We have been together three years. The sex has been down hill.
He told me sex doesn't feel good and it is too much work to give foreplay. I always have to initiate and when I do, I get turned down nine times out of ten or told I am making a lame attempt to seduce him and if we actually do I don't get anything out of it because he just expects me to hop on top. For the past year he has been spending almost every day with his friend Tim - working on remodeling the kitchen. For four months straight every waking minute he wasn't working he was at Tim's working on the kitchen - for FREE. One day, I missed him and found him just hanging out with the guys and that hurt. I looked at his cell phone and noticed he calls Tim more than me and only text messaged me twice since July but Tim 12 x. Anyhow, he seems to jump hoops to help his friends and I feel invisible - like I am just there. I've told him how I feel, no change-says he wants kitchen done. He's been irritable around me too. Gay? Me?
2006-12-12 15:07:55 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ever see Broke Back Mountain Movie? dont get married, try talking to him, its better to find out now than later! When in doubt - SPY!
2006-12-12 15:13:06 · answer #1 · answered by jlchristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you have cause for concern here.# 1 your sex life isnt like it should be.#2 Why do you have initiate sex .#3 Suspicion of your live in with another guy. So my next question do you have any proof of him being gay? Well let him get the kitchen done and see how it goes from there. If he still isnt receptive towards you I think you need to dump his ***. Give him enough rope and he will hang himself. Hey the next time he goes and does a job with good ole Tim ( and you are free) go with him and see what he does. That is if finace will alow you to tag along. Maybe you can do something to help them as in whatever you do to restore a kitchen. Offer to take sandwiches or cook . Make him think you are helping and want to help. Just put the shoe on the other foot.Keep a close eye out. Good luck. Hope this will help.
2006-12-12 15:31:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there could be three reasons. I would automatically assume that he is gay seeiing that the tim guy is always calling him or texting, always spending time with him.
it could be u. he may be tired of the situation and the love that u guys one had has died to the point where he doesnt even desire u in bed.
Or he could be sleeping with another women and is using tim as a distraction. either way he is srewing someone else.
but the best advice i can give to u is to just call it quits. its obvious that this really bothers u and if he's not willing to change then he is not worth keeping around. believe honey there will be plenty of others!!
P.S i hope u used protection and please go get a check up!!
2006-12-12 15:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by superstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's time you moved on. What can you possibly be getting out of the scenario you described? "It's too much work for him to give foreplay???" OMG. He sounds like a selfish, immature case of arrested development. Let him go hang out with Tim and his buds. Whether he is gay or not, the point is, he doesn't treat you well, and you deserve better than that. Don't you think? And just remember, you get what you settle for.
2006-12-12 15:26:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need sometime apart. Take a week without him. Go to your family or friend for a week. Fight the urge to call him. See after how he feel or if he will call you. During don't spend your time thinking about, think about your dream,where you are and what you want to do in the future. You dont have to live like that.
2006-12-12 15:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by maliciaxoxo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I feel for you. I really think he could either be gay, or he has deep-seeded issues with sex and intimacy. I really think you should try to seek therapy with him, although he needs therapy alone too since those are his own personal issues. This is a sad situation, but there is some reason for his behavior. I wish you the best.
2006-12-12 15:13:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he is at Tim's house? He could be seeing another woman and lying to you about it.well even if he is not gay, he doesn't seem too into you. I think you know its time to move on and dont spend your time worrying about him being gay or straight.
2006-12-12 15:18:16 · answer #7 · answered by ShellyBelly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's defintely not into you, but I'm not sure if he's gay. Why do you want this guy anyway? FInd someone whocan't keep his hands off you.
2006-12-12 15:13:49 · answer #8 · answered by LSD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
COULD BE, SOUNDS LIKE HE REALLY LIKES TIM.
THINK TWICE ABOUT GETTING MARRIED.
2006-12-12 15:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~ISABELLA~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask HIM?
2006-12-12 16:08:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋