Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender - December 2006

I have recently befriended a guy who says he is gay. and every time he meets a guy whom he likes i do the interested annoying friend thing and try to get him to pursue it further. but what he says is that he would never get involved in a committed gay relationship because, although he is gay, he plans to get married to a woman some day. he says he's not bisexual. he's just gay now, but will leave that behind as he gets older.
it's not like he's an insecure guy, quite the opposite. and all of his friends and family are very accepting of his sexuality. to everyone involved it's not an issue.
i have other very close gay friends and i know that they would probably choose the easy life of a heterosexual relationship and conventional family unit if they could, but they can't because that would be going against everything they are and feel.
even though it's none of my business really, i would really like to understand his situation more (if anyone could shed some light...?)

2006-12-15 07:55:42 · 16 answers · asked by spiralling 3

2006-12-15 07:40:51 · 12 answers · asked by pleasingboy2 1

According to him he hooked up with him 4 times, our discussion is should he tell her? (He is not out yet)

2006-12-15 07:29:43 · 17 answers · asked by dicksee87015 1

He loves to go shopping with me. Picks out what goes with what. Carefully collects perfume. Prefers to shower with a women's perfumed shower gel. Is very conscious of his clothes, if they match and why and how; color co-ordinates his glasses to his keychain and jacket... Knows every song by Sandra Cretu, Villiage People and Dalida (Greek-Egyptian singer). Belly dances. Loves interior decoration. LOVES buying and collecting shoes. I thought he was for me, but once we had married last Spring, he tells me that when he married me, he intended it to not be a true marriage. Tells me that he left his country and came here based on me, "To get away from it all a while". He is depressed; goes to a counsellor for it. Does not even touch me let alone be intimate with me unless I beg him (which I stopped doing!)...for days! When asked when we will build a family (we've been engaged for almost 3 yrs), he says that he does not want to. "I should just sit in the desert." he said. Any advice?

2006-12-15 07:28:42 · 21 answers · asked by ms_moonlight1977 2

i think this guy at school likes me and he is super shy! i really, really like him! oh, we are both gay too.

2006-12-15 07:18:47 · 14 answers · asked by I Smoke Cigarettes 3

As a minority, I have felt like we do get discriminated at times....but even minorities discriminate against each other. Even when I was a little girl I tried to make friends with an African American little boy and he told me he didn't like Mexicans. What do people have against Mexicans and other races. Everybody in America is the same, right?

2006-12-15 06:56:54 · 12 answers · asked by miley 2

I had written before about this butch that I really liked. I thought of the surprise gift...nothing to extravaggant...Let me know what you guys think..a pair of movie tickets? Look at my previous question if you can...

2006-12-15 06:50:05 · 7 answers · asked by lOvInG mOmMiE 3

Lesbians only..... what do u look for in a girl?

2006-12-15 06:37:04 · 8 answers · asked by Trish W 1

I am looking for a gay bar in LA that plays more rock/alternative music as opposed to bubble gum dance. Does anyone have any recommendations? I am from NYC, and I miss the East Village scene there.

2006-12-15 06:35:25 · 1 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-15 06:17:42 · 17 answers · asked by preppy 1

a website dedicated to the diversity that exists in the gay community

2006-12-15 06:10:27 · 7 answers · asked by yo_soy_mestizo 1

I was straight till 23 then i suddenly become attracted to women, sex with man always was great.

2006-12-15 06:02:10 · 28 answers · asked by N 2

2006-12-15 05:56:21 · 3 answers · asked by ashmita r 1

2006-12-15 05:51:32 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous

Im a bi and i've been with my girl 4 2years on n off... she simply cheated on me after a year of us being together n i took her back.. im in love! She wont stop talking to her n i said" if you love me and u wanna work it out u will let her go" she wont do it.... I mean yeah its hard to tell a freind that you cant be friends with them anymore but for me... i thought she would do it...Now that i layed down the rules for her shes mad...and now she started going out with the other girl, i was devaststed... Shes calls me everyday and asks me to come see her... i just dont understand... I started talking to this guy and hes in love with me we've been talking for 4 months now but i think he wants to make it offical but i'm scared cuz i still love her!!!?? i know here and the other girl arent gunna work but i dont wanna waste my time waiting n get hurt anymore..... thankz

2006-12-15 05:44:01 · 6 answers · asked by Roxanne S 1

2006-12-15 05:43:27 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-15 05:42:12 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-15 05:40:36 · 22 answers · asked by JC 1

2006-12-15 05:38:00 · 16 answers · asked by CRAIG H 1

Why shouldn't i take myself outa here once and for all?

2006-12-15 05:25:57 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

Last week, while my best friend and I were talking in my bedroom, she told me she might have fellings for women. I'm wierdly religiouse and having a friend who's a lesbian isn't at the top of my to do list. I'm freaked out and don't know what to tell her. HELP!!

2006-12-15 05:24:57 · 39 answers · asked by Korey R 1

I'm still not out at work, I've been here for 4 months. I didn't invite my boyfriend to the holiday party because I was scared (I work in accounting and didn't expect my coworkers to be receptive). However, I discovered last night that one of my managers is a lesbian. Now I feel like a fool for not inviting my boyfriend, next year they aren't allowing guests. I would like to talk to my manager about it, but don't know how to go about approaching her on the subject. I really just want to feel more comfortable at work! Some of my coworkers sounded a bit unsure of how to answer me when I asked "who's that woman with 'manager'", seemed like they weren't comfortable with the subject. Please give me advice.

2006-12-15 05:04:12 · 17 answers · asked by Wanderer 4

there is alot of people at my school that like the same sex and some of these people havent even went through enough relationships or dont even live on there own to know .

2006-12-15 04:54:02 · 17 answers · asked by trackstardiva 1

I admit I am...but I don't know if it is okay...I thnk it is..but...I just don't know....

2006-12-15 04:48:21 · 19 answers · asked by Fire Crazed 1

Me, gay. got a live in boyfriend, 6 yrs now. I have loved another guy for 20. He was "straight" until last year. I went thru denial, big time. I could not have him, because he was straight. I moved on, physically, and sort of emotionally. My heart was broken when he came out. Obviously, i wasn't what he wanted, but i still want, and cannot have, him.
tomorrow, at this gathering, I meet the guy he's dating. I'm very jealous, of course. I have trouble talking about this guy. When i say his name, my b/f says "why do you sneer when you say his name?"
I need an emo-suppressant for dinner tomorrow. I could take a rubber band and snap it on my wrist if bad thoughts occur. I'll be driving, so drinking won't work, but maybe lots of caffeine? I have this icon my cousin made for me of a lightswitch in the "off" position, labeled "EMOTION" I'll make a card and keep it in my pocket.
Any other ideas?
Emotions suck!!

2006-12-15 04:46:39 · 15 answers · asked by Muchmoor 1

I certainly don't.

2006-12-15 04:44:03 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just found out that my man in NC (i live in TX)has the same religous background as me Jehovahs witness I seldom attend christian meetings anymore my dad was hard core into it and i no longer live with him i live with my grandma who is also a witness and my man doesnt go at all but is willing to go again because he knows that what they preach is the truth we are not baptized but he says i should go to the meetings to have everlasting life a hope all witnesses have Were only 16 and plan to get together at 18 so does this make us closer??

2006-12-15 04:35:51 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

Okay, where to begin!! my boyfriend and I have been together for A year and a half and is has alot of gay tendencys from using lip smackers with sparkles, to body shimmer lotion which he says he uses because he ran out of his own, to having the sountrack to queer as folk season 3, his bestfriend admits he is straight but acts extremely gay and my boyfriend admitted that when he stays the night with him they sleep in the same bed.(what the fu*k), He was alone with my bestfriends boyfriend and out of no where asks him " have you seen brokeback mountain? and he said no, an my
boyfriend said " its a reaaally good movie". There is a gay guy that works at blockbuster and everytime I go in there with my boyfrend he give my boyfriend special treatment and flirts and says things like
" Im mad at you" it makes me really uncomfortable, He constantly brings up things too like " i saw two gay guys walking down the street today" , " how can u be gay and not know it?"

when i ask him he saysno

2006-12-15 04:25:13 · 14 answers · asked by KV 1

Gays seem to like men who are more like women. Lesbians seem to like women that are more like men. If a heterosexual man liked women that were very manly people would assume he had gay impulses.

2006-12-15 04:23:55 · 11 answers · asked by scotto destructo 3

2006-12-15 04:20:37 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous