I know this b/c my mother recently told me. I was sick b/c she was laughing about it.
When I was older, around 7 or 8, my older brother who was 12 at the time, sexually abused me.
When I was 9 my cousin sexually abused me.
I consider myself bi-sexual and have always had issues with feeling good about sex.
What effect could the abuse I went through as a child have on my sexuality? I have tried therapy but never got anywhere with it.
Thanks to all who respond...
2007-10-29 02:15:41 · 10 answers · asked by asldfkjdfj 5 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I don't feel bad abt being bi - it's just that I think the sexual abuse has made me very non-committal in relationships. I have a hard time letting my guard down.
I was probably born bi-sexual.
2007-10-29 02:34:36 · update #1
A dog will hump anyone big or small its not a sexual abuse issue its the animal world.Your mother has problems herself and she sounds like she uses poor judgement as a parent, perhaps she doesnt know any better. The dog should have been fixed. As far as your sexual abuse you can get through this. You were and still are innocent. You didnt deserve this. You can help others get through their pain. I have been sexually abused as a child and it gave me low self esteem as a child but I have worked through this by talking to others who have also gone through this. If you need to talk email me. You will be fine. The dog wasnt trying to abuse you the poor dog is a dog he or she is acting dog like. People have their dogs fixed as a rule so they dont have this problem.
2007-10-29 02:23:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm very sorry to hear about your tragic childhood.
Your mother A) shouldn't have told you if you had forgotten and B) definitely not have been laughing that's just plain wrong, she may need help on how to be a parent.
As for you brother and cousin I sincerely hope that all of that has stopped. If not you need to tell someone so it does stop ASAP.
As for the question about if these abuses could have an effect on your sexuality that is hard to answer without knowing you as an individual. But in general it won't affect your sexuality, however it may make you weary of sex generally and you may have an aversion to “male” contact especially if the memories are of pain and guilt.
You really need to talk to a professional for proper help and counseling. You need to learn that what happened in the past is now gone and you can do nothing to change it, but use it to become stronger.
Good luck with your situation
2007-10-29 09:33:09 · answer #2 · answered by Dragon Prince 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't underestimated the significance of therapy. If you feel you have issues establishing a healthy committed relationship - then you really need to consider trying talking with someone.
I don't think your experience has anything to do with your bi-sexuality. Although I've heard that victims of sexual abuse often become very promiscuous - maybe in hopes of regaining control of their bodies & sexuality.
2007-10-29 11:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by LADY beautiful mind (is sexy) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't be that embarrassing if your prepared to put it on here.
And I find it tragic your mother can laugh at you over such a sad event. You can't blame the dog but can certainly be aggrieved at your parents for allowing the abuse to go on.
Sadly these things happen. You need to talk about your past with a good friend and then try and put it behind you.
In theory the abuse should not affect your sexuality unless you allow it too.
The right partner of whichever sex will make you feel comfortable and be sympathetic to the horrors of your past
2007-10-29 09:21:37 · answer #4 · answered by TIM M 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
WOW, 1st. All male dogs will jump & hump anyones leg thats standing still, this isn't abuse! It happens all the time!! Your Moms attitude is is abuse!! 2.) Kids are very couriuos, to the point of looky/touchey, I hope this is as far as this went! 3.) Let your cousin know you remember his actions, and tell him,"never speak,acknowledge, or pretend he knows you". If his parents are alive tell them what this lil bas@#@d did to you!! And then get on with our life!! SEX is the greatest gift from the GOD above!!! Enjoy it, share it with your friends, and enjoy being bi. & not to be embarrassed about it !!! GOOD LUCK
2007-10-29 09:33:10 · answer #5 · answered by happywjc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the problem is not from you .;. thats normal... thats happens children have sexuality(your brother and cousin they passed the border), a dog by instinct can try to make sex... the problem is that you didnt learn how to protect yourself .the important today is that you have to know that you are not obligatted to be unhappy . Jesus can erase all your hurts . confess your sins and accept him as your Saviour he will change your life! romans 10:9
2007-10-29 09:37:54 · answer #6 · answered by alex a 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
1st thing You need to understand is past is past, it should not matter to you in your present or future, because wot has happned in past you can not change it. So live in present and think positive and forget you have any past relation/knowledge with these old incidents. Be brave and go out with guys and soon you will identify your new relationship with your own sexuality.
2007-10-29 09:26:56 · answer #7 · answered by itsmehottie 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Dogs always do that, they hump your legs... Its annoying, you just have to newder them.....As for the rest of your question I have no addive, but you have my prayers.
2007-10-29 09:32:35 · answer #8 · answered by Tea Crazed Person. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
give it up man. abuse has NOTHING to do with your sexual orientation
2007-10-29 09:23:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
im sorry that all that happened to you.
2007-10-29 09:18:39 · answer #10 · answered by Chelso 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋