My hubby had an affair, and up until last night, i was willing to try to forgive and try to work on it. All because of what he said. He said "he had the perfect set up this summer, he had the woman that he loves and 'her'". My mind processed that like this: He finds perfection in having his cake and eating it too and THAT is the prefect life for him, that just him and me are not good enough for him. He explains it like this: That at the time he had the affair, that was a good situation for him. We were having a very bad marriage at the time and he did have me and her, and she was a woman who never argued with him, he didnt have to fight to get sex. He says it was a temporary perfect situation, but his perfect life is me and him. I just dont know how to deal with that statement. My fear is that if he finds that behavior 'perfect', he will do this again. He says i misunderstood him and there is a difference between a perfect temp. situation and a permanent perfect life......
2007-01-10
02:33:16
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