So i am in a long distance relationship. I have been for about 3 months. At first it was going great, we talked everynight on the phone and occasionaly online too. but latly he hasnt been calling me, and im afraid he may have moved on. I dont know how to gain his attention and let him know that i love him. I am going to see him again in about two months but i dont know if our relationship wil last that long unless i do something drastic. can somebody help me? or is this a lost cause???
2006-09-18 09:21:35 · 16 answers · asked by sh3lbii_2401 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2006-09-18 09:23:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hate to tell you but he does not sound to interested. I have been in a LDR for a year and a half now, and we talk just as much now as we did when we first starting talking. We make trips to see each other every other weekend. We know all about eachothers lives. If something happens, he is the first person I call, vise vera, just like an everyday relationship.
When in a LDR, communication is the biggest part. If you do not keep each other informed about your lives, then it will fade away. It is really hard for some people to handle this type of relationship.
The only way it is going to work is if you and him both, talk a lot via phone, email, text, I'M, pictures, what ever and talk about the future. What your plans are, how you can achieve things together. If there does not look like a future to plan together, then why bother keeping this "hard" relationship.
Do you really think you love him after three months. It is nearly impossible. Especially since you hardly ever see him. To love somebody you have to know them inside and out. Good and Bad. Its hard to do that in 3 months, especially in this type of relationship.
Good luck.
2006-09-18 09:29:11 · answer #2 · answered by jam_psb 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is this a long distance relationship? Were you together locally then one of you had to relocate, or has it always been long distance?
If there's no chance of you being together locally in the not-too-distant future, and the relationship isn't very old and/or has never been locally based, then let it go...
It's TOUGH to maintain an LDR...and people do tend to lose interest after a while, especially if they've never been together locally for any amount of time...what's the future of this? How frustrating for all your friends to go out on Fri or Sat night, and you cannot because your significant other lives far away...
I've done the ldr thing (more than once) and it didn't work for me...nor do I know many who have had any success with it...
If what you have now is all the future holds...I'd suggest finding something a bit closer...he may be doing that now, and I don't blame him (although he should definitely discuss it with you first)...
2006-09-18 09:26:05 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what your going threw is scary i had an ex boyfriend who moved to Texas and i was at the point you are and no one could give me any good advice so i just let this thing ride out and when he came to see he told me he didn't want to be together anymore now i wish i had done this because he was the best thing that has ever happened 2 me so I'm telling you as a Yahoo friend that you should sned him something So amazing or if you get the chance Go there and hand him the flowers or candy or ect. and take him out for something to eat and be strong because in the end maybe this will all work out
2006-09-18 09:30:54 · answer #4 · answered by White Cobra 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I been dating my bf who is 500 miles away from me, and we been dating now on the internet for about 2 months here so its pretty new to us both, when he asked me out on the internet, I explained to him right away that if this is gonna work we need to communicate every single day, since the first day and if you would have stated that to him he would have realized how important this relationship was to you, and what it could bring him to you in the future, but call him and find out whats wrong why he has not been calling and find out girl, maybe he is just too busy, but never too busy to breath!
2006-09-18 09:35:00 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes, depending on the two people, live contact is CRUCIAL for the connection. That is how it is for me and my man. If we go a week without seeing each other, it feels strange and we miss each other too much.
So recently we moved in together and are elated now :) I love time alone too, he does too... but sometimes... its just time to move in, when you are sure.
2006-09-18 09:27:40 · answer #6 · answered by Use my Yahoo! Avatar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't see each other at LEAST once a month - it's never ever EVER gonna work.
If you are afraid he's moved on...just ask him..if you have ANY kind of relationship at all...he wouldn't have done so without telling you first.
2006-09-18 09:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by svmainus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
98% of long distance relationships don't work, trust me. it is either because one both peroples needs aren't being met & the other person not being there. you can only talk on the phone for so much that you need human contact. thats when everything starts.
2006-09-18 09:26:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same boat. when my bf didnt call me as often as he did before i made it known to him that it is very important that we talk daily, even if we are upset with one another. communication is very very important in a long distance relationship and i will not let it wither away. ever since i did that he calls me more often now. call him and tell him that even if hes busy, just taking 5 minutes out of his busy schedule during the day to call you to say hi would just make your day. and say that you also want to be able to talk to him before bed too. tell him he has to make himself more available to you.
2006-09-18 09:25:35 · answer #9 · answered by NAQ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep him updated on any small events going on.
If he still seems interested, it's alright.
If not, he (really) could be busy, or probably hinting it's not working for him.
Prepare for the worst.
<3
2006-09-18 09:26:31 · answer #10 · answered by E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yell
2006-09-18 09:25:55 · answer #11 · answered by Swamp T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋