My wife and I had one of those long, drunken conversations the other night for New Years'. Y'know, one of those things where you speak your mind and tell it like it is? Anyway, she said (not in so many words), that I need to take charge and be more aggressive in the bedroom.
Here's the situation as I see it. I'm not very assertive when it comes to sex because my sex drive is significantly greater than hers. As a consequence, I used to ask for sex a lot and get shot down most of the time. This hurt, so I quit doing it. Today, sex only happens when she initiates it.
I'd previously thought that this is how she liked it, but apparently this wasn't just the wine talking and she wants me to initiate more often and be more aggressive (for lack of a better phrase) when we have sex.
I'm not really sure what to do with this. I'm pretty sure I know how to initiate, but what does she want me to do differently?
PS: We've been married 2 years, have no kids and have sex about once or twice a week)
2007-01-02
05:52:48
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