My b/f and I have been dating for 2 months now and we are really a good match. I find myself to be a bad person, but he says I am not- however, I decided to change this and my New Year's Resolution was to be a better Christian, meaning that I would want to save my virginity until marriage or until I know it is the right time. I am not going to back down from this and I am not considering doing that at all, but after I brought it up to him, all of a sudden he's talking about marriage. That doesn't necassarily means that that is what he wants, is it? Is there really a chance he does want to marry me? We've only kissed once and we always cuddle, and he says so much nice things about me that I doubt this fact, but I just need help backing it up, seeing that i have a mental illness [bpd] that gets the best of me almost everytime...
please help! any info would be nice to have... thanx!
2007-01-10 07:08:09 · 6 answers · asked by Lozer [[RawrRawrHerbivore]] 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be strong in willpower and save your virginity until marriage, but don't get married until you are sure of who you are as a person, you are close to accomplishing most of your education goals, and you have some sort of stable income.
2007-01-10 07:19:58 · answer #1 · answered by CPDawg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1st) Well DONE!!! If there were more women like you the bad guys would had to change their ways as well, which in turn would make this world a much better place. Congrats on you wanting to become a stronger Christian and I assure you your life will change in ways you never thought possible. Mail me for more info on how to see this happen.
2nd) Two months really is a little bit quick to talk about that, BUT I do know a couple that knew each other for 9 days when he popped the question and they are happy as they come.
3rd) What you do is quite simple. Stick to your plan to keep from sleeping with someone before the big day. If this guy is for real, he will respect your decision and respect you as a person even more for making this decision and sticking to it. If he is just after one thing, you will very soon see this, and then you send him on his way.
4th) It is also possible that this guy is so in love with the new you and has so much respect for you that he really wants to be with you for the rest of your life, but dont let this come in between you and your decision by thinking you are going to be his forever anyway, why not just do it now.
2007-01-10 07:21:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I m not sure, i dont understand fundamentalist christians. My gf said she wanted to save her virginity til marriage...i said OK. after almost a year, she was sending signals that she could not go on with that plan. so we did it. gbye virginity.
Probably if a keep insisting she would never accept but the fact that i was ok with that cause her to wanting it.
weird stuff
2007-01-10 07:14:34 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He just wants sex. Trust me. He might want to marry you eventually though. Don't give in and keep your resolution. If he loves you that much he'll either wait a long time or move on.
2007-01-10 07:13:47 · answer #4 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is just confuzed about the virginity thing. u need to make sure he knows it has nothing to do to him. rt now, he thinks that ur doing it all b/c u dont like him.
he isn't thinking about marrige, he just wants to make sure ur not leaving him.
just, go make out w/ him- and he'll forget bout how he has to marry u b4 he gets any
2007-01-10 07:20:17 · answer #5 · answered by neverland22 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really loves him....marry to him
2007-01-10 07:14:01 · answer #6 · answered by J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋