I have been sexually active with this guy for about 6 months.I guess he is my boyfriend, but we can see other people. Lately he has been asking me if I would be interested in a threesome(with another woman). I am very open minded about sex, and am willing to try new things...but this is something I am not interested in. I have told him this numerous times, that it does not turn me on. Honestly, I don't want another girl in bed with us. I don't want to even think about him having sex with another girl, let alone be there in person to view it. He claims that this is something he would really like to try and wants me to be part of. I know definetly that I do not want this. We are not dating exclusively and he is free to see whomever he wants...but I really don't want to be part of something like this.We aren't in love but I like him a lot.Should I tell him to go find it somewhere else?Should I tell him it makes me jealous that he wants to bring someone else in?
2006-09-02 22:00:51 · 10 answers · asked by Irish 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Do excatly what your doing by not giving in!Tell him how you feel and your not going to do it ever!You will do other things but thats something your not willing ot try>Tell him one day you might want to try something he might not like and he should think about that instead of trying to make you feel you have to do somthing your against!If he keeps on then i would just say hey why are you wanting to pass up a good thing for something you know nothing about is it worth it especially if it may cost you me?Dont pass up a good thing buddy cause if you keep on you can do it on your own and im done with ya ,dont be calling or coming back to me and do excatly that!I dont blame you cause people dont really know what they are asking for when they involve others in there bedroom.Sex is suppose to be between 2 people not 3,4,5,6!It causes problems i dont care how open you think you are!If sex is great between 2 why bring in another if you feel you need more excitment then find something you can do to each other not something you can do to someone else!What does that solve?But stick to your guns and dont do it ,you can find someone else who wants you and only you!And he can start steppin on down the road.Cause the girls who are willing to do such things with him are going to be nasty skanky hoes cause no girl with morals would even do such a thing and if thats something he wants let him get a std!And never have a serious loving realtionship let him suffer with his stupid boyish fantasies!Good luck girl but already i can tell your no dummy and no push over and you do have some self esteem and morals about your self ..wtg...about time a women on here does,i wish ya the best !
2006-09-02 22:19:38 · answer #1 · answered by blondie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First: I hope like hell you make him wear condoms EVERY time you're together!
Now... Don't do anything you don't want to do! He isn't interested in your feelings, or sexual enjoyment, in the least. He's only interested in his own satisfaction.
No man that cares for you in the least would want you to come away from a sexual encounter feeling hurt, angry, used, upset, taken advantage of, and unsatisfied. Only rapist enjoy that! You really need to think about how this man feels about you. I've a feeling you could do a lot better without trying very hard.
If you're at all interested in having sex with a woman, do it on your own. If you ever feel like you'd like to have a 3some, do it when YOU feel comfortable.
2006-09-02 22:15:16 · answer #2 · answered by IAINTELLEN 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to have sex with a girl first. You might be surprised. If you find a girl you like having sex with then you should have a threesome with her and your kinda boyfriend. You never know till you try.
2006-09-02 22:04:57 · answer #3 · answered by Greg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should tell him that this doesnt turn you on and that it makes you you jealous. all guys fantasize about two girls making out or playing with eachother. they like that and my husband wants to do the threesome thing too but i want to find it in my self that is what im ready for too
2006-09-02 22:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by 007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If its only sex between you all - and it seems that way - then siut what suits u best. Pardon me, but love does not build up in a crowd...
If u have fantasy,,, go ahead with 3-some,, else find a straight guy!!
2006-09-02 22:05:55 · answer #5 · answered by Sid Has 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey if it's not for then he should respect that. If he needs to do it then tell him he's gonna have to do it with someone else. Have you considered it with another man? If so make a deal you first then give in.
2006-09-02 22:06:58 · answer #6 · answered by whitebeanner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've got urself a pervert honey..." i guess he's my boyfriend " it sounds to me that he doesn't know that you 2 are lovers...correct me..! whatever...stand on ur ground don't let somebody make you do things ur against...get a serious relationship...theres many out there who are straight not like ur "so called boyfriend'.you ok w/ a polygamous beau...?refresh urself...best of luck.
2006-09-02 22:53:19 · answer #7 · answered by james ian h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it!! Causes nothing but problems!!! I know from experience...
2006-09-02 22:08:25 · answer #8 · answered by princess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell him you want him and another guy first. that should shut him up, hopefully, lol
2006-09-02 22:06:01 · answer #9 · answered by ricie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be honest , If you don't want it don't do it...
2006-09-02 22:05:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋