My boyfriend of almost two years broke up with me?

Question

I need some nice and helpful advice.I love him so much .But he says he doesn't love me, yet on saturday he told me that he'd always love me(We were having problems then)He says he want to forget everything that happened.we were the perfect couple. no one thought we'd break up. we always worked out our problems but he didn't want to this time.I had a really horrible child hood and he was the first and only person i told(besides my councilor, which i only started going after my boyfriend convinced me it was okay to get help)He was my first boyfriend and my first true love. He was my first time.My first kiss.i gave him everything.my body, and my trust.After we had sex i found out 3 months later that i had genital warts (HPV)which they still haven't gone away.We broke up b/c my bf's mom sometimes does stuff that really pisses me off and then i'd comment about it to my bf.he always saw it as i was attacking his mom. but i just saw it as expressing myself i know now i was wrong.

i lost the love of my life. we planned our whole life out together.now he won't talk to me about us he doesn't want to see me. he wants me to let go but i love him and care about him, somthing he says he doesn't.he didn't even have enough respect for me to tell me to my face he told me on the phone. it's just so hard to imagine my life without him.His parents separated us after they found out we had sex so we only saw each other at school. i'd call himat 7.45 every night to talk for 15 minutes before eight. cuz those were the rules. it just had to be that way. but it was all my fault that i lost the love of my life and i don't know how to get over it. it seems impossible





do you think it would be smart for me and his mom to get together and discuss the issues i had with her?

for a long time i felt like she was my mother more than the one i had(not any more) but i still see her as a role model and i don't want any hard feelings

Answer 1

You sound really young. Just remember that sometimes things seem larger than life and it might seem like you'll never get over this -- but you will. You sound very vulnerable to bad decisions right now.

The issues between your b/f's mom and you are of no importance. You are entitled to your opinions of her. Do not talk to her about any of this. That will only make things worse.

Sounds to me like your b/f is moving on and you need to do the same. Chasing after somebody who has said they don't want you anymore will be very hard on you.

The fact is, though you don't realize it, nearly all girls your age are so pretty. You'll find another b/f. You'll find many of them. But take some time to heal and you really need to move on.

If this is your first love, you'll get over it but you'll likely never get completely over it. But the pain fades and your memories will come and go. You'll always think of him but that doesn't mean that life won't go on, it will.

You're so young and have so much to learn. You have so many things you need to get straightened out. Keep up the work with the counselor.

I'll make you a bet. If you don't call this b/f and you just totally back off, he will be calling you again. But look, you really don't want that. Trust me, you don't. Move on and make the committment that you're not going to fall for him again. You really don't love him as much as you think you do. You're simply too young.

Do something to improve yourself. Get a good job or go to school. Take a step forward. It will help you with your pain.

Good luck to you. This will pass and life will go on. Lean on your female friends right now. They can help you the most. They'll also be able to fix you up with guys later on but don't rush into that right away.

Answer 2

I am so sorry for the pain you are going through. I would just try to live your life.. Give your self time to morn over him... Don't hurt your self more by trying to talk to him or his mother... Most of us have had our hearts broke at one time. But trust me when I say it does get easier...
Time helps people put things in perspective. Take some time to worry about you and too put your self back together...

Answer 3

i've got self belief he cares for u yet would not % to proceed the relationship. U ought to admire his determination because of the fact if u overdo the worrying relationship could additionally ruin. provide him a ruin. interior the interim, make some greater acquaintances and divert ur interest. U will actually get a solid buddy quickly.

Answer 4

u cant expect urself to move forward if u ar elooking back. the farther aa you get fromt he situation the easier it is to look back but keep going forwad. dont tun ur back to follow a skateboard b/c a mercedes may be right in front of you

Answer 5

Tough one, but if you really love you may want to try and be civil with his mom.