Hello,
I have been married to a wonderful man for almost 9 months. I am almost 30 and he is in hid mid-30s, and believe it or not, we are both still virgins.
We've fooled around some, but for some reason, I cannot bring myself to "give myself over" and relax enough to make love with him. Also, he has no idea what to do...so we are both like fumbling teenagers!
My husband wants us to get pregnant this year, but I am also scared of going through the physical trauma of childbirth (but we won't get that far anyway if we aren't together physically!). I would love to be a mother (in my heart of hearts, I'd love to adopt), but I'd also like to be a normal woman with a healthy libido. I know I have suffered anxiety and depression in the past, which I think affects things (I'm not on any medication)--it's like I just "freeze" and can't relax enough. Though we love each other, my lack of interest in sex is a barrier between us. My husband is always in the mood, but I never am. What can we do?
2007-01-16
11:53:16
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midwestdweller1
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Marriage & Divorce