Family & Relationships - 2 September 2006

I have been sexually active with this guy for about 6 months.I guess he is my boyfriend, but we can see other people. Lately he has been asking me if I would be interested in a threesome(with another woman). I am very open minded about sex, and am willing to try new things...but this is something I am not interested in. I have told him this numerous times, that it does not turn me on. Honestly, I don't want another girl in bed with us. I don't want to even think about him having sex with another girl, let alone be there in person to view it. He claims that this is something he would really like to try and wants me to be part of. I know definetly that I do not want this. We are not dating exclusively and he is free to see whomever he wants...but I really don't want to be part of something like this.We aren't in love but I like him a lot.Should I tell him to go find it somewhere else?Should I tell him it makes me jealous that he wants to bring someone else in?

2006-09-02 22:00:51 · 10 answers · asked by Irish 1 in Singles & Dating

though they dont need it but they ask for half of ur salary or part of it and u feel they just want the money no matter what. and u get a real small money that doesn't last till the end of the month,and any pinny u take from them is considered as a loan. after all u have ur own plans and dreams about the future and all what u got in mind need money!
what would u do and how will u deal with them.
note: if u didn't give them money they will start to fight!

2006-09-02 22:00:36 · 13 answers · asked by Musty 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

my husband doesnt think he was doing anything wrong by going to this female friends workplace on his lunch half hour four times to check up on her. she just recently broke up with her boyfriend and i called her in front of my husband to see how she was doing and she said fine then he rushes down to where she was to "check on her" without telling me either times

2006-09-02 22:00:07 · 15 answers · asked by debbie e 1 in Marriage & Divorce

ok guys thanks for your opinions. and for all of the others who didn't read the first post. i basically asked if my flirty doctor was asking me what i was doing for the weekend for a reason, and most of you said that he was asking because he has a crush on me, ok this next question determines what i should do next. since i told him that i already had plans when he asked me what i was doing and everyone thinks that i kinda shot him down by saying that, i wanna know if i should call him on tuesday and ask him for an appointment, so i can let him know that even though he kept bringing up how old he is ... maybe let him know that age doesn't bother me? and i also want to let him know that i admire him greatly and that i am attracted to him as well. i would tell him over the phone but i think in person would be better.. what do you giuys think? should i or should i NOT? i really have developed a huge crush these last 6 months that he has been my dr w/ his constant flirting, compliments,

2006-09-02 21:59:52 · 7 answers · asked by sexy b 1 in Singles & Dating

my husband is an alcoholic and i have finally decided for mine and my 17 year old daughters sanity to move out. he had been in the hospital in january for 5 days for detox and than outpatient counsoling but returned to drinking shortly after. no amount of begging or threatning seems to make any difference and he has been drinking heavily for about 6-7 years and becomes verbally abusive. after 2 recent ultimatums, shape up or we are seperating, which nether one worked he just ignored me i finally took the first step and opened my own bank account and found an apartment and put a deposit on it. well he found out about the bank account and asked me if i was planning to leave. i admitted yes and he has been trying to talk me out of it, being nicer, ect swearing that he will stop drinking. This has been going on for the last week and at first i thought that he really did stop drinking but found evidence that he had been lying so have decide to go. does it ever get any easier?

2006-09-02 21:56:40 · 14 answers · asked by dory m 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

hot guys could be walking infront of me naked, oiled up ready to go, and i would not bat a eye lid. whats wrong with me? anybody els had this problem?

2006-09-02 21:56:29 · 13 answers · asked by loopy lass 3 in Singles & Dating

I was banging this girl and I never could ***. I think it stemmed from my religious background, and other issues such as pregnancy. So maybe my inner conscious was like no you will not *** so I never was able to. So of course she thought I was messed up and she left me. She died later that year. I think about that alot. Maybe she wasnt the right girl. Maybe thats the reason I have been afraid to date or even communicate to a girl. Im a caring, sensitive guy. Strangly I cant ***, unless I strangle hold my you know what with my hand. Help me out here...

2006-09-02 21:55:55 · 10 answers · asked by Financial Guru 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-02 21:54:51 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

My ex boyfriends girlfriend gets back from holiday today and is stayin at his tonight. It wouldnt bother me except that we have just broken up so i still have feelings for him. Any ideas to make sure i dont think about them two being together, and i cant go out cuz i have no money. ANYTHING that will make sure i wont will really help. Thankyou xx

2006-09-02 21:52:40 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I think im starting to fall in love wit one of my guy friends i dont want to tell him cuz it might rune are friendship and i dont think he likes me what should i do?

2006-09-02 21:51:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

i broke with my ex just a a week ago because of the past issues that is still concerning us... it was his bday last friday and i was not with him, that night he send an sms that his day was great but if i was with him, it would be perfect... slowly, i'm moving on,.. lately he's been so sweet again, calling me every night, and when i haven't answered his call, he's thinking i am with sum1 else... i dont know where this things will lead to, but why is he acting such like that?.. do you guyz think he wants me back?

2006-09-02 21:47:58 · 11 answers · asked by kish-kish 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

This guy and i have been flirting with each other for a while. We want to have sex but.... he wants me to make him a video of myself before we do it! We send each other nude pics so he knows how my body looks.... but why does he want a video so bad?

2006-09-02 21:47:05 · 17 answers · asked by princess 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-02 21:44:36 · 9 answers · asked by ? 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-09-02 21:42:08 · 5 answers · asked by ab 2 in Friends

2006-09-02 21:41:53 · 19 answers · asked by datcreekgurl 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-02 21:39:38 · 16 answers · asked by TurboLover 2 in Singles & Dating

My physical profile; 5'1'' 105 ibls, bwon hair- brown eyes, pouty lips, short hair... I haven't seen my boyfriend for three days, because he's on a vacation trip with his family- but when he comes back I want him to see what he missed.. HELP! HOW?! How to make him want me?! And know what he missed??!

2006-09-02 21:39:21 · 11 answers · asked by bratworth 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-02 21:39:07 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

What came first, the chicken or the egg?

2006-09-02 21:39:05 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I wrote this letter to my mom, do you think that I should send it?

"There are things that we don't want to happen but have to accept, things we don't want to know but have to learn, and people we can't live without but have to let go." ~Author Unknown



I have been sitting here staring at that, and contemplating what I want to say. I think I want to say goodbye. The time has come, my burden has been lifted. I will grieve but not for my loss, I will grieve what I never had. This has been a long time coming. I will be ok, I will survive. There will be yet another band-aid on my heart, but it won't be because of you, it will be because of the person you never could be. I have learned to stop searching. I have learned that no matter who I am, it will never be enough for you. The time has come for me to be me. The time has come that I start looking out for me and mine, to start protecting them from the anguish that always will be. I am ready to move on. I am ready to heal. I am ready to stop seeking validation. The only validation I need is mine. I will never be free if I continually seek it. I will never know the why's or the why not's, and am done searching. Today it stops, I have reached the point of finality. I am ready to close the door and move on. I am ready to let you go and move on. I am ready to move forward with my exsistance. I am ready to redefine myself.

I am done protecting you. I will no longer be humiliated by who you are or what you have done to me. I am going to face everything head on. I learned something, I learned that what has been done doesn't define who I am. I shouldn't be embarassed by what I have been through. I shouldn't be ashamed, I didn't do it. I guess I thought that by pretending it didn't happen, I could change you. I thought I could change the past. But alas, I can not. I can only change who I am today. I am chosing to win. I am chosing to survive.

I became a better person in spite of you. I survived in spite of you. I was a victim by chance, now I am a fighter by choice. Everything you did made me that much stronger. Now, I am letting you go for this is goodbye. I wish you all the best. I hope that someday you find peace. I forgive you. I don't say those words for you, I say them for me. I refuse to let this consume me one more day. I refuse to walk around with this weight on my shoulder and weigh me down. Like I said, I grieve not for you, but for who you couldn't be. I will no longer grieve for who I couldn't be, today I start to become that person.

Goodbye. Forever.

2006-09-02 21:36:04 · 24 answers · asked by jmlmmlmll 3 in Family

I can't find it.

2006-09-02 21:34:35 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am concerned because the father of my two children is wanting to see my children and keep them for a short period of time. He has been in and out of jail since my oldest child was 18 months old. She is now six years old. He has only seen the youngest child about ten times. He has never paid child support. He is now claiming that when he gets out of jail next week he will start paying child support and will then have full rights to my children. He states that once he pays all restitution that the courts will award him unsupervised visitation. He gets this information, supposedly, from an attorney at the prison. How worried should I be?

2006-09-02 21:33:50 · 2 answers · asked by lissajo 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

My boyfriend of 8 years had a guys' night out tonight, & I had one with the girls. I was sitting at the bar talking to one of my friends, when suddenly I felt a hand running up my thigh & I hear a guy saying "Hi, baby, how you doing-" or something to that effect. I freaked out-semi scream, "Oh my gosh-no, no, get away.." hand in his face shooing him away. I was shocked & startled. I have never had any other guy than my boyf touch me like that & it freaked me out. My friends were looking at me like I was crazy. One said "I have never in my life seen a girl react that way to a guy hitting on her.." I said "He ran his hand all the way up my leg!" My friends didn't know that - they thought that I was freaking out just b/c he was trying to talk to me. The guy apologized & his friends apologized, saying "He didn't mean anything." I was embarrassed because I spazzed out, but it was my first reaction, & what kinda guy goes up to a girl & does that? Anyways, is this somethin I tell my boyf?

2006-09-02 21:32:11 · 19 answers · asked by rain_or_shine 1 in Singles & Dating

ok you guys i need your honest opinions ok. like i said in my last post , my dr has been flirting with me and saying sexual undertoned comments to me, as well as forever telling me that i ''look good'' and so on and so on. he basically acts like a 20 year old boy trying to get at a 24 year old female. but in actuallity he is 50 years old. i joked and hinted to him that i had a slight crush on him and he got way to happy and scheduled me for a 2 week follow up. but at that visit he kept talking about how old he was and he must have repeated that he was 50 years old like 6 times and it made me wonder if he was worried if i cared how old he was. but when i was there he asked me what i was going to do for the weekend and i basically told him i was going outta town and i left it at that. now everyone is saying that i was dumb because when he asked me what i was doing he expected me to catch on that he was asking me for a reason. when guys ask u that is it normally for a reason?

2006-09-02 21:31:40 · 6 answers · asked by sexy b 1 in Singles & Dating

I've recently started seeing a bloke for just over a month now. Everything was great. I knew he liked weed - but didn't know it was like the way it is..... He won't see me unless hes got some weed to smoke when he's with me. Which means i haven't seen him for a few weeks now.........


I really don't know what to do. It was ok to start with now its like he'lld rather have smoke then see me . What can i do .... i have tempations to leave him and to find someone else . HE gives no no attention and seems like he don't care ........


What shall i do ......... ??????? he says he does care

2006-09-02 21:30:09 · 29 answers · asked by ruby 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-02 21:28:44 · 7 answers · asked by OLIVIA! 1 in Singles & Dating

My husband immigrated here 5 months ago from Korea. We met and married in Korea. I lived in Korea for 3 years. Since he's been here, he's had a rough time. He doesn't speak English and he doesn't have any friends. I have tried everything to keep him busy....english classes, martial arts classes, gym memberships,introducing him to other Koreans. We're still waiting for his work permit, so he hasn't been able to work....although it may be impossible for him to get a job for awhile since he can't speak English. He still hasn't even gone to the supermarket by himself! He's depressed now and has told me he wants to go back. I'm at my witts end....I don't know how to keep him happy. I always try to get him out of the house but he refuses, just wants to stay inside watching T.V.

He can't go back to Korea yet because of his process of waiting for a green card.

I don't want to drop my life here. I'm months away from getting my Master's degree. How do I cheer him up?

2006-09-02 21:27:58 · 10 answers · asked by Ms.Kimchi 1 in Marriage & Divorce

She is my classmate and she considers me a good friend.

2006-09-02 21:27:46 · 14 answers · asked by ajitesh puri 1 in Singles & Dating

just some soft love-making

2006-09-02 21:24:16 · 31 answers · asked by OLIVIA! 1 in Singles & Dating

May be she did it for fear of going with her sins,but she has put me in hell of a situation.Worse I believe her. I just look like my Dad's friend sister(my Aunt).I can ask for DNA test but I fear I will disrupt everybody's peace and creat the biggest scence in the whole town. Moreover my Dad and my real Dad are still best friends and the wife is my godmother and everybody seems at peace with everything except I....

2006-09-02 21:23:22 · 23 answers · asked by Melinda 1 in Family