont know why I keep doing that! How do I stop this? Is ther anybody out there dealing with the same issue? I dont want him to give up on me!
2007-01-10 07:02:19 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should go to a therapist and find out what the underlying issue is and work to resolve it. It might be some sort of fear of abandonment brought on in childhood that prevents you from allowing yourself to get close. Whatever it is, a good counselor will help you identify the issue and work with you to resolve it. I recommend counseling because I've been through it myself. It took trial and error to find the right counselor, but it sure did help me once I did.
2007-01-10 07:07:11 · answer #1 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You probbaly have your defenses up becacuse you may have been burned in the past and it probably isn't easy for you to let someone in. I've had similar mishaps myself and wished I wouldn't have been so blocking. This will take time. You should talk with the person you love and lem him know that you feel for him and to take it slow with you and if you don't give a certain reaction to something he has done not to take it the wrong way and that it may take time for you to over come the blocking phase. Just keep trying. And maybe trying things that show affection back to him. I'm sure that if you have a talk and he loves you he will understand and you won't lose him.
2007-01-10 15:09:49 · answer #2 · answered by Cammy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really love him, maybe seek some counseling to talk and see if it leads to why you are doing this. There has to be an underlying reason. Are your parents married or divorced? It can be out of fear sometimes. It feels wonderful to deal with issues and move forward in life. I wish you the best.
2007-01-10 15:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are emotionally unavaiable to this guy right now because you do not feel worthy of love. You need to search your heart and find out where this wounded started and deal with it. Since deep on your heart you feel that you are not worthy of love and you do not love yourself, you can't possibly imagine why anyone, especially him would love you? But you are worthy of love. Look over your life and find when it all started - the self-loathing. Pray and ask God to help you to see you as he sees you. To see and know how much God loves you, so that you will be able to learn to love yourself and in so allowing and accepting a man's love.
2007-01-10 15:07:17 · answer #4 · answered by fancyface1 l 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do you mean blocking? What do you mean "show" he loves you? Are you talking about a man getting physical and you don't want him to, or are you talking about a person being nice and you reject him?
Your first step is to find out why you're doing it. He can't fix you- you have to deal with it, either by therapy or self-help books, or talking it over in counseling.
2007-01-10 15:06:13 · answer #5 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Oh although you might not think it you are really quite lucky to love someone and have them love you back! The guy I really like (maybe love) will never and would never (sigh) love or even like me back (sigh again) Think about that and next time you see him let your self just melt into his eyes and tell him you love him. Maybe you can have one of those romantic kissing-in-the-middle-of-a-place-with-people-all-around-you scenes But you won't care 'cause your with the man you love and O.K. that probably won't happen but you can tell him you love him and if he really loves you he will forgive you for not telling him sooner.
2007-01-10 15:12:27 · answer #6 · answered by purplechick888 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont let him show you his love maybe you dont feel about him the way you thought you did. IF you do love him you need to tune up and get your head out of your ***. If you keep this up your going to be single before the next month or two.
2007-01-10 15:07:23 · answer #7 · answered by Danielle 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
before you say anything think about it...i mean..he WILL stop trying if you keep showing no interest..talk to him..or show some interest in him! come on girl! dont let him go
2007-01-10 15:05:26 · answer #8 · answered by RiRi 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Try to act like n ething that went bad never happen n it will go back 2 normal.
2007-01-10 15:05:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Are you ashamed of him for some reason?
Do you care about him?
Answer honestly, that's probably the problem.
2007-01-10 15:05:15 · answer #10 · answered by texas tornado 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋