Other - Family & Relationships - 12 December 2006

My late spouse passed almost 3 years ago of a brain tumor. My family are interstate and I have never built a network of friends.

I have since married and now have a 7 month daughter. I was desperate to move forward with my life. I am sure I rushed at this.

I cannot speak of this to my wife, we have spoken in the past about it, but all it does is end up hurting her. You cannot compete with someone that is no longer present and in someone's fantasy.

I still have her ashes in the garage, and obviously ignoring this does not make it fade away. I am unsure if I love my current wife, but I want to do the best for my daughter.

I still feel guilty and angry about her passing. She was such a greater person than me, and if I had a choice I would have died for her. All I can do about my anger is rationalize it, as no one was to blame, it never gets directed anywhere.

I don't know what to do

2006-12-12 15:59:39 · 7 answers · asked by bumbass2003 3

Im a Capricorn according to astrology what would be the best astrological sign to "hook up" with??

2006-12-12 15:49:23 · 8 answers · asked by cutie 2

I recently asked my grandpa which generation came over to America in our family tree. He answered it, and said I should ask him more questions while he was still alive to answer these types of questions. Honestly, I can't think of anything to ask, but would like your advice on some good questions.

2006-12-12 15:44:59 · 25 answers · asked by TJDANE 1

I do it every year, I chose a different major, drop out & try again next semester. I don't know where I'm going and I feel like I don't care, which is worrying me. I want to do it, but I was raised as the second bit brother of Jen Augustin, the one that talked a big talk but couldn't back it up. I never saw my parents a lot after my sis left for college when I was 10, I was always compared to her & the only times my parents talked to me was when they would say how Horrible I was compared to her. I grew up in a good nieghborhood, but the only kids there were 5 years younger than me & I never really connected with anyone. I felt lonly, lost, dispaired and just hated the world. My high school counceller thought I had drepression, but I never checked it out. After I left hom e I felt better about myself, but I still doubt myself. When I'm about to finish my major, I drop out. Basiclly I half *** it. I want to do better & have asteedy future, but I always compare myself to my sis, lil' help

2006-12-12 15:37:54 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

one person (that has passed on) for 24hrs (In perfect health once brought back) - Who would you bring back, why - and what would you do?

I am just curious, no reason for wanting the information except to see what others have to say.

I would bring back my grandpa - he passed away a few years ago. We would go eat at the resteraunt he always use to take me to when I was a little girl. Then, we would go fishing!! I sure do miss my grandpa. I would love to spend just one day with him, if he was able to come back and was in good health.

Ok - now on to your anwers .....

2006-12-12 15:27:00 · 8 answers · asked by Stasi 4

Okay, here goes, my mother is 60, disabled because of diabetes and heart problems. She does not have cable. Where we live it is impossible for her to afford it. Just for basic they want almost 50 dollars. So, for Christmas I bought her 6 movies that she loves. Last month we bought her a dvd player. I also got her a foot spa. She likes to do crafts, but I am unsure what to get. She already crotches. She can't afford the paints she used to do. Neither can we, to get all the stuff to start is almost 300 dollars. Plus, she lives in apartment building and oil paints are "smelly". Anyway, I would really like to get her something she could do to occupy her time. We talk on the phone 2 or 3 times a day, and she only lives a quarter mile from my house. So, I do get her out and stuff. But, I would love for her to have something to do that she would enjoy. Does anyone have any ideas? Please!

2006-12-12 15:21:47 · 6 answers · asked by C B 2

2006-12-12 15:16:22 · 7 answers · asked by rasckal 3

We have been together three years. The sex has been down hill.
He told me sex doesn't feel good and it is too much work to give foreplay. I always have to initiate and when I do, I get turned down nine times out of ten or told I am making a lame attempt to seduce him and if we actually do I don't get anything out of it because he just expects me to hop on top. For the past year he has been spending almost every day with his friend Tim - working on remodeling the kitchen. For four months straight every waking minute he wasn't working he was at Tim's working on the kitchen - for FREE. One day, I missed him and found him just hanging out with the guys and that hurt. I looked at his cell phone and noticed he calls Tim more than me and only text messaged me twice since July but Tim 12 x. Anyhow, he seems to jump hoops to help his friends and I feel invisible - like I am just there. I've told him how I feel, no change-says he wants kitchen done. He's been irritable around me too. Gay? Me?

2006-12-12 15:07:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

or they just making it out to be like that just to make other filipinos who are still in the Philippines envious???

I once had a friend who went to States and when she came back she said it was sooooooooo great and there are a lot of pretty clothes and shoes and she bought it a low prize and that the food was good and everything was awesome and that there are a lot of good things there which aren't in the Philippines. I was so envious. And I don't know if it was that great coz I've talked to some people too who have been living in the States for many years and they don't say things like that.

I wonder if my former highschool friend was making me envious.

So what's life really like for filipinos who work and live in the U.S. and in Europe?

2006-12-12 15:03:51 · 4 answers · asked by Mrs Brandon 3

Desrespectful, lies, difiant, wants to drop out of high school. And I need help is there anywhere I can send her?

2006-12-12 14:56:33 · 8 answers · asked by jim b 2

I'd liek to know your opinions , because i have seen a few mans using a piercing in their nose , and mostly all of the others that use it are all females.

2006-12-12 14:51:43 · 16 answers · asked by CarloZ12345 1

i am really tired of this man and he will not go away

2006-12-12 14:51:31 · 13 answers · asked by RICKY E 1

I was eating my lunch at a Chinese Restaurant. Minding my own buisiness, just eating my lunch thinking about Christmas shopping. This strange woman in the table next to mind, wrinkles up her nose and says "EWW, is that raw fish". I replied, no this is my lunch and looked away. Again she said, "Yeah but is that raw fish". Again I said "It was was lunch and would appreicate if she paid attention to her lunch and left me and my lunch alone. It was her, another female and a man. The guy jumped up from his chair and hollered "Fu_ _ that white Bit_ _, she wants to be like that because we are black". No I believe they were being rude. It seems like one of the 3 would have seen I was offended and that bugging strangers about their food is rude. Was he the racist or me? Do you agree they were being very ill-manner or was I in my reply?

2006-12-12 14:47:16 · 46 answers · asked by kitty cat 3

What do you think about people that lie? If someone lies to you, do you tolerate it , or do you call them on it? I hate it when people lie, espically for no reason. Do you feel the same?

2006-12-12 14:43:10 · 12 answers · asked by Mrs. SmartyPants 3

What do you do when it seems like ALL of your friends are two-faced, and you cant tell anybody anything any more?? Do you move ((not just because of that)) to a different high school and make new friends or what?

2006-12-12 14:30:30 · 8 answers · asked by ilovedancing4 1

My mom is not confortable with my boyfriend, i know she wants the best for me, but i know what im doing. In this year i've been through a lot , so i dont think she really realizes how she is hurting me when she tells me this.. any advices?

2006-12-12 14:28:07 · 9 answers · asked by lola 1

and he loves somebody else -
You just can't win.
And so it goes until the day you die.
This thing they call love,
its gonna make you cry.

I've had the blues, the reds and the pinks.
One thing's for sure...

2006-12-12 14:14:53 · 2 answers · asked by I'm Trying 3

2006-12-12 14:12:06 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you witnessed any form of child abuse would you have the courage to call child protective services? Would you intervene? Or would you walk away with a sick feeling in your gut wondering what you could/should have done?

2006-12-12 14:10:52 · 14 answers · asked by NautyRN 4

How far waould you go to get something you're dieing 4?

2006-12-12 14:07:52 · 11 answers · asked by TeBoNe 1

2006-12-12 13:51:31 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

i get in trouble for telling a girl who just hit me to get out of my face and she doesnt get im trouble i didnt even yell

2006-12-12 13:49:41 · 5 answers · asked by im lost come and find me 4

I have been the enemy since she was 11. I don't even have to be there & a problem is me. I work 2 jobs to try to give her all that I can. I have allowed her to dress the way she wants. She picks her cloths out at HOT TOPIC. She wears her hair the way she wants - in the color she wants. Now tonight she & I faught & it came to physical fighting. I faught back. I had to. She then called the police & they took her to a friend's home. Now what? I am scared. She has been my whole life. I just want back the little girl she used to be. I don't know when or why she started to hate me, but she does. I am the villian in all of her life. She sees me as her enemy. I did raise her to be independent. But I did not raise her to treat me this way or anyone. She has respect & kindness for everyone except me. I don't know what to do now or what will happen?

2006-12-12 13:44:20 · 4 answers · asked by shelly 3

2006-12-12 13:41:33 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

im a VERY shy girl and my friend told the guy i like that i like him and he said i was pretty but dosent know me how am i supposed to go to school tommorow!!!!!!!!!!!!! ahh he will tell all his friends HELP



i told my friend she THINKS i like him not that she KNOWS!!!!!!!!!!! ahhhhhh
my friend misunderstood

im 14
btw he likes another girL that dosent like him(it seems as if she dosent)

2006-12-12 13:34:34 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was adopted as a 3 month baby but have no desire or curiosity to find my biological parents or to even go back to the country in which i was born. Many people find this odd or like im hiding my true feelings. Has anyone been adopted and felt the same? Or found their bio parents but felt no connection or been disappointed?

2006-12-12 13:33:22 · 20 answers · asked by WomanSoHeartless 3

2006-12-12 13:26:33 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

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2006-12-12 13:15:18 · 17 answers · asked by × 7

My girlfriend and I have been going out for just over 2 years.
I am not a fan of condoms at all as I think they reduce spontenaiety, excitement and intimacy.
At the beginning of the relationship i was happy to wear them as there was a risk of her getting pregnant.
For the best part of a year and a half she has been taking an injection and we have been having sex without a condom.
Recently she went to the doctors because she had started to bleed sometimes during sex.
She had to have an unpleasant internal test for sexually transmitted diseses because we dont wear condoms.
I know that i havent been unfaithful and i believe she hasnt.
This test came back negative so wont be necessary in the future.
What i dont understand is that she has decided that she now wants to use condoms (and tried to sell me on the benefits saying shed be happier etc) or become friends - an untimatum.
What do you suggest?

2006-12-12 13:07:48 · 28 answers · asked by John 1

she love mp3 players
a dvd player to go any where
and clothes what should i get her

2006-12-12 13:04:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous