I just found out that my man in NC (i live in TX)has the same religous background as me Jehovahs witness I seldom attend christian meetings anymore my dad was hard core into it and i no longer live with him i live with my grandma who is also a witness and my man doesnt go at all but is willing to go again because he knows that what they preach is the truth we are not baptized but he says i should go to the meetings to have everlasting life a hope all witnesses have Were only 16 and plan to get together at 18 so does this make us closer??
2006-12-15 04:35:51 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
A religious background doesn't necessarily make you closer. You both can be sitting in the same house of worship but if both people aren't applying what's taught to their daily mode of living - then you're not compatible or equally yoked. Just going to a house of worship doesn't automatically make you a Christian - faith without works is dead.
I am very familiar with the teaching of The Witnesses and I'm sure if you speak with some of the Sisters and/or Elders in the congregation you will be told that at age 16 the two of you should focus on The Truth and becoming stronger. Don't do it just for the sake of 'getting closer' to some guy. Do it to learn more about Jehovah, His kingdom and the chance at living forever in the new system.
A common understanding of the religion does help the two of you because at least you don't have to spend time getting him to understand your religious background and vice-versa. But in all honesty - at age 16 you might love him today and be over him next week. I grew up with several friends who were baptized Witnesses and unfortunately they weren't the strongest in their faith and often hypocrites - going to the Kingdom Hall regularly but living a double-life and when I'd inquire why did they get baptized they'd explain they did it for their parents, or for someone else.
What you need to do is learn The Truth get a better understanding of The Bible most importantly for yourself. But please - please - please don't do it just because you think it will make you closer to some guy.
2006-12-15 04:45:12 · answer #1 · answered by The First Lady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes and no it shouldn't be an issue of making you two closer you should focus on bringing yourselves (individually first) to God. Then once you have a level of understanding about how you should live your life then work on the life of "we." Religion is a common ground the and the Bible says two people shouldn't be unequally yoked. You should have the same religious ideas and background so you don't stuggle with it once you are together. You should know where you stand in your Christian life before you try to bring him in on it. That way you don't question something he says or just go with it because he said it. You will know what it right for you and your life because it is what God would want you to do and you are sure of that!
2006-12-15 04:42:35 · answer #2 · answered by Erin B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that might make you "closer" is actually living closer to him. You can chat online or on the phone all you like, but intimacy really needs physical closeness.
Yes, you, and him, could start going to church again but, communication with him would be the best way to get closer.
Maybe read the same books, watch the same movie, listen to the same sermons on radio/tv/web, and then call/email him afterwards and discuss it with him. See what he thinks. Getting to know each other brings you closer, not just having the same interests.
2006-12-15 05:37:36 · answer #3 · answered by joannaserah 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having the same religious background is almost indispensable for a good, happy marriage, or any lifetime relationship. I do not agree that the Jehovah's Witnesses are correct, but if both your boyfriend and you have the same philosophy, it makes all things you approach easier to view in the same light. He can also be more understanding and sympathetic... as well as supportive, and vice vs.!
2006-12-15 04:41:23 · answer #4 · answered by Bec P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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It worked better when they forced you to chose a category up front.
By the way, to answer the question. Yea. I think having a similar or same religious backgrounds improves the chance of success of the relationship. Differences cause tension especially when it comes to raising children because which religion gets priority? That won't happen if you're both the same religion.
2006-12-15 04:40:00 · answer #5 · answered by BiyGuy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Scriptures clearly instruct a true worshipper to marry only another true worshipper. The parents or guardian of a 16-year-old should help determine if the youth is prepared for dating, courtship, and marriage.
(Exodus 23:32) You are not to conclude a [marriage or other] covenant with them or their gods.
(Deuteronomy 7:3) And you must form no marriage alliance with [unbelievers]. Your daughter you must not give to his son, and his daughter you must not take for your son.
(1 Corinthians 7:39) She is free to be married to whom she wants, only in the Lord.
(Nehemiah 13:25) You should not give your daughters to [the unbeliever's] sons, and you should not accept any of their daughters for your sons or yourselves.
(2 Corinthians 6:14) Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers.
Learn more:
http://watchtower.org/e/19990215/article_01.htm
2006-12-15 08:03:34 · answer #6 · answered by achtung_heiss 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i always here adults say that having the same religous background does make you closer. but then i don't know i quess in depends on the person. Hope it works out for you two.
2006-12-15 04:39:03 · answer #7 · answered by chedderapples 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it does make you closer actually closer then you may think my ex bfs brother was going out with this grl that was in our school and she was a very pretty girl it turned out her and her family were jehovah and once things got serious and they began to love eachother is when her family gave her an ultamatum either she leave him or be disowned by her entire family he was catholic so he was considered the devil to her father so believe me you guys are closer then you think both your families will approve good luck girl
2006-12-15 04:42:19 · answer #8 · answered by bkgrl718 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"... that all who believe in me shall not perish, but have everlasting life" means just that...Going to meetings won't enhance your chance to go to heaven, it just gives you fellowship with others who believe as you do. It may bring you closer, though. Good luck and God bless.
2006-12-15 04:41:50 · answer #9 · answered by boots 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should religion matter? Christian, Jew, Islam, etc., we're still all humans. You're lucky you're from similar backgrounds. Why not go- what have you to loose?
2006-12-15 04:39:26 · answer #10 · answered by Ministry of Camp Revivalism 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋