Family & Relationships - 14 August 2006

There is a guy i know who lives about an hour and a half from me and we have never met in person. He and I talk on the phone all the time. He says he really likes me, and I like him. My question is he asked me what size ring i wear, and I told him. If he buys me a ring should I accept it? I told him no diamonds cause i dont like them, and no bagget cut cause i dont like those. HELP!!!

2006-08-14 09:42:51 · 6 answers · asked by squeaker_girl1979 2 in Singles & Dating

Do you have a small group of friends or large? and why... Have you been friends with someone for a really long time?

2006-08-14 09:42:50 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

My married lover is in love with me, he does lots for me, he puts up with me, he cares for me, he hurts when ever I do try to break up with him, so why is it so hard to see this from you outsiders, like it's impossible. It happens. They do not have any children, just a dog.

2006-08-14 09:41:39 · 19 answers · asked by tami78731 1 in Marriage & Divorce

she met my sister a few days ago. this woman who keeps calling my sister. At first we thought she was a strange lonely woman desperate for some frienship and a man but then she started sending strange messages and saying strange things which don't make sense. My sister is freaked out by her. What should she do? Please help. We don't know what to do.

2006-08-14 09:41:39 · 13 answers · asked by "*♥*Nafisa*♥*" 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

I am sick and tired, of people in MY house, losing my remote, i work out in the hot sun, all day long, and when I get home, All i want to do, is sit down, relax, and watch some tv, but nnooo, i spend most of that time lookin for my remote. What can I do, to get them to leave it alone???

2006-08-14 09:41:39 · 7 answers · asked by Froggy 1 in Family

I have been with this gal for more then 3 years and we have normal sex. She does enjoy sex but i don't think she ever had an orgasm. I have tried so many different techniques, poistions, places but i dont think she ever came. Any suggestions

2006-08-14 09:41:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

my husband says that all guys feel this way.... is it really that true?

2006-08-14 09:41:33 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships

ok got some durex condoms from good old family planning...some packs are red, orange and green...are these different (ie ribbed, etc) anyone know?

2006-08-14 09:41:32 · 8 answers · asked by meowser 2 in Singles & Dating

Do you like older men (not necessarily decrepit) or do you like younger men (no cradle robbing!!!)
Tell me watcha think!!!

2006-08-14 09:40:58 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-08-14 09:40:34 · 6 answers · asked by shortychicklick79 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

A girl approached me in a club on Saturday night, we talked for a few minutes but she had to go so she gave me her phone # and told me to call her whenever so I called her last night and we talked for about 2(!) minutes, asked each other typical questions, and she said she was tired and wanted to go to bed and to call her later. now i hear that when a girl GETS OFF the phone with a GUY to go to sleep, thats never a good sign. what could it mean? should i call her again or no?

2006-08-14 09:39:01 · 8 answers · asked by chris s 1 in Singles & Dating

There is this guy and I'm not sure whether he likes me. He was in my chemistry class and both of our grades went down because we were playin' around too much. Then over the summer, we've been keeping in contact (phone, email, text,etc.) so I know what he's been up to. Plus I convinced him (with the help of a friend) to do cross Country so i saw him several times. We flirt and joke a lot, but does it sound like he likes me? Cuz I really got my feelings hurt this summer and I don't want it to happen again.

2006-08-14 09:38:52 · 13 answers · asked by D L 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-08-14 09:38:46 · 19 answers · asked by raisinme 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

I am in a new relationship and have known him for months. We started out as friends for like 4 months. Well he always e-mails me and says "Luv ya", or " I luv ya" and i never say anything back. I don't know if he really means it, or it's just something he says. How will I kow if he really "Loves me"?? and shold I tell him i love him if i sm starting to?

2006-08-14 09:38:45 · 10 answers · asked by Blondie2 1 in Singles & Dating

We've been friends for like 1 year and i think he likes me bac how can i find out PLEASE HELP????

2006-08-14 09:38:36 · 9 answers · asked by a_2_the_cute 1 in Singles & Dating

My mom put a restraining order on my grandma and we got a temporary one and in three weeks we are going back to get a permenant one and she wants me to say bad things about my grandma when she really is not that bad or phyco. So I was wondering what i shoud do about going to court with my mom to say bad things about my grandma!!!!!!!

2006-08-14 09:38:15 · 14 answers · asked by Kate 1 in Family

I've been writing letters, but no one is getting them, and I wonder if it's the stamps. Living in dorms can kinda cut you off from the world. Did the price of stamps go up from 39 cents in the Unighted States? I'm giving this guy a dear john letter and I want to make sure it gets to him.

2006-08-14 09:38:13 · 4 answers · asked by justkiddingu 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

My wife and I fight.

Constantly.

All the time.

She said to me this morning, "I only want happiness for you, and if that means you leaving me and having a happy life for yourself, you should do it".

Now I know that is not what she truely means.

Ladies........what does that mean in "Woman Talk".

Thanks.

2006-08-14 09:38:08 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

Anytime I try to get a girl to hang out, like maybe a date or something a little more relaxed like getting a drink, I usually get rejected. Not being vain, I'm a pretty good looking guy. I try not to seem like i'm asking them on a date sometimes, so I don't make them feel awkward. More just hanging out like as friends. But I suck. Lots of rejection. I get yesses from some girls, but they end up being far from somebody i'd wanna have a relationship with. Why's it so hard for some women to just give a guy a chance?

2006-08-14 09:38:06 · 5 answers · asked by Elliot Ness 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-08-14 09:37:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I have 4 kids,a troubled marriage,blah,blah,blah....
Sometimes I want to run away.

2006-08-14 09:37:09 · 4 answers · asked by MaryBeth 7 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-08-14 09:36:35 · 9 answers · asked by Peggy S 1 in Singles & Dating

A secret no one else knows, that you plan on taking to the grave. Confessions also accepted!

2006-08-14 09:36:35 · 14 answers · asked by sweetestthing 4 in Other - Family & Relationships

Does anyone know who give what speeches at a wedding reception. I am just looking for an over all basic outline to work with.

2006-08-14 09:36:08 · 6 answers · asked by ladybug_and_dragonfly 1 in Weddings

Is it worth to live all your life long with bi-tchy woman and having s-ex once in ten days, or is it better to live alone your entire life and once in a while visite ho-okers?

2006-08-14 09:35:54 · 19 answers · asked by clovisfleischhund 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

I recently caught my husband cheating on me. We have started marriage counseling. I want to know if anyone has been to a retrouvaille weekend. What was your experience and how much did it cost?

2006-08-14 09:35:46 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

While I was at tech school my wife ran into her first love. they had sex 6 times in the month and half. Even when she left me at home once I was done with tech school and ****** him. Now I just found out and all of us are staying at a apartment in Spokane Wa. We have no money. Her boyfriend wants to go home. He sleepts in one room and I sleept in another and my wife sleepts in the living room between us. I don't get much sleept and I always check and watch them. My wife told that she didn't feel sorry for what she has done. What do I do? Help

2006-08-14 09:35:45 · 33 answers · asked by sam_davis331 1 in Marriage & Divorce

had a friend who gets upset about everything, for example if something dosnt go her way she is upset for the rest of the day unless you can cheer her up, which is hard because once shes upset she usually isnt ok until the next day. or if she complains about being broke, wants a new car, and yet she is always spending $$$ if she wants it she will get it most of it is gifts for her family which is nice but she should be thinking about how much she actually has to spend. or if she wont do anything, she dosnt like to tlk to people she dosnt know, but she is always complaining about not knowing any people but isnt talking to people the way to get to know people or am i wrong, and if one thing is wrong with somethig that she is doing she will throw a fit, then either quit it or start all over. what can i do she is a really good friend, but i am starting to really bug me but i dont really want to say anything because i dont want to hurt her feelings?

2006-08-14 09:35:43 · 6 answers · asked by NoOneKnowsMe 3 in Friends

by the way the both of them are really good friends... is it a way of the guy to let the girl know that he has feelings for her? do guys do normally do this to their friends or they have to be at least ineterested in a girl?

2006-08-14 09:33:53 · 19 answers · asked by taylorhanson 1 in Singles & Dating

My wife and I are separated now and it is mainly because I could not open up to her. I love her dearly but was never ever to overcome my fear of rejection and my insecurities about myself. These fears about her not loving me – the real me – stopped me from ever letting her see the real me. I was always afraid that I was never good enough and that anything I did – from planning surprise vacations to performing in the bedroom - would not be good enough. So instead of trying harder, I tried less. You can’t “fail” if you don’t try. You can’t be “rejected” by your wife if you don’t pursue her. Now that we have talked and I have explained all this to her, the anxiety seems really stupid. Things are less scary once you say them. I needed to realize that there was nothing I could tell her that would make her love me less. Not letting her in is what made her love me less. As much as it kills me, for us it looks like it is too late. Even with me opening up now she seems to be gone.

I have been doing a lot of soul searching since the separation and found a great article that really spoke to me. Here is part of it:

“It feels good when our partners agree with and validate us, but you can't count on it. If you demand it, you can land in the crazy conundrum that creates eternal insecurity: We put a spin on what we reveal about ourselves in order to get the response we want. Then we can never feel secure with those who accept us because we know they don't really know us. When you are willing to validate yourself, you can afford to let your partner know you as you are. You stop presenting yourself the way you want to be seen, and you just disclose with no other goal than being truly known.

Self-validated intimacy sounds like: "I want you to know me before I die. I want to share with you my days, which would otherwise be less meaningful. It would be nice if you agreed with me, wonderful if you liked me. But most of all I want to know that somebody really knew who and what I am. More than I fear your rejection I fear never reaching across my mortality, which separates me from you and others. I will care for my own feelings, Just know me--including my sexuality."

This was me. I never felt comfortable enough to just let my wife know who I am and what my desires were. This put up a wall between us and drove her away. For all of you out there that are doing the same thing – DON”T. Tell you loved one what you feel and share your feelings. This will ultimately make you stronger. Don’t make the same mistake I did and let the best thing you ever had slip away because you were too afraid to show that person the all of you.

Good Luck

2006-08-14 09:33:32 · 15 answers · asked by Steven H 1 in Marriage & Divorce