My boyfriend is from a country where, although not as common, still seems to hold onto the idea that women take care of the family, make dinner, and take on more of the home care burden then the men. Every now and then we'll fight because our place is a disordered. The reason we fight is because he always makes comments about me being American in regards to what he (I think) secretly believes are women's roles in the home. When he brings it up he talks to me like I should know this, and is flabbergasted that I do not. I feel like he's trying to parent me sometimes. He makes comments for instance that since I was basically raised by my Dad, I must not have learned how to clean or take care of the home. Wish he was a fly on the wall, because my Dad was strict about chores. I also did not pay to live there, so I had to help out! My philosophy is that if you make the mess, you clean it. I'm not his mother. That usually makes him more angry, but I grew up learning to be independent and taking care of my own messes! How do I tell him that this is my way, American or not.
2006-08-15
02:03:45
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Jazy
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