I love my boyfriend very much. Since the start of our relationship, we have read self-help books trying to work out our issues that have developed in the past so we don't bring extra baggage into our new relationship.
We have agreed to talk openly about our emotions so to keep his anxiety at a low. This is where the problem resides.
When I talk about my negative feelings, he takes on my emotions and gets depressed. I feel unsupported and he tells me that he doesn't know what to do. When he talks about his negative feelings, I try to consciously become an objective, active listener (he requested this) but yet, despite my efforts, he complains that I don't listen, even when I offer my suggestions and invite him to open up more. This leads him to become sad and me to feel guilty.
What is going on here?
2007-10-21
23:48:15
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Kyoko
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