Am really down in the dumps all because of my rubbish boyfriend. On Saturday I had the worst migraine of my life and we had a bit of a row because I always feel like I am at the bottom of the list of his priorities for various reasons. Things got a bit heated on the phone and he really hurt my feelings by saying I sound like a loon and that I should get some friends or a hobby. He also said he feels like he has to justify everything he does to me. He backtracked straight away and said he didn’t mean it like and was all grovelly straight away – but that really hurt my feelings!
Anyway things calmed down and I was too ill to care anyway. Then on Sunday it was our anniversary and he was working all weekend and he said we should do something Sunday. We talked about it a couple of times and I said I would like to go for a meal because we never do - and I know it sounds stupid but our first anniversary was important to me. Anyway Sunday comes and he says he’s had a hellish day and can’t face going out for a meal so we end up in the pub watching footy and having a roast dinner which I had to go and buy( again) before the shops shut. Needless to say I was not best pleased and really disappointed – I was really looking forward to him doing something special for me for a change and it really hurt my feelings – he just doesn’t care. I was really quiet all night ( I didn’t want a row) and he started getting worried, turning it round like he was the victim because he can’t help it if he has to work and has no money etc etc. Was I going to dump him? Etc. It’s funny how he always finds money to go the pub. Then he said we can do something next Saturday “as long as I am not going to be in a mood”.
Is it me – do I need to lighten up or have I got every right to be upset about this? It’s getting so painful for me – I really do love him and they say actions speak louder than words – he doesn’t have to tell me he doesn’t love me, I know he doesn’t, that’s what hurts so much. I can tell as well he doesn’t really want to commit and move in with me either – the plan was after Xmas and now he is going on about us going on holiday in February, he has not intention of saving up for a deposit and when he talks about where he lives it’s as if he intends to be there for the foreseeable future.
As usual he is being the best and attentive boyfriend today, calling me up, buying nice things for dinner tonight etc. But he does this all the time and soon goes back to being selfish and thoughtless.
Is there any hope here? He is 32!
2007-10-29
02:13:18
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