my husband is obsessed with me playing with his... ummm... well i dont know what yahoo will take out... so he is obsessed with me playing with his butt. he like me to tongue him, finger him, use strap ons... and so much more stuff. we've been married for 3 years and we've always had a great sex life... but now that we've started trying new stuff he's always coming up with new kinky things to do. what's wrong with him? is there something wrong with him?? or is there something wrong with me cause i'm not open about it? please help
2007-01-10 07:05:38 · 29 answers · asked by Sarah 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im 21 and he's 38. there is no way he can be gay... trust me
2007-01-10 07:13:14 · update #1
I have dated a couple of guys who play around with the idea but in the end (LOL) we usually just play around with the idea.
I guess I would feel a little uncomfortable with being kind of pressed into doing it. I have the opposite problem-my bf is obssessed with anal, but I fear that big thing and the damage it can do. As one of my best girlfriends says, "I want to be able to hold my sh*t in when I am 80".
I guess I would ask him if it feels good or if he does it because of other reasons...
2007-01-10 07:16:47 · answer #1 · answered by cici 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, Sweetie, you are fine. From experience, you don't want to try EVERY sex position there is so soon. You may want to save some for later, so that the two of you won't become bored. But, and however, your husband may very well be GAY. He wants you to do too much to his ***. That is not a very good sign. Any time a man wants sexual things done to his anus, he is gay. I can see every now and then, getting a little freaky with new things to make the both of you feel good. But, his appetite for butt freakiness is abnormal for a straight, married man. Does he do freaky things to you? Please be careful with him, talk with him about your feelings about this. All the while, you better be ready to get rid of him. Good Luck, Best Wishes!
2007-01-10 07:28:49 · answer #2 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well...bonus for him to get kinky with you instead of with someone else. and i have got to say.. men and women's anal area is built the same and does have some sexual endings to it. if you aren't interested, it's fine. it doesn't make you a bad person. has he played with you analy? did it feel good? because he wants that same pleasure. and if he did you right, then you can understand why he wants you to do him. work your way up to it if your willing. if not, let him know. you may just need time to adjust to the idea. and no, this does not make him gay. somewhere along the line gay men have great sex. and there is no reason why that same sex life cannot be shared with a husband and wife.
2007-01-10 07:14:11 · answer #3 · answered by Bella 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not think there is anything wrong with experimenting. However if something makes you uncomfortable, you should let him know. There is nothing wrong with him for wanting to try some kinky things, and there is nothing wrong with you for not wanting to try certain things. I would still be open to new things, as long as you do not feel pressured to do so. Just talk to him about it if something makes you feel uncomfortable. I am sure there are plenty of other things you could try to keep things new and exciting.
2007-01-10 07:14:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jaybo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit down and explain to your husband that while you are open to experimenting you have a limit. Let him know that all the frills are just toppings and a not a whole meal, that you don't always want to do the extra stuff. If he can't understand your needs and willing to compromise then the two of you will not last.
2007-01-10 07:40:45 · answer #5 · answered by Nicole the Makeup Artist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both on different "pages" of the same book.
He is just a faster reader.
You may consider pleasuring yourself through anal stimulation. Try it and you may like it. If not the first time, perhaps the second. And I'm not necessarily talking about penetration. The anus area is like a Grand Central Station of nerve endings. People who won't touch themselves there, because they think it is "dirty", are "dirty" people.
To the pure, all things are pure.
2007-01-12 13:32:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree that he's not gay.
Trying new things are par for the course in marriage, so with that being said he probably went with the anal thing, and saw that you were willing and now threw all the additional fetishes he has.
Some food for thought though: the anus is packed with nerve endings so the sensation is high, also if you do finger him, his prostate gland is like your G-spot.
Try asking him to do something for you.
Best wishes-
2007-01-10 07:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by Floss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, there is nothing wrong with you. He's your husband and you want to satisfy him in anyway. However, if this type of sex make you feel uncomfortable, stop having it. Tell him why? Are we all on the same page? Do you think your husband is gay, and afraid to tell you? Are you afraid to ask? Do not be. Ask him, and if he is deal with it.
2007-01-10 07:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i believe before you get married, you should discuss sexual preferences, hangups and other issues like that. I personally don't agree with participating in anal sex, or anything anal for that matter, but it is something that should be discussed. If there is something that you don't like to do or have done to you, it should be honored, and the same goes for you husband, if you try something and your spouse doesn't like it, to bad, move on to something else.
2007-01-10 07:43:34 · answer #9 · answered by Special K 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be honest with him about how you feel. If he can not deal with it he will make the next move. There is nothing wrong with you if you don't share his fantasy, and there is not nessarily anything wrong with him. It is just that the two of you have to talk and come to an agreement. I wish you well with this.
2007-01-10 07:25:16 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋