So what do I do?
I’m so lost. I am totally & completely in love with my boyfriend. I’m use to having a very close relationship with him. He opens up to me & tells me what’s going on, I do the same with him. We have a closeness I rarely see in others. But since he’s left for Iraq…things have just been tough. I can feel him pulling away from me. He was fine for the first couple of months, but since he got to Baghdad. He’s closed up. He won’t talk about himself, he won’t tell me anything that is going on, even what he’s allowed to tell me. His letters have become brief & there is nothing about himself. It’s hey, miss you, love you, how are you? How’s your family? And that’s it, nothing else. His emails are even shorter & more about me sending him so & so bill or he needs this or that & if I could send that to him, that would be wonderful.
I am incredibly hurt. I’m trying to be understanding but my own feelings are getting in the way. When I ask him how he’s doing, he gets really short with me, he says, ‘I’m fine I’ll be fine, we just will never talk about this place.’ I don’t understand. I feel like I need to do something to be useful…I’m at a complete loss, of how to help. He says he’s protecting me from unnecessary worry, but I don’t feel protected in fact the way he’s acting has me worried more then I think I’ve ever been in my life & my imagination is running wild. Like I said my own feelings are getting in the way of my logic, and I’m not thinking very straight right now.
Does anyone have any idea what is going on with him? I’m guessing it’s some kind of self defense mechanism…what can I do to help? Please any advice would be very much appreciated.
2006-12-12
09:41:40
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Little Nell
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