Why do men do it?? Asking you men?

Question

So I play the fantasy role play with my guy, we have an awesome sex life. But why does he have to take it just that bit too far. He goes out with his best mate and gets hammered, then he decides to suggest that his best mate should do me, not once but repeated phone calls. In his mates ear shot. Now I play along with the most exciting of fantasies, and in the right circumstances would play, but a little too close for comfort. Said once, could be taken in jest, but to repeatedly say something, especially when we are out for dinner on Saturday night with his best mate and mrs!! My bf does not see anything wrong with it, but it made me feel a little trashy. I am of the opinion that what happens between the sheets stays between the sheets, I do not wish the entire network of friends to know my fantasies, and certainly would not want to act them out with them. And this is not the first time a situation like this has happened, to the reverse when I was out with a friend of mine!!

Answer 1

fantasies are best kepted just fantasies. acting on them could be disasterous. Chances of it being like the fantasy is slim. Let him play his fantasy, but go no further

Answer 2

This is something that's best discussed between you two when he's sober and you're both fully dressed. Tell him that you're down with the notion of role playing, but there has to be clearly defined rules and boundaries. One of those boundaries would have to be, "No, you're not going to even entertain the THOUGHT of fooling with his buddies." Tell him that that is the last time that the topic is to be discussed.
Before you have this talk with him, make out a list of things that you will NOT do--tell him what they are and stick to them.

Answer 3

right ok...for once im going to give a serious answer.....i reckon and i really do think i am right here that your man is probably doing his best mates mrs with watching or joining in and him suggesting it in the earshot of his mate is to let his mate know that he is trying to return the favour,i reckon his mate want a go on you...sorry if this makes you sound like a bit of meat...but this is how he is treating you....ive been a norty boy in my time and done a few mates partners with thier permission and most of the time they want the favour returned...sounds like this is happening in your case.....suggest you do it with a total stranger and i bet he would say no way! thats your tester....good luck!

Answer 4

i could say the same thing...why do women do it...Ive been married for over twenty years and its always about them and the control...what about communication. i never get told the whole story and certainly can see the lack of communication and questionalbe direction you were heading. you need to talk clearly about what you want and will do...no game playing and certainly no assumptions. the book men are from mars was written for a reason...you need to understand, men and women think totally differently and act on it.

Answer 5

he is a lil sick, either u work it out- i personally think that u shd walk away....he is suggesting what he shdnt...its not a comedy show for the world . and sounds like he wont be mature to understand y u find it disgusting to talk over this with everybody...i see u dont have any friends to share ur sadness with...so before anything, start going out make some friends and chill out with them apart from him..it'll giv u the space u need to think this threw...

Answer 6

HelloOOOOOO! You need to confront him on the way he embarrasses you.That is called disrespect.Correct him in private,and tell him you will walk out of the next situation if he does it again.Don't be his little punk.You're letting him do it.Confront,set ultimatum,then follow through if he does'nt stop...

Answer 7

maybe its a fantasy of his.. maybe he would like to get involved with a group sort of thing or "swinging"..