What is the appropiate amount....?

Question

to pay to live at home with your folks? How much do I agree on to be able to do as I please? I have lived on my own for almost two years, and now I am back at home. I want to know what is the right amount I should give my parents to stay there. Also what is the right curfew for a 20 year old.

Answer 1

Well, I would think a portion of the utilities and phone, you should buy all your own food, cook your own meals and clean up the kitchen after yourself, do your own laundry (and buy your own supplies for that), and I would expect only a small amount for room and board as long as you are a polite, considerate person.

If you are messy, noisy, leave clothes everywhere, don't help keep house clean and act like you are 16 again living at home, then I would expect all of the above plus a LOT of money for room and board, and I would be asking you to leave ASAP.

As to curfew, I assume your are considered an adult at 18 in your state? As an adult, you should come and go as you wish as long as you are not disturbing your parents' sleep by staggering in drunk at 2 a.m. It is their home, and if they can't go to sleep because they worry until you get in, or are awakened by you coming in at midnight, then you may have to change your night life. One of the prices you have to pay to stay there.

Answer 2

How much did you pay when you lived on your own? That's what you should pay your parents. But the terms should be the same as they were when you were living alone -- no curfew, and you live your own life. That includes doing your own laundry. But as you are doing it within your parents' home, that means no wild parties, if it's a non-smoking household you respect that, no drugs, etc.
It's awkward when a young adult moves out and then has to move back home again. Awkward both for the person and the parents, because it is very hard to turn off 20 years of being a parent and watch somebody do something that you think is dumb. However, if you work at it, it can turn out okay

Answer 3

You are over the age of 18 so you have no curfew. But it is your parents house so it is kinda their rule on what time you should be home if they make one. I'm pretty sure that they won't mind because you have already lived on your own. But if they do tell you something you should just out of respect. As far as paying your parents to stay there, I don't know. I use to pay 200.00 a month. But that was just me.

Answer 4

Okay, curfew, 20 years old. Not one. However, you might need to agree to call if you're not coming home. Moms do worry.

Price. Well, I figure you're moving back in so you can get some finances together and because it's cheaper than living on your own. So I'd offer 20% of my salary, plus any long distance calls or pay per view movies, like that.

I think it's VERY cool that you're wanting to pay. Lotta kids would just say, eh, it's MOM... she should let me live there for free!!!

Answer 5

well I'm 20, still living at home, my parents only ask for $200 a month, which includes food, electrical and bed. Curfew for me? I don't have one. I know my parents sometimes say comments like "if you are so tired you should be home at a decent time", but seriously you're an adult, so I think you should be able to pick your own time. I believe that its respectful to let them know where you are going and what time you plan on coming home at. If you could always ask them if they want you home at a certain time too, if you aren't too sure. I'm not too sure if it matters, but I'm Canadian, technically when I turned 18 that was when my parents asked me to pay rent and that.

Answer 6

Sit down with your parents. Ask them what they think will cost them more in electric, water, laundry, and food to allow you to stay with them. No need to pay for "overhead", just cover the general expenses they will incur by what you will actually consume. And, if they have a curfew, because you are UNDER THEIR JURISDICTION, you need to show respect to them and follow their wishes. If you can't do that, then move on and pay the extra costs of being on your own.

It's a matter of what your priorities are in life right now:
Save money and show your folks respect or
Spend extra money to have your independence.

You have a choice. Choose wisely.

PS - I'd give this SAME advice to someone over 50, who may have to move back with their folks. It happens all the time.

Answer 7

First off if you are paying rent you should not have a curfew rule. It is your room just like if you were renting from a apartment complex and your landlords should not have any rules like a curfew on you. As far as cost I would think a percentage of the mortgage is to be considered. My brother moved in with me and he is paying 1/3 of rent (he gets utilities included) of my apartment for his own room and his own freedoms. And his room is furnished.

Answer 8

Discuss it with them, but I'd say offer the going rate, and do more than your fair share of food shopping, etc. Don't forget that light bulbs, cleaning supplies, loo paper all have to be bought as well.

If you do this - act as an independent adult and don't expect your parents to support you in the same way they did when you were 15 - then you have a much better case for saying to them that you shouldn't have a curfew at all.

Answer 9

it depends on lots of stuff. Like how much do they pay? Do you pay for your own food? Do you work? How much do you make? and about the curfew do depends on how things are between you and them do they mind you coming in late?

when I lived with my parents I paid about 1/4 of their rent, 1/4 utilities and helped paid for food. With curfew I didn't have one as long as when I can in I was respectful and quiet.

Answer 10

You should pay them the going rate for rent as well as covering your portion of the utilities and food. Hopefully, they will agree to return some of it to you when you move out again.

Remember, they are letting you move back... it isn't your right to move back. You still must follow their rules since it is their house. You should help with the chores and cooking.

You should let them know when you will be out and when you will be back. If you are going to be late then call them. This basic courtesy applies to a 12 year old, 20 year old or 80 year old.