Mental Health - September 2007

I know what it is sort of... but not fully... Ive been posting in about problems ive had and some people have commented saying i have ocd... here are a couple of 'strange things' i cant seem to stop doing:
-Sitting infront of the heater like haveing it under my feet everyday whether its hot or cold summer or winter... ive got scars on my lower legs and feet now and i still do it...
-Plucking my upper lip everyday sitting in the mirror 4 hours even when theres no hair there i desparatly try get some out... ive got spider veins forming on my face because of this..
-I feel the need to put biooil on all my scars on my body 2-3 times a day and if i miss i get annoyed.
-I am the biggest perfectionist when it comes 2 art my teacher has complained 2 my parents that i take too long on everything trying to make it perfect...
-I get annoyed at little things that arn't perfect like putting pages facing the same way in a clearfile.

2007-09-25 00:17:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

Pl answer this as a matter of opinion and not as what the law books state

2007-09-24 23:42:55 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

that are abrupt, condesending, patronizing, and pertinant with you?
you feel they basically just want to rouse you, get at you personaly, make you annoyed.

i struggle with assertiveness and dont have much confidence, plus i dont want to play into their hands by getting angry or losing control.
so how can i handle it whe i feel authority figures do this to me?
intitially i try to be nice, but ive felt they try to take advantage of me, are short and abrubt and patronizing. but you have to be carefull because they can turn it around on you and make you look like you were in the wrong.
i'm so scared of getting angry because of difficult people who show lack of respect and talk down to you, like you dont no what you are talking about

2007-09-24 23:08:19 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm just so depressed I can't even get out of bed, & I pray every day to be better & stronger. My excessive absences due to depression are affecting my grades. & my depression is affecting my health & I'm not motivated enough to study, eat healthy, nor exercise. Getting out of bed to go to the bathroom is a chore for me. I just don't have any energy. I'm lying on my matress on my laptop. & also, I find that I can't sleep @ night & finally fall asleep an hour before I'm supposed to get up for school. I already have my college degree, but I'm taking extra classes to help boost my GPA, but it's not working because of my depression. I feel like I'm so hard on myself & I'm stressing myself out more than I need to. I really need help. & mental health professionals are making my mental health worse instead of better. Meds never work for me, even on high dosages, & people think I'm just not taking them, when I am.

2007-09-24 22:51:19 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My other ? was.. "are all men addicted to porn?" which is based on what the man Im dating said. He has since given up porn, or so he said, and he is on meds for his bipolarism. We had a nice five days together, but I had to leave early. While I was gone, we ended up arguing saturday night. In the midst of this, I got a weird call from a PHONE SEX OPERATOR! She said "I know all about you, I know him, you don't know me, but he's heavily into to phone sex and has been calling several women, ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! We had phone sex 3 wks ago & that you've been at his place and just left the last 2 days".

She told me stuff noone else could know, but most compelling was what she knew concerning my whereabouts. Only HE could tell her that. I confronted him and he is TOTALLY denying it. he says Im being pranked, thats impossible, Ive told noone. He said he would "sue her for slander". His porn addiction led to this. I don't know what to do. Pls help and advise. (I will respond in "details")

2007-09-24 21:36:47 · 4 answers · asked by Jen 1

James Kellogg, master hypnotist came to our school today. I was chosen to be one of 12 subjects. Out of 12 subjects, I was only 2 out of 12 who were not put under hypnosis. He told me thanks for trying...and made me go back to the audience. Do you think it's bad if you can't be put in a state of hypnosis. The other 10 people were doing everything he said. I don't know....but I think I'd rather have someone not be able to control my mind. I heard about 20% of adults are unable to be hypnotized, 15% are highly hypnotizable, and the rest fall in the middle.

2007-09-24 20:51:56 · 7 answers · asked by fiestyligerwoahman 2

2007-09-24 20:48:46 · 3 answers · asked by rohit8207 1

I use to be really good in school. I made straight a's. But now that I am in college, I can't focus! I can read a whole chapter in a book and not be able to tell you one things about it! Most of the time when I am reading or studying, I start to think about other things and i can't focus. Sometimes when I am talking to someone, I forget what I am talking about mid sentence. I hate interviews because it's so hard for me to answer a simple question like"what do you like to do" I can't even think about what I like to do....i hate this, what is wrong with me?? I am failing all of my classes. I don't go out at all! I don't drink smoke or do any types of drugs

2007-09-24 20:36:51 · 2 answers · asked by jessica.p 1

I don't have a favorite anything! not a favorite fruit, singer, color...anything I can never make up my mind about something and my handwriting is always different when I write, it's like there is nothing that defines me....my voice changes, i don't talk a certain way..sometimes i talk really proper and sometimes it's kind of ghetto, I don't even have a certain clothing style or guy preference....it's like i'm not one person, but a bunch of different people. No, i'm not bipolar..lol i just wish that I could define myself and I can't because I don't have a favorite anything! BASICALLY, the way i do things are not consistant, and everyone around me seems to know who they are and what they like except me...im 20 years old by the way

2007-09-24 20:31:44 · 5 answers · asked by jessica.p 1

My friend is 27, has completed her M.Sc. with a pleasant personality. She has been engaged for 1 year and the date of wedding is decided to be within next few months. She says that she is not interested in getting married. there is no strong reason sometimes she says that her fiancy is not good looking or some times she argues that she do not want to take responsibilities after getting married or object the age difference (he is 35) or says that she want to do job and have want to have a better carrer. we are not clear that what is the actual reason. and according to our opinion it was a good proposal, well educated, nice family , normal looks of the person (not ugly). her parents say that they cannot wait now as she is already 27 furthermore they think that it will be a perfect match for her. any one suggest what is the reason that she behave so and what should we do.

2007-09-24 19:57:28 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-24 19:31:58 · 11 answers · asked by info.girl 2

Ok here is the problem.
Something happened some time ago that forced me to change my social surroundings. I want to talk about it so bad but whenever I try around my friends they either say "Leave it to a journal", "Nobody cares", ect. ect.

When I try to go the journal route it only seems to build on the emotions rather than help.
It seems that whenever I try to talk about it no one wants to hear it and they tell me to leave it in the past.

There has to be other was other than talking to others or writing in journals but what other ways are there?

2007-09-24 19:00:44 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

I wake up pissed off.... i dont know why... my boyfriend is really great, we have a nice place... whats wrong with me? When i wake up like this my boyfriend takes the brunt of it and it sets him off... then i feel like a totally horrible person... am I???? or is there some other reason for my anger...... does anyone know??? am i the only one? Am i just some horrible *****?? I really dont want to be that person but i dont feel like I can help it.... someone help!!! please?

2007-09-24 18:21:29 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

They are abusive. They are negative. They have 114 books under the their bed on mental illness. They were group leaders for NAMI for parents with mentally Ill children and played out a total hoax for 10 years. Im not ill. They tell each other they are crazy and locked me up in hopes they would make me think I was crazy and never expose them. The police got me out when my boss called them. Whats their illness?

2007-09-24 18:04:40 · 5 answers · asked by theroadwetake 3

2007-09-24 17:24:53 · 11 answers · asked by april m 1

According to my friends, I appear to be extremely confident and self-assured. I'm really glad that I come off that way, however anyone that really knows me will know that I have very little self-confidence.
Basically this is only regarding my physical appearance. I have alot of drive and ambition, and I don't really have any negative feelings about my personality. It's only really about physical appearance.
I want to work on this, but I really wonder if this is the kind of thing that can never really be "fixed" - is it a hopeless cause?
Will going to a therapist really help me boost my self confidence???

2007-09-24 16:47:23 · 7 answers · asked by kalokerikoritsi 2

I backed out of the ECT treatments last week. I already know the risk and the benefits of ECT. I was scheduled for the treatment and I got scared. I've been on so many medications and years of therapy and now I'm faced with ECT. My question is about alternatives to ECT. I know that ECT is a long commitment. 3 to 6 months of treatments and once a month after that to keep the depression in check. I've heard good results and I heard bad results. Why is the treatments so long? Even with good results, the success rates are still low (but higher than medications). The down side is memory side effects.

2007-09-24 16:25:35 · 5 answers · asked by byee77777 2

I am foreign exchange student. i have been in usa for 4 years. At first everything was ok. The people i was hangingout were doing drugs, therefore i did it too. ( these people were also in school and seemed to be doing everything at school and out just right) I did extasy for a year about 20 times all together and quit( that was 3 years ago) i have been smoking weed 4 4years daily and quit a month ago and did meth amphetamine about 5 times in the past year and the last time ( a month ago i snorred a thin line) i dont do anythig anymore. But have a problem seems like after the last time i snorred that line of ice ( a thiny one) and after i quit weed ( quit weed a little before i did the last ice) i cannt stop my brain of thinking and worrying about a lot of stuff. I happens every day and it gets to the point that i will have a headache around my forehead and side. I just think myselfe to death. I just work all day long 6 days a week. Dont have time for friends or girlfriend.

2007-09-24 16:00:47 · 9 answers · asked by The Blade23 1

ok my moms 47 years old and has a bad case of depression...she thinks of herself as a freak! we have told her time and time again that she is not!!! she gets upset because she cant remember things and has a bad memory...she says that she is just going to take a gone and spatter herself over the wall!!!!! i mean i am 16 i dont know what to do!!!!! she works at a bank that seems to give her a lot of stress!!! She says the thing about killing herself about once a month maybe once every two months...and i felt really bad for her and i get upset when she says it but she tells me that i am the only thing thats holding her back from suicide!!!!! now just tonight she said she wouldnt shoot herself she would just fill the garage up with carbon monoxide and stay in the garage until she dies!!! i once again thought she was joking but then she said i WAS the reason for keeping her from killing herself...but now she thinks that i am miserable with her because shes a bad mom...and i dont need her...

2007-09-24 15:24:03 · 10 answers · asked by stryker4591 1

I need some examples of double binding for school, what is something that an instructor might say to me that would put me in a double binding situation, here is what wikipedia says about it. Thanks

The double bind is often misunderstood to be a simple Catch-22 situation, where the victim is trapped by two conflicting demands. While it is true that at the core of the double bind are two conflicting demands, the difference lies in how they are imposed upon the victim, what the victim's understanding of the situation is, and who imposes these demands upon the victim. Unlike the usual no-win situation, the victim is largely unaware of the exact nature of the paradoxical situation he or she is in. This is because a demand is imposed upon them by someone they regard with respect, and the demand itself is inherently impossible to fulfill. Bateson defines the double bind as follows (paraphrased):

1. The situation involves two or more persons, one of whom is designated, for the purposes of definition, as the "victim". The others are people who are in some way in a higher position to the victim, for example a figure of authority such as a parent whom the victim respects.
2. Repeated experience. The double bind is a recurrent theme in the experience of the victim and as such cannot be constituted as a single traumatic experience.
3. A primary injunction is imposed upon the victim by the other person in one of two forms: (a) Do "X", or I will punish you. (b) Do not do "X", or I will punish you. The punishment is assumed to be either the withdrawing of love, the expression of hate and anger, or abandonment resulting from the authority figure's expression of extreme helplessness.
4. A secondary injunction is imposed upon the victim that conflicts with the first at a higher and more abstract level. For example, "Do what I told you but only do it because you want to." However, it is not necessary that this injunction be expressed verbally.
5. If necessary, a tertiary injunction is imposed upon the victim to prevent them from escaping the dilemma.
6. Finally, Bateson states that the complete list of the previous requirements may be unnecessary in the event that the victim is already viewing their world in double bind patterns. Bateson goes on to give the general characteristics of such a relationship:
1. When the victim is involved in an intense relationship; that is, a relationship in which he feels it is vitally important that he discriminate accurately what sort of message is being communicated so that he may respond appropriately.
2. And, the victim is caught in a situation in which the other person in the relationship is expressing two orders of message and one of these denies the other.
3. And, the victim is unable to comment on the messages being expressed to correct his discrimination of what order of message to respond to, i.e., he cannot make a metacommunicative statement.

2007-09-24 15:19:21 · 3 answers · asked by Lisa 4

I have a seriously traumatic fear of flying, the only thing that works is strong xanex, but it leaves me feelig even worse. I have tried meditation, teas, yoga, relaxation techniques and fear of flying courses, nothing works. I fly overseas in two weekw and the anxiety is already out of control? Any tried and true tricks?

2007-09-24 15:14:42 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am especially attracted to her bloomers. She caught me the other day and suggested that I get a job and move out of her house.

2007-09-24 15:01:56 · 9 answers · asked by Ciao P 1

Are there any other options for someone who needs to see a psychiatrist, but the wait is 3+ months? I know the ER is an option, but that is pretty extreme for the situation. What else can be done? Is there anyway the hospital would "fit you in" for certain circumstances? And just to vent...isn't it sick that there is such a long wait?! People don't make psych appointments because things are going great...

2007-09-24 14:51:04 · 9 answers · asked by peacemaker 4

im addicted to it. i act out in certain classes to get it (this is all in my mind, i would never act out unless the teacher was not speaking english) and i am ask questions on this site to get responses. i get no attention because i have to watch my bro for 3 hours every day, and then when my mom gets home, she makes food, i work some more, and then i sleep. i have few friends, all that are busy. I WANT ATTENTION

how do i stop wanting it?

2007-09-24 14:50:15 · 5 answers · asked by Q 2

when i was about 15 i was abused by my father.

im 17 now and it still bothers me a lot, i have low self esteem, poor body image, drinking issues, eating issues, and self injury issues.

but the one thing that bothers me the most is that i can't keep relationships for very long...as soon as somebody does the slightest thing i don't like it's over. and something in my head tells me this isn't the way it's supposed to be, i hate not being able to trust or feel anything for anyone...i've been to counseling but it didn't help, i haven't told anyone about this because i don't want to be taken out of my house...any help?

2007-09-24 14:32:51 · 11 answers · asked by mae 3

2007-09-24 14:25:16 · 7 answers · asked by Aleah 1

It took me a long time to accept that I was depressed. I just thought I was tired and needed some rests. After 5 plus years of medications and therapy, it hasn't helped. It was a long and frustrating road and after all this suffering and to still be depressed is beyond frustrating. Believe me, I've really tried. I know it has to be something wrong with me. Even different psychiatrist have tried to help.

Question: What would you do when everything available fails?

2007-09-24 13:43:55 · 7 answers · asked by byee77777 2

Dear yahoo Answerers,

I need some help in this department. I have been bitten with the jealousy bug for a long time now and I need some help overcoming it. I can't stand being like this. It feels I should have a better position in life and done more for myself. My significant other seems to be more intrigue with others and what they do and seem to be more interested in them. This makes me feel downright worthless. Do you have any sort of advice for me?

Thanks a bunch!!!

"Butterfly"

2007-09-24 13:29:47 · 4 answers · asked by Butterfly 1

I started using yahoo answer like 2 weeks ago and I am now so addicted to it that it is like one of my daily needs……are you guys addicted to???

2007-09-24 13:23:06 · 28 answers · asked by Mudblood 2

I know this man, that after he separated from his ex became completely fixated with his daughter (3). When he is with her, he cuts off all forms of communication with the outside world, doesn't answer the phone, door, etc. because he doesn't want anything to interrupt his time with her. He is not practical about having anyone else in his life. Should it be a concern about his obsession with his daughter? It is really bizarre, forgetting to simply close the front door of his house and leaving it wide open for hours because he went upstairs with her. I find this behavior to be unhealthy for the child because she will always expect her way etc. Thoughts? References? Is there a name for this?

2007-09-24 13:19:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous