I started dating this guy and I cheated on him(having another bf-no sex involved).Over a year ago. We remained friends after he forgave me and we fell in love. Deep love. So he tells me he's leaving to go to the navy Wednesday and we just started somethin special( our love) only 9/10 months ago......I dont know what to do....he's breaking my heart...I want to be happy 4 him...but I cant get over the fact that he's leaving......Although I've known about this for a very long time now...I just cant face the reality of his departure!:-(....He says we'll be together 4ever..we'll get married all this stuff...I just cant let go
2006-06-19 07:36:49 · 9 answers · asked by Phoenixx 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He told me to write him & vice versa,but I am getting ready to attend school again & I dont know If I will have time to write him like I want now.....
2006-06-19 07:54:59 · update #1
By "navy" he told me that he wont be fighting r anything....but still its the "naVy"!
2006-06-19 08:06:36 · update #2
Be proud of him. Sacrificing his time and possibly his life is a very respectful and noble thing to do for his country. I am not saying it is easy, my man left saturday to go to Iraq, so I am feeling your pain. Just keep your fond memories at hand and wait. He will come home soon and appreciate and love you 1000 times more for waiting for him. Also stay close with his family if you know them, they are feeling the same sense of loss you are, and you can deal with the feelings together.
2006-06-19 07:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by thecup420 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't deal well with him being away you will never make it as a navy wife. It takes a special kind of woman to do that.
Sailors belong on ships and ships were designed to be at sea.
I married a woman while in the navy and her inability to cope with my absence resulted in me leaving something I enjoyed very much. We eventually divorced.
2006-06-21 12:26:41 · answer #2 · answered by lunatic 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a novel idea, try being honest. Or, do what my girlfriend did when I went to Viet Nam. Go find yourself a new boyfriend. Given your history, you sound like the type.
Your boyfriend may never get over it but what the heck, you are having fun.
Gee, do I sound bitter? Forty years later and the pain is as fresh as if it happened yesterday.
My sympathies to your boyfriend.
2006-06-19 15:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont make any promises you know you can't keep.
As long as there are no children involved, I would stay friends, but end the romance.
If its true love, you'll see eachother when he gets out.
If its not, well at least you didn't break your friends heart.
Either way 'bored at work' is a loser. anyone who screws a military man/womans spouse while they serve should be shot.
2006-06-19 14:43:23 · answer #4 · answered by Phil M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in your shoes on 3 times. All I can tell you is that you need to let him do his own thing. Keep in touch w/ him and let him tell you what he wants. Don't settle down w/ him just yet see what's out there. Let him know that you are happy for him and that you want to keep in touch w/ him...but you just don't want to have anything long distance right now.
2006-06-19 14:46:47 · answer #5 · answered by Karen L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be very happy and proud of him. It will be hard, but if you love him like you say you do, you will be behind him every step of the way.
2006-06-19 14:42:22 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go join the navy too, and "go where no man has gone before... "
or was it "be all you can be, get cable TV..."
2006-06-19 14:43:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NAVY..I LIKE HOT NAVY GUYS
2006-06-19 14:41:36 · answer #8 · answered by wdsmky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can write to him.
2006-06-19 14:41:15 · answer #9 · answered by king cobra 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋