Family & Relationships - 18 September 2006

2006-09-18 09:31:29 · 18 answers · asked by booboo_305 1 in Family

I have a few important things to tell you, and I don’t know the best way to bring you my message. I am no good at conversations and the mail is too slow, so I am emailing you. I think I will be best understood this way.



I don’t know where to start, but first I want to thank you for the kindness, generosity, and attention you’ve shown me over the past 2 months. This has been a very special time, and I have enjoyed getting to know you and experiencing the pleasure of your company.



It would be selfish of me to pretend that we do not have a few differences. I have been honest with you in answering all questions, but some facts remain unsaid.



Several times over the course of getting to know you, you’ve mentioned in your outlook for the future that one goal you’d like to reach is to get married. For the purpose of total honesty, I cannot continue to refrain from telling you that personally, I currently have no future interest in becoming married and/or living with someone. You deserve to have what you want in life, and I do not want you to waste your time pursuing me if that is something important to you.



If what I have just told you ends it for you, then I will quietly step away and thank you with great appreciation for the wonderful memories. If you still wish to continue with seeing each other, making love, etc., I will be quite thrilled. Really, we can only take things one day at a time and see how it goes.



The notes you send me & the gifts are lovely. However, I am increasingly uncomfortable accepting gifts and your (very thoughtful and elegant) love letters. To me, things have moved too fast and have taken too serious of a tone. I hope you do not feel like I am rejecting you, because I’m not. I just cannot keep up with this pace. It scares me. Nothing like this has ever happened to me before, so I don’t know what to do.



On one hand I am amazed and flattered by the effort and emotion you put into these things, but on the other hand I am totally confused. I hope you are not offended by this question, but do you think you are serious when you write that you love me? I just can’t help but wonder if you’d say these things to any woman that came along, because you have been lonely for awhile. Please think about whether you are really in love, or just wanting a feeling to hang onto and that I just happen to be in your reach.


Whatever conclusion you may come to, please remember that I adore you and I greatly appreciate the comfort and relief of the physical contact you give me. I have made all these important points with a heavy heart hoping that I do not in any way cause you unhappiness.



I look forward to seeing you again, if you wish, and the chats we have. If this news is all total devastation to you, some consolation is that I can at least return to you a couple of your gifts which I have left unopened in the event of this not working out, so you can get your money back. I guess at some point I realized I’d better find out which way this is going to go, before really truly being able to accept your generosity.



So, I hope that I have stressed enough how much I appreciate you, cherish your kindness and what might even be a special bond starting to develop. Only time will tell. My offer to you is your opportunity to step away, no harm done, if my harsh reality has struck too hard. Or, maybe, you will be relived knowing you do not need to do all those grand gestures anymore. I know you will think about this thoroughly, and I will be thinking of you with a great amount of care and concern as you decide what is best for you.

2006-09-18 09:31:22 · 11 answers · asked by beat_this_program 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-18 09:31:12 · 30 answers · asked by natalie.waterson@btinternet.com 2 in Marriage & Divorce

don't you think it would be very painful or how do you find a person that will pierce it.

2006-09-18 09:30:06 · 8 answers · asked by Sandra 4 in Singles & Dating

my wedding is oct 7th. everything i planned but i cant figureo ut any favors. everything i think of people tell me is tacky or a dumb idea.

i want something that will be used, is non edible, and costs very little. were on a budget ( obviously) and this is the last thing to buy. anyone just recently had or been to a wedding where the favors where a big hit???

Please share
(only serious answers only please!!)

2006-09-18 09:29:17 · 27 answers · asked by MWD 1 in Weddings

Im 16 and they have started to become more frequent bout thrice in a month.Each time a greater force so much so i cud feel it in my sleep.And the end result is well really messy and smelly.Is this anything serious?Im a virgin and have never masturbated...and i dont want coz ive heard it can turn into a habit.Wot shud i do?

2006-09-18 09:29:15 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I am in Monterey County/Bay Area

2006-09-18 09:28:36 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Weddings

My husband and i just recently allowed his son and my stepson live with us.Rent free.He was to start saving for his own place since he has a full time job. Which i found out 2 days ago he was spending freely not saing any money.With this my husband and i are now totally at each other.~ My husband was not around him growing up.My (14) daughter thinks her father doesn't spend any time with her. How do i let my daugter know this is just a phase or is it?And should he pay his way? full time job~yes own transpotation~yes grad. from school~no helps around the house ~no "he 19"

2006-09-18 09:28:16 · 20 answers · asked by funnynotlost 2 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-09-18 09:27:15 · 20 answers · asked by morpheous143 2 in Marriage & Divorce

Lets get started me and this guy was kinda seeing each other i think any way.He is my mother's boyfriend son my mum found out that me and him slept together and kissed each other and she wasn't very happy but he dad was ok We used to go to the pub i used to go to the pub with my mother and he used to go to the pub with his dad.This guy and i used to flirt with each other all the time and we used to met up away from my mum.Even said lets get some beers and watch a dvd together and it was his birthday the next morning. But he wanted me to brake up with my boyfriend cause he was hitting me .Then he wanted me and him to get together .We did finishs cause my mum found out.But two years on on my birthday he was flirting with me asking to dance with him when my boyfriend went to the toilet and we he went home he gave me a hug and a kiss and the other day i saw him and he aways says hello so what i want to know is do u think he still likes me ?

2006-09-18 09:27:07 · 8 answers · asked by yates1239 2 in Singles & Dating

Hello Ladies,
Please share with me your first love. Was it sad? Happy? Both? Did you end up marrying your first love? My story was a little of everything, except the marriage part. All though, in my heart, I only belonged to him. Please share.

2006-09-18 09:26:25 · 3 answers · asked by Photographer 6 in Other - Family & Relationships

it's always lust or infatuation. i want to love and love and love. how do i know when it's real?? and how does it feel like? when will it come? and is it possible to fallin love more than once?

2006-09-18 09:26:05 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

"To the World,you might be one Person. But to that ONE Person,you might be the World"...Would this be a Cool qoute to make someones day?....and if so..would it make yours?..

2006-09-18 09:25:33 · 10 answers · asked by Crazy Munchie 2 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-18 09:25:20 · 9 answers · asked by beat_this_program 1 in Marriage & Divorce

Im 16 and they have started to become more frequent bout thrice in a month.Each time a greater force so much so i cud feel it in my sleep.And the end result is well really messy and smelly.Is this anything serious?Im a virgin and have never masturbated...and i dont want coz ive heard it can turn into a habit.Wot shud i do?

2006-09-18 09:25:16 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-09-18 09:25:14 · 1 answers · asked by tommiestanton 1 in Friends

it seems like the two of you are better off without each other. Like you are a better person without them than with them.

THIS IS JUST A QUESTION. PLEASE NO Dr. Phil answers about me improving my relationship. Again this is just out of curiosity.

2006-09-18 09:24:41 · 16 answers · asked by Microbiology.girl 5 in Singles & Dating

I was in a relationship with for about a month or 2 and before that we were really good friends and had an amazing connection we talked for at least 5 hours every night....but then we broke up cuz I was moving away he ended up calling me names for no reason it has been a month now and I just cant stop thinking about him or get him out of my head I just really miss that connection Im fighting my temptation to call him I know we werent together all that long but I really cared about him and have never felt a stronger connection with anybody I tried calling him like twice about 4 weeks ago and he never ansewered or called me back....I saw him about 2 weeks ago and we talked but it was awkward so I called him that night and he answered but he said he was at a friends house so we didnt really talk he said we should hang out when I get back into town and call him then and that was the last I spoke to him I still really want to call and talk to him should I? would it seem desprate?

2006-09-18 09:24:27 · 6 answers · asked by paperback_writer909 2 in Singles & Dating

im asking this question for my sisterinlaw

2006-09-18 09:23:44 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

My girlfriend thinks her guy is cheating. They have been married for 5 years. I think he is but I have no concrete proof. She has asked me for help? How can I help her prove or disapprove this? Or should I even? Do I leave my nose out of this? She is my best friend but the guy is my husbands friend. I am in a dilema.

2006-09-18 09:23:32 · 13 answers · asked by smr122179 1 in Other - Family & Relationships

So i am in a long distance relationship. I have been for about 3 months. At first it was going great, we talked everynight on the phone and occasionaly online too. but latly he hasnt been calling me, and im afraid he may have moved on. I dont know how to gain his attention and let him know that i love him. I am going to see him again in about two months but i dont know if our relationship wil last that long unless i do something drastic. can somebody help me? or is this a lost cause???

2006-09-18 09:21:35 · 16 answers · asked by sh3lbii_2401 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-09-18 09:21:14 · 33 answers · asked by Cardinal64 2 in Marriage & Divorce

your partner complains that you make it too tight on him and cannot just relax, what can you do or what does that mean?

2006-09-18 09:20:43 · 12 answers · asked by franky c 2 in Singles & Dating

Guys Only Question! I have always wondered what gets boys attention. I know that it is different for everyone but I was just wondering.

2006-09-18 09:20:18 · 12 answers · asked by babi_gurl 2 in Singles & Dating

My husband and I were at a wedding dancing a slow dance when my husband grabbed another womans butt,she was dancing with her husband.
This woman lives in a small town and I know this will be the talk of the town. My husband cannot figure out why I am so hurt about this. I don't know if I can ever forgive him!!

2006-09-18 09:20:14 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Marriage & Divorce

i HATE the wedding march and pachabels cannon...

2006-09-18 09:18:52 · 25 answers · asked by sugar 1 in Weddings

friends, family members, mass media?

2006-09-18 09:18:52 · 7 answers · asked by Jameca P 1 in Friends

2006-09-18 09:18:41 · 26 answers · asked by ? 2 in Singles & Dating

Gretchen's Dad was a Professor at Ithaca College. Has a Sister(Janine) and a Brother. Originally from Orange County,Ca. DOB:1/15/51.

2006-09-18 09:18:04 · 3 answers · asked by nursey_48 1 in Friends

to pay to live at home with your folks? How much do I agree on to be able to do as I please? I have lived on my own for almost two years, and now I am back at home. I want to know what is the right amount I should give my parents to stay there. Also what is the right curfew for a 20 year old.

2006-09-18 09:17:24 · 20 answers · asked by Crazychick 3 in Other - Family & Relationships