Desrespectful, lies, difiant, wants to drop out of high school. And I need help is there anywhere I can send her?
2006-12-12 14:56:33 · 8 answers · asked by jim b 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm 22 and how you're describing your daughter seems to remind me of the way I was when I was 18. I was lying a lot, and although I didn't want to drop out of high school I didn't want to go to college. My parents had a long and hard talk with me and explained to me that in order to gain respect from others I needed to respect myself. I ended up graduating from highschool. I made a compromise with my parents in which I took a year off before I started college and worked cuz my parents wanted me too see how hard it is for a person without a degree to live from day to day. I am now on my way towards getting a BA in psychology and I absolutely love my parents for keeping me on track when I needed it the most. I would say that you should have a serious adult conversation with her and explain to her how her behavior is going to effect her in the long run. If worst comes to worst tell her to finish highschool and get a job, by no means let her stay at home and do nothing, at least with a job she will be a productive citizen and will somewhat have the means she will need to support herself later in life. In my opinion, it could just be a phase maybe she's doing all these things just to get your attention. COMMUNICATION is the key to solving this problem. I don't think there is nywhere you can send her. Just explain to her that she needs to finish highschool no matter what. As for the lying and defiant behavior she could just be doing this for attention. Seriously just talk to her. Please, by no means give up on her she needs u the most at this moment in her life.
Best of luck
2006-12-12 15:22:26 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak with her...she may have problems that she feels she cannot talk to you about. Be respectful of her when she speaks and LISTEN!
If she is 18, it is possible that she is in her Junior or Senior year. Point out to her how close to Graduation she is. I believe that it is around $2500 more a person with a high school diploma can make than a person without one...you may want to check that figure.
If she is having trouble with her homework, etc. ask her if she needs help and spend sometime sitting at the kitchen table with her.
She may feel as though you do not care, but I am guessing that if you are asking for help, you do care. If you send her away, she may feel that you do not care even more and possibly then become lonely, etc.
Good luck!
2006-12-12 15:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by AllieAR81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You waited to long as a parent. At 18 she can do as she pleases. All you can do now is hope you gave her a good morale background and talk to her and let her know why school is so important. The disrespect and lies will pass when she moves out on her own.
2006-12-12 15:10:23 · answer #3 · answered by ohiomontana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get her to counselling and yourself too. She is on the road to destruction if intervention isn't started NOW. There are reform schools/camps you can enroll her in or send her to. She may relish the thought of being out from under you.. There are some anger issues here and they need to be identified and resolved. How about talking to one of her school counselors who can in turn talk to her...
It's a start....
2006-12-12 15:23:36 · answer #4 · answered by Patricia D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with my 18 yr old and checked into various places. The only problem is.....at 18 they are considered "adults" and have to go voluntarily. They can also leave the place voluntarily.
2006-12-12 15:40:42 · answer #5 · answered by marincaligirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is so much u can tell a person before they listen. sometimes u have to let people fall on thier *** to let reality set in. It might hurt but then there comes a time when she realized that u did try to help her.
2006-12-12 15:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by superstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would talk to her and ask her why she wants to drop out.
2006-12-12 14:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by Cupcake 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RE-FORM SCHOOL
2006-12-12 15:21:22 · answer #8 · answered by ~*~ISABELLA~*~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋