my husband doesnt think he was doing anything wrong by going to this female friends workplace on his lunch half hour four times to check up on her. she just recently broke up with her boyfriend and i called her in front of my husband to see how she was doing and she said fine then he rushes down to where she was to "check on her" without telling me either times
2006-09-02 22:00:07 · 15 answers · asked by debbie e 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not to mention this women is known for being very loose in the past. and yes she was a mutual friend that was why i called to check on her. my husband also lied and told me he was paying the water bill and that was why he stopped to see her when i ckd our bank statement the water bill was paid on line so i caught him in that lie...i am so angry and hurt i dont know what to do i told him we needed counseling and to call a counselor and he asked me why since i was threatening to leave it didnt make since.
2006-09-02 22:27:02 · update #1
i did call her and she was was very upset that he did this and told me to try and work it out with him and she would never cross the line with him. and her boyfriend broke up with her. besides the first time she ever met me i was kicking the crap out of another girl for being with my boyfriend and she tells everyone about our first encounter so i doubt she wants a show like that.
2006-09-02 22:39:47 · update #2
That's just too odd that he's so worried about this other woman. Sure, maybe he's just trying to be a good friend, but why did he have to go and check on her FOUR times!!! ONE time maybe, but FOUR!! And he didn't tell you either time? He just seems too interested in that situation for it to be innocent. I mean, she just broke up with her boyfriend, it's not like she got a divorce or anything. Better keep an eye on him!
2006-09-02 22:13:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Debbie is it possible that he was just checking on a wounded soul and felt the need to lie to cover up his actions because he could see that you might over react . It seems that as much as it might be him sniffing about a ***** in heat . this girl knows that you are not to made a fool of or messed with. The other thing that strikes me is that you have very little if no trust in your husband at all . once doubt is sown into a marriage it cant be washed out ,,,, be very wary of your accusations as you may be forgiven if wrong but it will never be forgotten Talk it out don't yell don't swear just talk it out .
2006-09-03 07:07:36 · answer #2 · answered by slick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he LIED to u about it should be enough to get u worried. I don't know if she's a mutual friend of yours and your husband's but your husband is showing a bit too much attention for her. U need to speak with him and let him know that this type of behavior is very inappropritate in your marriage. I'm not suggesting anything here as he could actually be just genuinely concerned about her welfare but there is such a thing as too much attention, especially now it's at a point where it's starting to bother u. Nip it at the bud before it gets more serious.
2006-09-03 05:13:03 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This isn't the woman's fault. It isn't your fault, or the woman's boyfriend's fault. It IS your husband that is running after the woman. He may not be cheating, but if not, it's only because your friend hasn't allowed it. A married man doesn't get crazy cuz a family friend breaks up with her boyfriend, or lie about seeing her. Personally, I'd toss his butt now. Trying to cheat is no different than cheating. He obviously isn't being"just a friend", so even if this woman won't play, he'll find another woman that will. You can wait until you catch him, and chance ending up with some std, or you can get out now.
2006-09-03 07:40:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep if he's not screwing her yet, he's trying to.. No man cares that much about another womans heartache unless its his sister with out wanting to have sex with her.. the lying proves that he is up to no good, if he thought it was innocent , he would have no problem telling u.. but he's lying .. Id go to her and find out what the deal is.. Curious, did she break up with her bf or did she break up with him?????? reason i ask is, it would be very convient that if she broke up with her bf and suddenly he's rushing to her side.. as if something may of been going on between them prior to , and she just made the first move to be with him.. If her bf broke up with her, talk to her, explain that u think ur husband is up to no good, if shes ur friend, she will not condone his behavior as she is going through heartache herself and wouldnt want u to feel the same pain..
2006-09-03 05:33:38 · answer #5 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Kick the crap out of him for lying to you. Sometimes it's not always another woman that's in the wrong.
2006-09-03 07:30:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is a BAD BOY.......Tell him straight that you will get all the money and child support just in case.....
2006-09-03 05:56:20 · answer #7 · answered by SNOWMAN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, thats how it all starts! its like the root of a messy break up! you should get hard and steady with him!
2006-09-03 06:06:42 · answer #8 · answered by Rancyd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband is an idiot.
tell him to calm down and leave women things to women.
2006-09-03 05:58:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
He loves her. BIG WARNING SIGN!!!!!!!!
He has to stop doing it or else you are being cheated on, right in your face.
2006-09-03 05:10:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋