Thanks to anyone who reads this and can give me some sort of direction. I am 18 and I like this guy who for the sake of argument, will name him "Lindo". I "met" him in a chatroom and we both live in the same city. After a few days of chatting online, he asked me for my phone number or for me to give him a call and block my number. But, I'm afraid. I think perhaps that since I do like him, makes me laugh (literately) - I think I may develop an emotional bond with him and I don't want that right now. I've been single now for 5 months from my first boyfriend, which lasted 3 years. And it was not a good relationship. He was abusive both verbal and physical. And I have put up my "guard" against the male species completely. But here I find myself, laughing and smiling with this one guy online & I can't even call him. I dont have the courage. I've told him that I just cant (reasons above) but he is persistant. Should he respect my decision to keep it online for now? or should I give it a try?
2007-01-16 11:56:05 · 5 answers · asked by Natalia 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
first yes he should resect your decision. when you feel you want to take it to phone calls maybe the best way is using a public phone that way he cant contact you intill you get to know him better. my advice is if things go realy well and in time you wish to meet do so around a lot of people like at a mall or something... if he is a good guy he will understand why you wish it to be this way. dont be forced into something you wish not to do... i hope things go good for you and good luck...
2007-01-16 12:10:33 · answer #1 · answered by hurts so good 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awe.. it is appealing and exciting when someone is interested in you. Being online is sooo different from meeting someone (in person)! Be yourself..and seems like you are.. Trust your instincts.. and be comfortable with your decision - whether it's to meet him or just leave it online.
You know the thing with the online r'ships is that ppl are more "free" to express themselves..and sometimes SOOO free that sometimes ppl take advantage of that and start exaggerating things...lies...
for example, someone may be really shy (in real life - person), but on the internet they can be the most assertive, gregarious person b/c no one knows them! and that's part of the mystery and that's what (in a way) makes online r'ships exciting. However!! Pls use caution and do trust your instincts. I think you're doing the right thing in that you're thinking about it.
And my personal advise would be to just take care of you for some more time since you did just get out of an abusive r'ship several months ago.
If he's the right guy, he'll understand.
Take care and good luck :)
2007-01-16 20:04:29 · answer #2 · answered by m m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful! A lot of people are pretending and lying on line. you do not know who he really is. There is a lot of older men on-line looking for much younger women to seduce. even though you are eighteen, you are still young and naive. I would tell you to be extremely careful. So many things can go wrong. Do not be in a rush to give him your phone number. If you call him, call him from a public pay phone. If you meet him, meet him in a public place. And also, trust your instincts. It is very good in warning us of some danger. Don't be bitter from a failed relationship, you are only 18 and will definitely find love again. The only thing is, be careful whom you get involved with as there are a lot of psychos out there.
2007-01-16 21:54:10 · answer #3 · answered by lovelyeyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he's serious about your friendship, he shold always respect your decision.
take it at your own pace and dont be pressured. you're been in the chatrom and you should know some of the unpleasant consequneces and some good ones too? needless to say more?
take it at your own pace and didnt get pressured by him and just protect yourself as every would?
2007-01-16 21:05:30 · answer #4 · answered by dream_drifter05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes he should respect your descision.
If he feels pushy to you then maybe is isn't so nice?
Don't push yourself too fast, if he really likes you and is a nice guy then he'll wait.
Good luck.
2007-01-16 20:05:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋