I've recently started seeing a bloke for just over a month now. Everything was great. I knew he liked weed - but didn't know it was like the way it is..... He won't see me unless hes got some weed to smoke when he's with me. Which means i haven't seen him for a few weeks now.........
I really don't know what to do. It was ok to start with now its like he'lld rather have smoke then see me . What can i do .... i have tempations to leave him and to find someone else . HE gives no no attention and seems like he don't care ........
What shall i do ......... ??????? he says he does care
2006-09-02 21:30:09 · 29 answers · asked by ruby 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave, if he can only stand you when he is stoned...he is not all that in to you.
2006-09-02 21:32:15 · answer #1 · answered by Juniper C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me tell you something: drugs will ALWAYS be number one to users. You will only ever come second. And if it was a straight choice between you and drugs, drugs would win.
Most drug users would prefer to have both (drugs AND partner)and quite often they find partners who are prepared to play second fiddle to their drug habits (the nagging is the price they pay for that, but it doesn't make any difference). Sometimes the partner is also into drugs. If you've ever seen two druggies (or two alcoholics) in a relationship its laughable. They bicker and fight all the time, cannot communicate with each other or anyone else, can't look after themselves, let alone each other. And they smell.
You would have to leave him in the end anyway (either you can't stand it any more or he gets abusive) so I would quite now if I were you.
2006-09-03 06:28:58 · answer #2 · answered by granny2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him. Leave him now! Life is too short to mess around someone who is on drugs. He sounds like is barely a functional drug addict. He only cares about the weed. Find someone who is clean and sober. Do you understand this? He needs rehab before a relationship. If he has to smoke a bud in order to see you, he's got problems. Problems you do not need.
2006-09-03 04:35:18 · answer #3 · answered by davester1970 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know in your heart this lad is not for you don't you??
do yourself a favour and get rid of him before you get hurt even more, I used to smoke weed everyday and thankfully i got off it. It really is a bad thing and can make even the nicest person to become selfish and nasty. Go and find yourself a man that cares for you. There are plenty of fish in the sea!!!
2006-09-03 06:32:41 · answer #4 · answered by Paul C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take out the weed issue for a moment! Regardless, if someone behaves like he does to you, it is not a respectfull, caring or loving relationship. So if you respect yourself, move on and don't let his drug use be an acceptable reason for what is unacceptable behaviour!
2006-09-03 07:29:57 · answer #5 · answered by Ade Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump his *** I have been in that same situation, it's not worth it. I got pregnant with his child and he choosed drugs over his own blood. Unfortinly i had to put my baby up for adoption because I was unable to care for him on my own with already having a child. I didn't know that is was as bad as it got till I got pregnant. He never did any thing around my child because I wouldn't let him. So to say I never say him that much. So leave before it gets worse or before you get caught in the middle of a drug rage.
2006-09-03 04:37:03 · answer #6 · answered by medevilqueen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to sit him down and talk to him. You need to address to him that doing these drugs are destroying the guy I fell in love with, and I'm afraid that I'm losing you, and I would rather have you date another girl, then to view your body in a jail cell or worst.....in a coffin! Drugs will lead you down a path that is so hard to get out of. I know this is hard, but unless you want to see him destroy his life, you must tell him, and you have to be as serious as you possible can. We are losing more and more of our people because of drugs, and they think it is OK to do it. They don't realize how it effects everyone that has ever been in contact with that person, and YOU must be the one to realize this....before its too late. I pray that you can get through to him before something bad happens. God bless.
2006-09-03 04:48:28 · answer #7 · answered by poetrywritr111490 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's only one thing for it - tell him its you or the weed. Let him decide. If he chooses you, great, if he chooses weed, just walk away, hes not worth it. I'm sure I don't have to say this but make sure you don't get involved with any of his drugs!! Good luck, I hope it all works out one way or another :) xxx
2006-09-03 05:29:59 · answer #8 · answered by Jess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well my dear from what you are saying he would rather have weed then a beautiful woman.
So get out of this relationship now or you my land up going down the same road as him, you my think i am being a bit hard on you with what i am saying but that is me.I will tell you this i am disabled in my late 50s and. have 17 kids.Now one of my son's who. turned up at my home who i have not Seen for six years it way nice to se him but as i got to now him it turned out that he was doing drugs so i try'd to help him.but in the end i got hurt he set about me in front of my other children who are 4.6.8.10 just think of how it hurt them seeing what thy did,i have had him dealt with by the courts and now he is banish't from my home for life.So do the right thing now befor its to late.let me now how you get on tex me on 07858605597anyway good luck to you.from the baba
2006-09-03 07:00:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
approach him ask him if he cares and tell him you want to spend time with him getting to know the real him give him a month and if nothing changes leave him as u dont deserve it all you can do is try at least then u didnt just give up especially if you have alot of feelings for this guy
2006-09-03 04:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by melody3470 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't waste your time, it may be difficult for you [i don't konw] one drug could lead to another, if he cared he wouldn't smoke the stuff, sounds like he just wants to get in you [well you know] xx
2006-09-03 05:06:16 · answer #11 · answered by P-H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋