how can i get away from a spouse with out going to a shelter?

Question

I have no family here and i am not aloud to have friends it is physical abuse and i need a plan to get enough money to get a car and my kids out of this house i have family thats 2 hours from here but they are poor so i need to have enough money and a car to make a new start for my kids and me.

Answer 1

go to family

Answer 2

You really need to look into all the community services that are available in your area. If the spouse is being abusive it is even more important to get away fromt he situation. If you are compeltely against a shelter you can go to a friend or realitives place and then if it presists I suggest letting the authorities know and going through channels there. If you begin showing up at the hospital with odd brusies *speaking froma health care providers perspective* we are highly trained in being able to identify abuse and we are forced by law to report everything. Your well being and safety comes above all. According to Erikson, a psychologist, there is a pyrmid of needs that need to be filled to have a good life, the bottom being the basic food shelter and water needs. The very next step is Safety. If you are not feeling safe you can not be happy or comfortable. Make sure you take your feelings into account and utilize all networks that you can. Check your community it always surprises peopel what help there is.

Answer 3

the shelter is the best place for you to be if you are going to leave an abuser. They are there to help you get everything in order and to help keep you safe. Abusers are abusers for a reason, they have to feel like they are the ones in control, if you take the control away from them, then you are in danger. You will need to make sure that you have everything you will need to start your life over, for instance, your picture id. If you have kids, you will need birth certificates, social security numbers, school records, shot records, etc. It also helps if you take a couple of changes of clothing to a friends house and leave it there. You will find that although shelters are not a first choice for you, it is a stepping stone to a better life. They also can set up counseling for you to break the cycle of the abuse and to recognize the signs of an abuser before you get yourself back into a bad relationship. If you need to talk, you can find me at [e-mail].

Answer 4

Move out on your own if you can afford to, otherwise stay with family or friends, the most important thing is to get away from a spouse that is abusive. Also there are new shelters that have regular apartments that you can live in for two years rent and utility free, it is worth checking into. Best Wishes!

Answer 5

You could go to a friends or family's house. If things are abusive in your marriage you need to get away...no matter what!! Better to be in a shelter than in a coffin.

Answer 6

You don't say if he is abusive. If he is get out of there right away go to a friend , family and if he comes near you there report to police. after that go to a spousal abuse shelter they will help you find alternatives and be able to advise you.

Answer 7

call a family member

Answer 8

Call a local church and tell them your story, I am positive any of the members their or pastor would love to take you in or let you stay at the church without any hassle whatsoever.

Answer 9

you can come stay with me:) or a good friend or family that can help [e-mail] if you need help

Answer 10

divorce him o.k good