Senior Citizens

My mother, who is not ill but cannot live without me helping her out financially lives with me. I think it is time for her to live in a community with other seniors so that she will have a social life and I need my space. My other siblings don't help me here and I was considering that it'd be best to have her in a senior community.

It seems the websites for these places don't list exact costs for this. We're in NY, so if anyone has any idea how much it costs monthly for a senior who is not ill to live in one of these places, please advise.

I have ordered brochures but thought some of you might have some answers for me today.

2007-12-23 04:47:21 · 6 answers · asked by Crystal S 4

Is there something you want to say to someone living or dead, just something that's been heavy on your heart?

Sometimes we need a place to say something in our heart without needing a reply, right?( Just the counselor surfacing in me again, though Roseann RoseannaDanna tries to stifle her a lot.:)lol

I post this in a kind spirit so please, please respond tactfully. Even if what you have to say is venting in can still be done tactfully.
I chose to post this in the Senior section because they are family to my heart.

2007-12-23 04:37:13 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Dear Santa:

I rarely ask for much. This year is no exception. I don't need diamond earrings, handy slicer-dicers or comfy slippers. I only want one little thing, and I want it deeply.

I want to slap Martha Stewart.

Now, hear me out, Santa. I won't scar her or draw blood or anything. Just one good smack, right across her smug little cheek. I get all cozy inside just thinking about it. Don't grant this wish just for me, do it for thousands of women across the country. Through sheer vicarious satisfaction, you'll be giving a gift to us all. Those of us leading average, garden variety lives aren't concerned with gracious living.

We feel pretty good about ourselves if our paper plates match when we stack them on the counter, buffet-style for dinner. We're tired of Martha showing us how to make centerpieces from hollyhock dipped in 18-carat gold. We're plumb out of liquid gold. Unless it's of the furniture polish variety. We can't whip up Martha's creamy holiday sauce, spiced with turmeric. Most of us can't even say turmeric, let alone figure out what to do with it.

OK, Santa, maybe you think I'm being a little harsh. But I'll bet with all the holiday rush you didn't catch that interview with Martha in last week's USA Weekend. I'm surprised there was enough room on the page for her ego.

We discovered that not only does Martha avoid take-out pizza (she's only ordered it once), she refuses to eat it cold (No cold pizza? Is Martha Stewart living?) When it was pointed out that she could microwave it, she replied, "I don't have a microwave."

The reporter, Jeffrey Zaslow, noted that she said this "in a tone that suggests you shouldn't either."

Well, lah-dee-dah. Imagine that, Santa!

That lovely microwave you brought me years ago, in which I've learned to make complicated dishes like popcorn and hot chocolate, has been declared undesirable by Queen Martha. What next? The coffee maker?

In the article, we learned that Martha has 40 sets of dishes adorning an entire wall in her home. Forty sets. Can you spell "overkill"? And neatly put away, no less. If my dishes make it to the dishwasher that qualifies as "put away" in my house!

Martha tells us she's already making homemade holiday gifts for friends. "Last year, I made amazing silk-lined scarves for everyone," she boasts. Not just scarves mind you. Amazing scarves. Martha's obviously not shy about giving herself a little pat on the back. In fact, she does so with such frequency that one has to wonder if her back is black and blue.

She goes on to tell us that "homemaking is glamour for the 90s," and says her most glamorous friends are "interested in stain removal, how to iron a monogram, and how to fold a towel." I have one piece of advice, Martha: "Get new friends."

Glamorous friends fly to Paris on a whim. They drift past the Greek Islands on yachts, sipping champagne from crystal goblets. They step out for the evening in shimmering satin gowns, whisked away by tuxedoed chauffeurs. They do not spend their days pondering the finer art of toilet bowl sanitation. Zaslow notes that Martha was named one of America's 25 most influential people by Time magazine (nosing out Mother Theresa, Madeline Allbright and Maya Angelou, no doubt).

The proof of Martha's influence: after she bought white-fleshed peaches in the supermarket, Martha says, "People saw me buy them. In an instant, they were all gone." I hope Martha never decides to jump off a bridge.

A guest in Martha's home told Zaslow how Martha gets up early to rollerblade with her dogs to pick fresh wild blackberries for breakfast.

This confirms what I've suspected about Martha all along: She's obviously got too much time on her hands. Teaching the dogs to rollerblade. What a show off.

If you think the dogs are spoiled, listen to how Martha treats her friends: She gave one friend all 272 books from the Knopf Everyman Library. It didn't cost much. Pocket change, really. Just $5,000. But what price friendship, right?

When asked if others should envy her, Martha replies, "Don't envy me. I'm doing this because I'm a natural teacher. You shouldn't envy teachers. You should listen to them." Zaslow must have slit a seam in Martha's ego at this point, because once the hot air came hissing out, it couldn't be held back. "Being an overachiever is nothing despicable. It is only admirable. Never lower your standards," says Martha.

And of her Web Page on the Internet, Martha declares herself an "important presence" as she graciously helps people organize their sad, tacky little lives. There you have it, Santa. If there was ever someone who deserved a good smack, it's Martha Stewart. But I bet I won't get my gift this year.

2007-12-23 04:19:37 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have read that there are massive pile ups due to the storms and at least 5 deaths. One pile up was reported to involve at least 50 . What a horrible thing for these people

2007-12-23 04:15:22 · 11 answers · asked by slk29406 6

If they find anything on your background checks, will the Masonic Lodge still let you join?? Or does it depend on what the guys decide themselves??

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2007-12-23 02:34:05 · 15 answers · asked by MamaSmurf 7

There are 10 kinds of people in this world. Those that can read binary, and those that don't.

2007-12-23 02:31:57 · 13 answers · asked by Tinman12 6

2007-12-23 02:07:48 · 41 answers · asked by cymry3jones 7

I like pastels.

2007-12-23 00:32:23 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-23 00:26:55 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi, I know this sounds far fetched, but who else over the age of 60 and a pensioner, would like to see a pensioners union.

If you think about it, pensioners could have a great amount of clout in this country, because by all sticking together we could change the face of any election.

Anybody else have a thought on this subject?

2007-12-23 00:25:23 · 11 answers · asked by Lazybones 5

I always worry that whilst out in town ...searching for a sick phone...I'll be run over by a "bleeping" reversing truck.

2007-12-23 00:23:11 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm 24, & my mom will be 60 next month. She's always urinating on herself, & she REFUSES to wear those diapers. Sometimes, we think it's DELIBERATE. A couple of years ago, she urinated in my BRAND new car because she was jealous that I had a new car & she was riding around in a cracker jack box. When my brother got his new apartment, she urinated on his carpet & then said, "Yeah, M/Fer I pissed on your carpet!" & when you go to her house, it smells pissy. She gets offended when you don't want to sit on her pissy couch. & then you go home smelling like piss. I heard she was schizophrenic & mentally out of her head. She's out to ruin all her kids' lives. How can you be jealous of your kids? She tried to murder me & my twin sister when she was pregnant with us & shortly after we were born. She always brags & boasts about how she's smarter than all her kids. She has a GED, while I have a college degree. She never wants to see us get ahead in life. She's always trying to hold us back.

2007-12-23 00:11:36 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

Like I've reached a certain age and this is pretty much how it is going to be. Not in a negative way but that all of a sudden you just see the young people and and realize that you have spent so many years waiting "to make it" and thinking about the future but now you decide how important it is to live in the moment? It's like the years have flown by.

2007-12-22 23:56:41 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2007-12-22 23:48:40 · 38 answers · asked by ⓑⓐⓨⓢⓐ ™ 6

why we are not getting enough mail on Senior Citizens.I have just posted three and put them in the wrong category - we are just old 'f.....ts'

2007-12-22 23:34:51 · 11 answers · asked by Sally Anne 7

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2007-12-22 21:38:45 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi, my grandad was born in 1920 so this is his 87th Christmas and I'd like to get him something nice. He was born on a farm and grew up poor so that rules out nostalgia items I think, I duno he never talks about the past which is kinda sad. Nowadays he just watches the news and smokes, and goes from one of his daughters house to another. I'm sure most people will be getting him ciggarettes or socks but I dont want to give him those because a) I cant buy ciggaretts and b) they're repetive and not special.

So if you're 87 what would you like or if you are not, what do you think I should get my grandad? (Oh and I can't spend Christmas with him, he's with another family so don't say spending Christmas with him)

2007-12-22 21:23:27 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have such wonderful memories of my Grandparents and still miss them a lot! I love you Grandpa, I love you Gram!

2007-12-22 20:08:48 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am asking this again. Since my last question similar, was
deleted. So I wanted to give a best answer to the one
with the most detail.

2007-12-22 17:57:32 · 15 answers · asked by Lynn 7

I must ask...do you really like fruitcake ? Are there honestly people out there besides my mom who actually went for the fruitcake opposed to the fudge and cookies ? Hmmm I wonder ! Sweet dreams!

2007-12-22 16:53:53 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-12-22 16:14:49 · 4 answers · asked by Sue M 2