May be she did it for fear of going with her sins,but she has put me in hell of a situation.Worse I believe her. I just look like my Dad's friend sister(my Aunt).I can ask for DNA test but I fear I will disrupt everybody's peace and creat the biggest scence in the whole town. Moreover my Dad and my real Dad are still best friends and the wife is my godmother and everybody seems at peace with everything except I....
2006-09-02 21:23:22 · 23 answers · asked by Melinda 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
sometimes in life...we face situations where we cant do anything...
if u make an issue out of it...wat will u get out of it ?
nothing..
ur dad...aunt & real dad who love u NOW...end up hating u after knowing dis...wat do u get ? nothing
u dont need 2 talk anything 2 ne 1...its tough for u...but...
do u wanna ruin 3 more lives wid u & end up wid empty hands ?
ur dad loves u...den accept him as ur real dad...not sme1 else who did not do his duties for his kid...
2006-09-02 21:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by moooooooovin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think instead of being confused, at least rejoice that the truth come out. Don't feel ridicule of the situation. Don't look on what others will tell you, accept the fact. Embrace your real Dad but remain with your current Dad...nothing will change if you peacefully accept the truth. It is your life not theirs....if you believe in what others will tell you will just ruin your life. Be happy this people arounds love you...even if they keep this secret for a very long time, it doesn't matter. Do not do what other do as you see in the movies, its for cinematic purposes only, but yours is a real life situation. If that thing happen to me, I will consider myself the luckiest having two Dad. Be practical nothing will change but it will add more spices in your life. No need of the DNA test confession of a dying person is true, just accept it peacefully and you find peace in your heart and mind. I will pray for you. God bless.
2006-09-02 21:35:10 · answer #2 · answered by Romel G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about disrupting everyone's peace. It is something that needs to come out. What ever the results, If the REAL father wants to be a part of your life, that's good, but don't dismiss the fact that the other guy has been there all of your life. He's still your dad.
2006-09-02 21:30:39 · answer #3 · answered by Curiousmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every person has the right to know who their real parents are, especially because medical history can be critical down the road. If you really want to know, maybe you should arrange a private meeting with the person your mom says is your real dad, and discuss it in private with them. That way they can tell you their side of the story. you can always get a DNA test done without everyone knowing, and if it is true, then go from there. If you don't want everyone to know, they don't have to, it is more for your peace of mind anyway. Always remember who raised you, Dad is an earned title, father is just biology.
2006-09-02 22:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by ALFimzadi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find someone that you know that you can confide in-someone that you can trust not to say anything to anyone else. Could you try talking to a preacher or do you have a close friend that you can talk to? I would recommend talking to a preacher or someone at your church. I think that they would be less judgmental. Talk to someone else for now until you have time to let it sink in. Once you've gotten it off of your chest by at least talking to SOMEONE, maybe it will help you to really be able to think about it and make the decision that you feel in your heart will be the best for everyone involved. In my opinion, though, the best thing right now would be to talk to someone that is neutral to the situation and that you can trust to stay quiet about it.
2006-09-02 21:34:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess what this only really involves you your dad and you mom god bless her soul. One day you can secrectly speak him and make sure no one is around to hear ya. even if its quick lethim know ur mom told u he is ur real dad. Maybe yall 2 can then decide whatto do if anything. I'm sure since no one knows he hasn't told his wife or anyone so do worry speak with ur real dad it could be just yall 2 or maye yall could come out. But yall decide what is best for the 2 of you i think. Hope i helped ya hun.
2006-09-02 21:32:00 · answer #6 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need answers if they all love you then they will go ahead and have a DNA test. Get them all together and talk about the situation, feeling might get hurt and other disturbances might go on but you need to be first they should deal with the problem on thier terms and not with you. It's a tuff descion for you but you need to know don't want to find out if something goes wrong with your health and need a match for something. Best of luck to you and I wish you all the best. Get it done early before it's to late.
2006-09-02 21:29:29 · answer #7 · answered by I wish I wish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure she did not tell you to cause turmoil in your life. It's something you should definitely know, in case you have medical issues. I wouldn't rock the boat. I'd probably talk to your real Dad though, and let him know that you are now aware. Aside from that, I'd keep it on the down low. No need to upset the apple cart w/ dirty laundry, unless you are uncomfortable w/ keeping it between you and your real father.
2006-09-02 21:30:05 · answer #8 · answered by P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you should talk first to your real dad and explain to him then let him plan for what he should do...if he is going to keep it as a secret between you and him or he should bore all the consequences of losing your dad who grows with you and your aunt,(he's part of the mistake)at least you are lucky you have two dads
2006-09-02 21:28:25 · answer #9 · answered by cutiebhaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one. I think you are the only one who can answer that one. I guess your dad will always be your dad. No matter what so I guess I would take that into consideration. Good luck!
2006-09-02 21:29:57 · answer #10 · answered by Sammy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋