My other ? was.. "are all men addicted to porn?" which is based on what the man Im dating said. He has since given up porn, or so he said, and he is on meds for his bipolarism. We had a nice five days together, but I had to leave early. While I was gone, we ended up arguing saturday night. In the midst of this, I got a weird call from a PHONE SEX OPERATOR! She said "I know all about you, I know him, you don't know me, but he's heavily into to phone sex and has been calling several women, ENOUGH IS ENOUGH! We had phone sex 3 wks ago & that you've been at his place and just left the last 2 days".
She told me stuff noone else could know, but most compelling was what she knew concerning my whereabouts. Only HE could tell her that. I confronted him and he is TOTALLY denying it. he says Im being pranked, thats impossible, Ive told noone. He said he would "sue her for slander". His porn addiction led to this. I don't know what to do. Pls help and advise. (I will respond in "details")
2007-09-24 21:36:47 · 4 answers · asked by Jen 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Well he has no recent ex's. He's been single for years. He said he's been getting "calls" someone asking for me by name, a mans voice, and claiming I have phone sex with him. that is an utter LIE. he's been getting hang ups for weeks on end now, he says its a man. But Sunday I heard from this woman & she DID sound like a sex operator. She said he gave her my number when they were having phone sex 3 wks ago & thought it would be "HOT" if she called me. Later he changed his mind and asked her never to call and she said she wouldn't. Still later, she changed her mind, I think that she got tired of him involving me in his phone sex fantasies. She said all he talked about was ME when he has phone sex. She said Fri. night he told her "I want to drive her into a frenzy" meaning angrily. Mind F me no doubt, and thats when she thought "enough was enough" and refused to participate. She has tons of clients, one loss is nothing. I thnk this is an operator with morals, refusing to be part of it.
2007-09-24 22:17:09 · update #1
still open to reading more thoughts on this!
2007-09-27 00:54:38 · update #2
Don't lie to yourself. This hurts badly, and its not going to hurt less if you stay with this guy. Its like a sore tooth. It hurts to pull it, but its just going to get worse if you don't.
2007-09-24 21:59:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I really don't believe the whole story about the phone sex operator. Not saying I don't believe you.... but I don't believe that she really is a phone sex operator. Think about it, if you were a phone sex operator, would you want to get the guy in trouble, when he's paying you for phone sex? Why would she want to get rid of her customers? Even if he was addicted.... addictions put money in peoples pockets. Its like a bar telling a regular to go to AA. They don't want him to stop, cuz they want his money. Theres no way she was a phone sex operator.
Secondly, how did she know your number? I've never called a phone sex number, but most of them are either 900 numbers or you would pay with a credit card. I'd imagine if you're paying with a credit card, you have to talk to some customer service person to give your information, then you would get your "services", so, at no point would I see giving her your number. Also, do you think she would do this with all her "regulars", and if not, why him? If you weren't at his house when you got the call, how does she know your number?
What really happened, I'm not sure of, but she is someone he knows. He may be cheating on you, and she found your number in his phone, and maybe she found out those "things" that no one else would know by him just saying your a friend or something. Either that, or maybe she knew where you were based on your phone #. Maybe she's a psycho stalker and follwed him and found where you are. Maybe its a friend who's pissed at him and tryin to get him. There can be a lot of explanations, but one thing is for certain, it is not a phone sex operator, and it is someone he knows.
As for a porn addiction, I don't think all men are addicted to it. Most men probably like it, and may watch it from time to time, but I wouldnt say all are addicted. You'll have to make your own decision, and maybe with some details I could try to provide some more insight, but, if I were you, I probably would just get rid of him, as it doesn't seem like he's a good fit.
2007-09-25 05:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I missed the part where it explains WHY you are with him? If he cared about you, he would (at bare minimum) keep this aspect of his life TOP SECRET. He is a loser and will break your heart. Not all men are addicted to porn. Many are interested in sexual content i.e. pic's, videos,stories, etc. but it does not interfere with normal life and relationships.
2007-10-01 11:29:09 · answer #3 · answered by Dynamic H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what a wonderful relationship...Ask him to see his phone bill...tell him he isn't going to sue anyone, and I never heard of anyone calling to tell you that your boyfriend was addicted to porn...it almost sounds to me, that he is doing this to pezz you off..the phone sex person, ain't gonna give up that money to 'help' your man stop his addiction...uh, nope. something fishy about this whole thing..dump the guy and find someone who doesn't need to call strangers to get his kicks..you don't deserve that, and this can be a costly hobbie..but make him show you his phone bill or his credit card bill..and hang up if this hooker ever calls you again
2007-09-25 06:34:38 · answer #4 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋