Family & Relationships - 19 June 2006

I started dating this guy and I cheated on him(having another bf-no sex involved).Over a year ago. We remained friends after he forgave me and we fell in love. Deep love. So he tells me he's leaving to go to the navy Wednesday and we just started somethin special( our love) only 9/10 months ago......I dont know what to do....he's breaking my heart...I want to be happy 4 him...but I cant get over the fact that he's leaving......Although I've known about this for a very long time now...I just cant face the reality of his departure!:-(....He says we'll be together 4ever..we'll get married all this stuff...I just cant let go

2006-06-19 07:36:49 · 9 answers · asked by Phoenixx 3 in Singles & Dating

is this related only to the financial aspect ?

2006-06-19 07:36:39 · 14 answers · asked by AnneMarie 3 in Other - Family & Relationships

My ex broke my heart when he lied to me and i wanna know should i wait for him to call or should i call him and try to work things out i love him but i want him to know he hurt me and i wanna make sure it wont happen again we dated for two years and before he never had girl riends but now he has alot im jealous help help too many problems

2006-06-19 07:36:34 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Iv always had a great singing voice...all iv ever wanted to do is sing! I sung the star spangled banner for school and there was this agent guy there who works for a talent agency and he says he can get me a record deal!!! but my grandma (who I live with) wont let me, what should I do???

2006-06-19 07:35:38 · 1 answers · asked by mandy_711 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

i just need to know no one sems to know the right answear

2006-06-19 07:35:30 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

ok i like this guy (im in college) and he liks me but he wont ask me out! should i ask him out?

2006-06-19 07:34:51 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

2006-06-19 07:34:28 · 19 answers · asked by AJ 1 in Singles & Dating

I like older men my only restriction is that he shouldn't be the same age group as my dad nor should he be older! But what really , is the problem is it just "your" personal thing or society?

ANSWER SOCIETY OR YOUR OWN PERSONAL THING and why!

2006-06-19 07:34:21 · 3 answers · asked by Josianne 3 in Singles & Dating

E-mail me....desperate....Not really but I need people my age...more the merrier

2006-06-19 07:33:57 · 4 answers · asked by ezdozkoz 1 in Singles & Dating

How do you just leave some one after 10 years total? He is all I have known since I was 18 and im 28 now.

2006-06-19 07:33:29 · 6 answers · asked by Youngstill 2 in Marriage & Divorce

i m a 17yr old...my boyfrnd hurted me so bad (by proposing2 my sis.,lied 2 me about his educational qualifications,even his name);we had a 10mnth relation....simply cant get over it!

2006-06-19 07:32:58 · 32 answers · asked by dincpurple 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

I moved to Florida last year with my fiancee and my entire family lives in California. I thought after a year I would be less homesick. Its too expensive to fly home and I don't have a lot of vacation from work. how can I deal with this? The homesickness is not getting any better and I am getting depressed.

2006-06-19 07:31:46 · 6 answers · asked by c77 2 in Family

Getting older(28-not too old). Tired of cheating selfish women. I know it's my fault because I've chosen the type of women I've dated. Looking for change and how to approach it.

2006-06-19 07:30:59 · 39 answers · asked by Nep 6 in Singles & Dating

The majority of the people on here keep referring to their friend as a boy or a girl.
I dont think that they are mentally capable of knowing what love is like between a man and a woman that is not a relative.

2006-06-19 07:30:57 · 33 answers · asked by creskin 4 in Singles & Dating

Is it the same number for men and women?

2006-06-19 07:30:39 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

well, my bestfriend likes my boyfriend, and they ARE friends with each other, but he's MY boyfriend and now when ever I bring him up she gets really jelous and starts moping around all day...but when ever she brings him up i get a little jelous too cuz she will see him alot more than i will and i am afraid something might happen, and then i will probbly get really mad at her and then we might not be friends anymore....can you give me advice on how to help this situation???

2006-06-19 07:30:22 · 4 answers · asked by Anonymous in Friends

she does pot with other men and hates me

2006-06-19 07:30:20 · 9 answers · asked by johnkermitabbott 1 in Marriage & Divorce

2006-06-19 07:29:51 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

I hate my father's relatives. They're jealous of my family..

2006-06-19 07:28:22 · 7 answers · asked by ajan007 1 in Family

There is a "customer" at my job who is always very friendly. She always asks how things are and other small talk type stuff. Lately the things started to be more flirty, and I thought maybe I was imagining things. I wasn't today she asked for my number, and I said "Wait, what?" and she said she wanted to call me. I laughed it off. She knows I have an AWESOME girlfriend and I am NOT a cheater. Here's the kicker: she is married! I feel weird around her now, and I am too shy/nice to tell people off, but how can I stop this?

2006-06-19 07:27:55 · 19 answers · asked by Flight&Fight 2 in Singles & Dating

Im 23 years old and my boyfirend of a year and i are talking about having a baby, we live together already, we own a condo. My boyfriend and I have good jobs and a combined income of about 85,000, with plenty of money saved in the bank, financially we are very stable. I have been thinking about it and despite how our parents would feel bc we are not married, I cant find another reason why not to. We both love eachother very much and see spending the rest of our lives together, and who knows if that will happen, but who ever knows, you can be married for 20 years and get divorced now a days. we love children and im ready and have been settled down. I just dont know if I should wait bc of what people may say and think. Please someone help! is it too young?

2006-06-19 07:27:43 · 21 answers · asked by britt 2 in Family

2006-06-19 07:27:14 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

Ok, constructive comments only please - certain level of maturity required :) this is long.

In short, been having problems with my live-in B/F of 4.5 yrs. I want to preface this with the fact that outside this issue all else is peachy and we match really well/have a great time/always together/similar minded/connected, etc.

About a year ago, I found out that since we were together, he'd spend some time on myspace (hi5, friendster, name it) and had like 133 friends/chicks on it (mostly 18-20 yr olds); which all of them he claimed he never met. Of course, no mention of me or being in a LTR in his profiles.

Later I found out he asked at least one girl for lunch (she didn't jump though), and brought at least two home on different occasions (my b/f took like 200 of naked (not the artistic kind either) pics of them, but yet says he didn't hook up with either one. There was also a few of weird emails like replying to Craisglsit NSA type personals, etc, over a course of 4 years (he used to work from home before so if anything went on before 7pm, I wouldn't know).

This totally bugged me and we fought over it (i.e, I'd cry and he'd get ticked off and say "it's nothing", etc).

Tired of such crap, I left for a short vacation (alone), to clear my head, have some fun, nothing more. And that I did; met a bunch of people including some guy I kept in touch via phone/email for about 2 weeks after my trip. Nothing happened, just some flirty conversations (which was wrong on my part, but I am vindictive). I know I was wrong to even go that far.

My B/F was furious though (apparently, what was OK for him to do, was not for me) when he saw the emails, we had a falling out; made up, I stopped communication with this dude, etc.

Shortly after though, I emailed spoke with this 18 yr old chick he went after on myspace, and brought home for the so-called "photoshoot" (the last one happened 3 months ago) while I was away. She said he tried to "do"
her after a lap dance she gave, and they had a fight over that, the end.

I confront him - no drama, mind you - I'm too shocked to even cry, just calmly tell him I want out of this sh*t ASAP. He swears and begs and cries for a few hrs and makes me stay. Obviously, all his profiles come down and he promises not to ever pull any remotely similar stunts. Conveniently, at that time - he buys me the ring and we're consumed with it for a while. (He never wanted to hear about marriage or this type of stuff before). The ring goes back (we saw a better style) and he decided to postpone the purchase, which is fine with me. He is starting a new business and our *next step* is just not a priority (nor do I think it will ever be, in fairness partly due to stuff beyond his control).

Yet, somehow we work things out (or so it seemed), and we did have a great month together.

I thought I put this sh*t behind us, or rather tried to tell myself I did. Obviously not. I can't seem to get past it. Am I crazy for even trying?? Is it even possible considering our history? Yet again, there has been so many great times... I don't want to bring this up again to my b/f as he'd just probably get mad.

All that from a guy who says he loves me, and I do believe that, as he treats me so well and even lets me drive his car :) I do love him also (seriously). I'm not a prude, I can understand attraction and flirting (which he also has no problem doing in front of me), but maybe this is a bit much.

He is a good father (the man is 40, I'm 31) to his 2 teen live-away kids from prior marriage, a hard worker and a very responsible, smart, educated, articulate, charming guy. Everybody loves him, including my parents. So it's not like I ask for advice from people I know.

Here is my question; obviously he lied before, but is there any chance he may be telling the truth when he says he won't cheat/do any weird crap to jeopardize our relationship? He says it's "different now", since there was a talk of ring and possibly marriage in remote future.

I'm some whiny nagging type, btw (nor I am into babies and minivans and white fences), I like sports, I'm in awesome shape, typical attractive eastern euro girl, make my own money, can cook, no real baggage/kids/crazy family. So it ticks me off that I was treated this way (albeit behind my back). This is the first guy I genuinely cared for.

This type behavior, does that mean my b/f never wanted anything serious - since he was always willing to risk our relationship... like continuing with his sh*t after getting caught first time/lying? Thus, he'll be likely to do it again? Frankly, I'm tired of "what ifs" swirling in my head for the past few years.

He still claims he never physically cheated on me and all this bizarre crap was *to boost his ego*, *curiosity*, whatever. Is this the type of stuff to expect in any LTR? In such case, I may never want one. I am an extremely loyal person and expect nothing but the same in return.

There are good days and bad days, and I hide bad days from my B/F (or I try my best). Silly stuff triggers the worst memories lately. He is really busy with work now and I don't want to bother him with my whining again.

I did realize I need to make a decision (once and for all), when my friend was showing me some furniture website on her Myspace page (I don't have one) and I almost bit through my lip just so to fight tears back. I want to fix it but don't know how.

2006-06-19 07:25:15 · 8 answers · asked by mesvetka 1 in Singles & Dating

i am naturally thin, like really thin, some think i'm anorexic, but i'm not. no matter what i do, i stay this way, and thats ok because i never need to worry about carbs and calories, and blah blah..., for you guys out there, does it matter whether girls are thin or fat, what do you prefer and why.

2006-06-19 07:24:55 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Singles & Dating

What will I do as a new wife when my husband's 5 grown up kids ages 29 to 33 years old always call their dad through phone for money. For all the wives out there, do you have control of your husband's money. I'm not a selfish wife; but I think it's too much to support five grown up kids and whenever they need money my husband always give them and we are already drown with debt because of their child support when they were still minor and now my husband's ex-first wife as if she is using again their grown up kids to ask for money. What will you do as a wife?

2006-06-19 07:24:37 · 24 answers · asked by NONE 1 in Marriage & Divorce

she wants to do it in the school bathroom

2006-06-19 07:24:08 · 9 answers · asked by bball17 2 in Other - Family & Relationships

2006-06-19 07:22:10 · 9 answers · asked by sara 2 in Friends

Im a hot kid that is good and smart and funny but all of the guys are tryin to steal my girls but i dont have any because they all are shy to ask me out because im too popular and im only 11 and in BMS ???? any one want to NOT be shy?

2006-06-19 07:22:04 · 9 answers · asked by David4ugirls 1 in Singles & Dating

2006-06-19 07:22:02 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family

ok i have the perfect body accept for my legs how do i lose the extra weight on my legs?

2006-06-19 07:22:01 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Other - Family & Relationships