Family & Relationships - 7 December 2006

So I play the fantasy role play with my guy, we have an awesome sex life. But why does he have to take it just that bit too far. He goes out with his best mate and gets hammered, then he decides to suggest that his best mate should do me, not once but repeated phone calls. In his mates ear shot. Now I play along with the most exciting of fantasies, and in the right circumstances would play, but a little too close for comfort. Said once, could be taken in jest, but to repeatedly say something, especially when we are out for dinner on Saturday night with his best mate and mrs!! My bf does not see anything wrong with it, but it made me feel a little trashy. I am of the opinion that what happens between the sheets stays between the sheets, I do not wish the entire network of friends to know my fantasies, and certainly would not want to act them out with them. And this is not the first time a situation like this has happened, to the reverse when I was out with a friend of mine!!

2006-12-07 22:05:23 · 7 answers · asked by Girl of Spirit 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

What do MEN finf Romantic ??

When it comes to romance, guys get a bad rap. But men can be just as romantic as women, though they often express it in different ways.

1. Compliments. The quickest path to a man's heart is through his ego. "The other day, my lady told me she thought I was sexy. That was so cool! I'd never heard that before and it blew me away!" says a schoolteacher from Chicago. A political consultant from Washington, D.C. agrees: "The most romantic thing in the world is for you to be in awe of your man's skills -- whether it's his ability to make people laugh, perform at sports, fix things, or retrieve and display esoteric knowledge. Let him wow you," he says.

2. Dark chocolate. "Milk chocolate is for kids. Dark chocolate is for lovers," says Weinstein, who explains that dark chocolate has a higher percentage of cocoa, which means it has more phenylethylamine, a chemical that mimics the feeling you have when you're in love.

3. Hard-to-find gifts. Is his college sweatshirt so faded you can't decipher the name of his alma mater? Is he mourning the loss of a rare comic book that his mother threw away when he left home? Does he collect antique hood ornaments? Webb says that a gift that requires some effort is sure to be a big hit with your guy. "Men and women tend to express love differently. Women are usually the more nurturing types and tend to think of romance in terms of 'soft touches' while men express love in more practical ways," says Webb.

4. You, in his clothes. "Come to the dinner table wearing nothing but his button-down dress shirt. Now that's romance!" says an artist from Boston.

5. Funny movies. "A lot of people say that shared values or goals are what make a relationship work," says Weinstein. "But to me it's a shared sense of humor. If you like the Marx Brothers and your date doesn't, then it's simply not going to work," he says. "When you can find someone to laugh with, then you know you're really connecting."

6. A great memory. A picture really does paint a thousand words -- especially if it's of the two of you tanned and glowing at a beachside resort. "I went to my girlfriend's office and saw that she had a picture of us on vacation in Cancun," says a Seattle construction worker. "Little things like that just make you feel great."

7. An old-fashioned night on the town. A publisher in New York says that he isn't a huge romantic, but he admits that the rotating dance floor at the Rainbow Room makes him pretty gooey. "You're surrounded by well-dressed couples of all ages who know how to dance. This gives the effect of being in a romantic movie about old New York. Plus, it's a little disorienting with all that spinning around, which puts you in a dreamlike state," he says.

8. Tall buildings. Because in general guys just like big stuff. But also because taking in such a huge view can put life into perspective. "The tremendous view of the city with all its lights is not only awesome in its own right, but accentuates the essential smallness of the individual person," says a Chicago attorney. "Thus humbled, it is most comforting to realize, at that instant, you're not alone in the world."

9. Surprise intimacy. Whether it's an unexpected kiss or an afternoon jaunt to the bedroom, men swoon when women say "Come hither." "We like surprises -- like when you initiate sex at odd times, or rent a room in the middle of the day. We also like beaches, bed-and-breakfasts, and when you squeeze our thigh at a snooty dinner party. Oh, and baths. We like bubble baths," says a writer from New York.

10. P.S. I love you. They may not always admit it, but many men report that they love getting affectionate little notes. "I particularly like finding a note in my suitcase when unpacking on a business trip," says an executive from Dallas. Weinstein agrees. He loves getting a surprise note or email with an affectionate message, and says that a "p.s." increases the charm. "There's something about the p.s. that people respond to. It reminds us of when we were at camp and our mom wrote. P.S. I love you, or the note our high-school sweetheart stuffed into our locker."

2006-12-07 22:05:19 · 5 answers · asked by ashok kumar 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

i met this guy at the christmas end party,we work in the same area /University of Jozi,and he is very depandent,out spoken and he has a beautiful house,and his ex-girlfriends still tries to contact him,and he tells me at times although not the full strory,however i still think i dont meet his criteria,or the dream woman he wants,i am just an ordinary person with 1 child who lives an avarage life with a step mom who controlls my life,and i cannot be with him whenever he wants,because of my mom,and i have this feeling that he does not understand,so as a counselor i think i also have the fear of the unknown,and i am allowed to be scared because of my past unsucsessful relationships,so i think i need surgestions,because i know that i love him whole heartedly.My e-mail address is sett4dance@yahoo.com

2006-12-07 22:02:15 · 9 answers · asked by Beer Lehai Roi 1 in Singles & Dating

would you be upset about it?

2006-12-07 21:57:57 · 16 answers · asked by Special Lady!!! 1 in Singles & Dating

In India it is our culture that after retirement of mother in law, daughter in law take charge of the house and it's become her duty to look after children, home, parents and husbands daily need. We also look after her daily needs and provide clothing, jewellary and do not go anywhere without her but still she is unsatisfied She expect too many thing from life & love to take decision and want to implement on four of us. She is very dominating and we can not obay her orders we all loves her. Her mother father are pased away some times back, still she want to stay seperately from my parents with or without her child, i do not want to go anywhere and want to stay together She is housewife and want to become professional beautician, we suggest her to keep maid for the house and tution teacher for child but she resist for the same and also do not want to contribute out of her income. In short she want Seperation without Divorce our chemistry was never matched but still i love her

2006-12-07 21:57:27 · 14 answers · asked by montumanish 1 in Marriage & Divorce

I mean, if he's happy with it and she's obviously happy with it. WTH is everyone else's problem? He'd rather have me in her cuz I am snipped and clean. Isn't that better than turning her out in the streets with the rest of the nasty military wives?

2006-12-07 21:55:27 · 16 answers · asked by Red Winged Bandit 4 in Marriage & Divorce

There is a person whom I am involved with that is living with a girl whom he says was an on again off again ex. He told me he doesn not feel "that" way about her anymore but I am starting to think I have been lied to and have been really stupid. I wanted to believe the best about him, but I am not so sure.

2006-12-07 21:55:17 · 4 answers · asked by demurewoman2001 2 in Singles & Dating

i want to tell my ex boyfriend about what i am doing, but im not ready to tell him yet as im only just realising that i cant keep doing it, but he says that if im not willing to tell him now then he wont be my friend that theres no point. why is he being like this?

2006-12-07 21:54:14 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What is the wierdest place you have had relations outside and are there any funny stories.

2006-12-07 21:49:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

am desparate now! i cant live with im but when he leaves am a mess i dont no what to do help! i need to get rid of him but i cant

2006-12-07 21:47:25 · 11 answers · asked by purdy 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-12-07 21:46:47 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Most of the times, I have noticed that women are not too sure about what they want from their Spouse / Boyfriend. They seem to ask something and totally refuse to take when given. This really disturbs a lot of men around here. Please help me find out a way !

2006-12-07 21:45:48 · 5 answers · asked by BeHappy! 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

the one thing that i am most afraid of is dying without thoes that i love and love me beside me. what about you.

2006-12-07 21:44:53 · 13 answers · asked by Dennis B 1 in Marriage & Divorce

My first single year of dating, I have rarely been approached by black men. I go to all different types of enviroments from museums to the clubs. If I am approached by a black man he usually is married or older. I am 23, dated a white man for over 5yrs, very attractive and very educated...whats wrong with me?
Do I now have some type of vibe that I give off, lol
???

2006-12-07 21:42:48 · 14 answers · asked by msconfused 3 in Singles & Dating

One night while at work I was inappropriately touched by a male coworker. He was a new guy, and I never really talked to him. I dont know why he did it, but the incident was severe enough that he was fired. So, of course I was very upset after the incident and went home at 3am and woke up my bf to tell him about it. I was crying and very upset. Well his reaction was very surprising. First he kind of smiled at me, almost laughing, then he said "What are you making? You had a similar problem last year, and now this, what are you doing?" Well to me it sounded like he was blaming me so I freaked out and told him he couldnt possibly love me if he thinks this of me. I asked him over and over if he thought it was my fault, but he wouldnt answer me. Later on the next day, he told me I misunderstood him and that he meant that I'm a nice person and why do guys do this to me. What do you think he meant, do you think he is just covering up for accusing me, or did I overreact?

2006-12-07 21:41:21 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

Now you are here every one leave a message of love for thoes you miss the most. Family long passed or maybe an old flame.

2006-12-07 21:41:09 · 8 answers · asked by ANTJOHN 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

We're talking proper revenge here. This person has cut a swathe so deep through so many peoples lives that a lot of people want a slice of him.

Previously one of a group of close-knit best mates, in the pursuit of a quick leg-over he has got another mans girl pregnant, both of whom are in that same group. I can't begin to imagine the pain and hurt felt by my mate over this betrayal, but I know my own pain and hurt caused by the same. Your mates shouldn't do this to you - end of, full stop, period.

So vengeful retribution is sought, served cold, hot, with pain, without mercy - any options considered. Please only answer if you have a good alternative, the revenge is inevitable - you can only change the method...

2006-12-07 21:40:30 · 7 answers · asked by fat_twerp 1 in Friends

ok my boyfriend finished with me after 3 years -it was highly unexpected but partly prevoked by myself after petty fighting. i moved into my house and on the first day i move in-he says he doesnt love me and he wants to focuss on his career-but he still cares for me and wants to be friends. a month before he was telling me how much he loves me and wants to grow old together. i thought maybe it was the whole scenario of the commitment of moving in with me. how could i win him back? he means everything and for the time we were together we were unseperable
i really want him back. do i give him some time to think? or just move on?
please help :) ??? <3

2006-12-07 21:39:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-12-07 21:36:24 · 5 answers · asked by Sweety 1 in Singles & Dating

Most people get this HOME SICK after they depart their home land, the question is ... why am I not feeling like than while I am away from home?! I have good parents, good friends and good relatives...I love them and I feel lonely, but I don't miss them!!! Is there something wrong with me?!! Please advice. Thanks

2006-12-07 21:36:12 · 11 answers · asked by Panther 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-12-07 21:35:06 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

bin dating my girl friend for a year now. her problem is, shes full of fake promises.we hardly see each other but live in the same area, im indipendent, she lives with the parents. she cant came to my place "saying" she does not trust herself any thing can happen. im 25 shes 18yrs.i feel she loves me not, so i wana QUIT!!

2006-12-07 21:33:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-12-07 21:32:30 · 20 answers · asked by amu 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-07 21:32:10 · 3 answers · asked by Rocky 1 in Singles & Dating

age seem's not a consideration for both.

2006-12-07 21:29:03 · 9 answers · asked by crafter 1 in Singles & Dating

i don't think he feels the same way (i know he doesn't but hope otherwise) but I kinda want to get in touch with him and see how things go or should I save whatever dignity I have left and pray he leaves sooner rather than later?

2006-12-07 21:28:13 · 6 answers · asked by Cooxie 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-07 21:23:46 · 28 answers · asked by catweazle 5 in Singles & Dating

Just goes to show women are good just for sticking it in them!!!

2006-12-07 21:23:21 · 15 answers · asked by free for love 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-12-07 21:23:11 · 16 answers · asked by Vijay 1 in Marriage & Divorce

And has been for the past few months.Im normally a very tolerant person but this is really starting to annoy me.So much so that im becoming very tempted by his younger lush brother.Hes told me that he,d be more than happy to satisfy my needs and we,ve agreed to meet tomorrow night.The thing is my boyfriend treats me well,has a good job and earns a fortune and has promised me a pair of Jimmy Choos for xmas.So the question is should i wait till after xmas to meet up with his brother?I really dont want to risk being caught and losing out on a fabulous pair of shoes.

2006-12-07 21:23:07 · 25 answers · asked by Nellynoo 4 in Singles & Dating