I think im starting to fall in love wit one of my guy friends i dont want to tell him cuz it might rune are friendship and i dont think he likes me what should i do?
2006-09-02 21:51:35 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Try to keep it at the friendship level - if you told him and he did not feel the same like you said, it would be awkward. At least you know that he is your friend and will always be around this way. I wouldn't risk it unless you knew - sometimes we can confuse this cause our guys friends - we are so close to them and we tell each other everything and so you could easily start to be like - wow I am so comfortable with him maybe....
I felt like this once with a bf that was a guy (bf=best friend) We flirted etc but we never acted on it - thank god cause I saw the way he was with the girls he did date - haha.
2006-09-02 21:54:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone has felt the way you do. I know I have. The truth is, we end up regretting the things we don't do much more than those we try and fail at.
If you tell this guy how you feel, at worst he'll look embarassed and say something you don't want to hear. It might even mean he distances himself from you. That would hurt, sure enough.
But what would happen if you don't say anything? If he's not into you, then you avoid the embarassment, but eventually the secret will fester and tear up the friendship, especially if he gets a girlfriend. And what if he is into you, and you both sit there miserable around one another when you could be together.
If you tell him how you feel, and it doesn't work out, then you will hurt but it will pass. If you don't say anything, you'll never know what might have been.
2006-09-03 05:02:19 · answer #2 · answered by Johnny Tezca 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
love can come from friendship but friendship not from love. if you develop a friendship with this guy chances are that if things do work out with you two in the future u have a basis for the relationship...u know each other. cuz he is a guy and because u are his friend and hey he may be cute to..u might have an attraction for him....but it could be purely superficial and just hormones! why don't u wait a little while see if ur really falling for him develop a better friendship and see where it goes if ur sure then that u do like him and u want to take that risk in showing him that go for it! but most importantly be sure u know!
good luck and i hope it helps!
2006-09-03 04:55:30 · answer #3 · answered by micheypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right now you are in the beautiful position of observing him as a friend and or possible partner. You have no strings attached yet, So ask those silly questions,
like how he would feel on being in a relationship with a girl
and what would be the ideal relationship for him.
How he would see this whole thing and see his future.
You lucky one, to find out all this without even stepping into it.
just keep asking the questions like you did now.
fear can be dealt with through alfons
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you take a few milksugar grains a day and that's it.
fear will go away.
You have my support
2006-09-03 04:57:55 · answer #4 · answered by franslaimbock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was you there's nothing like being honest. If he's your friend and he doesn't love you he'll understand and will gives you the necessary space to make up your mind and if you tell him, suppose he's been loving you for a longer time and afraid of the same thing you are and may be putting your feelings on the table can raise up your relationship to the 2ND level. Just be honest. Good luck.
2006-09-03 04:58:11 · answer #5 · answered by Javy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as i m an experienced person in love and i m having an exellent love affair for a long time so i will giv u an advice.dont be affraid of ruining ur friendship by simply telling him this.dont tell him now.just increase ur friendship with him so that he also falls in love with u.after that dont show much concern to him n ignore him a bit.if ur love is true he will automatically start get attaracting towards u as true love find its way of its own.good luck
2006-09-03 05:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by robby i 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough call.
if your in highschool though.
i would ask for a close friends help.
let the rumour float. see the reaction.
if it doesnt' go well.
you set the rumour straight and then affirm the plutonic friendship with no face lost.
the worst that can happen is you find out the truth.
2006-09-03 04:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by nefariousx 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let it be that way and let him feel that you are in love with him. But dont over do it. If u get positive reactions you are lucky. If he tries to avoid you or he is neutral that means he is not interested about you. So better to be with as friends.
By the way good luck to your ROMANCE.!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-03 04:57:04 · answer #8 · answered by Amila 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to one of his friends u can trust, try to find out info. depending on your results either talk to him or TALK to him 50% chance of him feeling the same way. GO for it!!
2006-09-03 04:54:46 · answer #9 · answered by 8Ball 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a chance, and tell him .
he might surprise you by
feeling the same way about you.
2006-09-03 04:55:08 · answer #10 · answered by bonnie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋