Why do I always criticise other people? Am I insecure?

Answer 1

You could be or then again you could just be a *****.

Answer 2

Maybe you are, or may you're just someone who has a taste for perfection. You might be the type of person who wants everything and everyone to be perfect. Naturally, this isn't a problem, since having this kind of attitude motivates you and others to do the best you can to making something work. But if things start going too far and you find yourself becoming unreasonably critical, then maybe its just time to relax and cool down. Remember, if the world was always perfect, we wouldn't appreciate it the same way we do now.

Answer 3

We criticise other people because we are aware of our own faults. If we accept that we are not perfect, that we have faults, then we can accept faults in other people easier. All of us make mistakes. We do the wrong things, say the wrong things, even hurt people without truly meaning to. If we accpet this, deal with the situations, then move on, that's OK. If we just focus on our faults and the faults of others, we hold ourselves and others back. Try positive criticism. Make sure that, whenever you feel like saying something negative to someone, you turn it into something positive instead.

Answer 4

It makes no difference why you do it. It's annoying for everyone else, so you can stop doing it. Other people don't need a running commentary on their faults!
Next time you feel like it, don't. Bite your tongue. Try saying something else instead. Or nothing.
Practice giving constructive criticism. Try to re-phrase what you were going to say, but in a positive way.
Have a go at making other people feel good about what they do instead.
If you really can't figure out how to do that then you need to put yourself in a position where you open yourself to criticism, try taking an art, writing or photography course.

Answer 5

I think you probably are insecure. If you find it necessary to criticise others instead of seeing the good in them and appreciating their efforts, then there is obviously something lacking in yourself or your life. Lighten up. Not everyone is great at everything. It costs nothing to be nice. Try it!!

Answer 6

When people feel inadequate or intimidated (not up to par or standards of others) they sometimes criticize others to cover their own pain & emotional hang ups of issues that they have. This is a sign of low self-esteem. So yes, it is true that you may be insecure.

When some people have low self-esteem they will criticize others to make themselves feel better about themselves. They try to demoralize others, cut them down and say hurtful things so that they feel superior. But in reality, these type of comments makes the person look shallow, hateful & mean. Not to mention stupid. And it will cause others not to want to be around these type of individuals because of their hateful comments.

When people criticize others about, let's say clothing, what this says is that 'clothing' is important to them and they have a criteria of what they think is appropriate, etc.

So whatever the subject of the criticism, it is usually some kind of insecurity that the complainer has.

Answer 7

A person often criticised when he or she him self has low self esteem to make themselves feel better. So my answer is yes you are insecure.

Answer 8

Hi Violet

you might be abit insecure sweety, sounds like there are some unresolved issues that need to be hit head on, but hey, don't be to hard on yourself, your already asking the questions, so you can't be too far from the answers. Who knows, you might just have a really big heart too. :))

Answer 9

You could be. People who criticize tend to be insecure. You might have been criticized as a child, or are a child of alcoholic parents. Children of alcoholics are very critical, I know because my mom was a child of alcoholic parents and she was very critical of me. Since you are aware of yourself, try to be careful about what you say to people.

Answer 10

As ma Mammy always say's if you cant say anything nice, dont say anything at all. But maybe you pick up the points you dont like about yourself.

Try biting your tongue or just saying something nice about a person you might feel better about yourself.

Answer 11

don't know if you're insecure, but i am of a similar disposition and my reasoning is that people on the whole deserve it!
Maybe we are just misanthropic in nature.