We have only been married for five months. He is 41 and I am 39. We were both married once before. He was married 16 years and I was married 18 years. Both of us were cheated on by our former spouses. We did rush into this marriage, I admit...but we were PERFECT for each other, and we really felt like God was blessing our relationship. I LOVE HIM SO MUCH, but we have SO MANY disagreements, and so many nights with one of us sleeping on the sofa. He as alluded to a divorce several times in the past five months, but he finally said "I want a divorce" yesterday morning. We are both Christians, and I know a divorce would be wrong. When I told him it was wrong, he said I was trying to make him feel guilty. I love him, and now I love his kids, and I *think* he loves mine. He says he won’t change his mind. He is angry. He says our lives have too much drama, and he can’t take it anymore. We have had “drama” with his ex-wife, with my ex-husband, with his teenage daughter, with my teenage daughter, with my grown son, and with my sister. It has been very stressful, and has given me so much anxiety, but this is no reason to get divorced. He sent me a love note (text message) two days earlier, which said "You are a beautiful woman, inside and out. The greatest wife a man could ever want. Your ability to mother children is untouched by anyone. You give so much love to me & make me feel like a real man. I LOVE YOU! THANKS”. I want to believe that he loves me, and that he is having “temporary insanity”, but I am scared, and I believe that he is truly ready to throw our marriage away. Last night I asked him if he was a man of God, and he said “I guess not.” I can’t believe this. Should I talk to our pastor, or to a counselor, or to an attorney, or all of the above? I don’t know what to do. Please help me. I am praying and fasting. I will not eat until he changes his mind.
2006-12-11
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