i m a 17yr old...my boyfrnd hurted me so bad (by proposing2 my sis.,lied 2 me about his educational qualifications,even his name);we had a 10mnth relation....simply cant get over it!
2006-06-19 07:32:58 · 32 answers · asked by dincpurple 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
what a jerk! Don't give him the satisfaction of being depressed.Look in the mirror and say : "who cares, at least I found out in time and not gave him more days from my life! He didn't deserve me anyway."
Then go get yourself something new to go out with your friends.Don't look back and think of it as something that you learned from and will never happen again.
2006-06-19 07:40:52 · answer #1 · answered by anilia 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow, I am so sorry to hear that. It would be hard for you beacause you're 17 and you are a female. I would recommend moving out to another relative for sometime. By the way, how was your relationship with your sister? She should have known better, to get out of your personal life. And you need to get yourseld busy. Work, studies, friends... The most important is not to get back with the guy. You should not compare him either. If you want, give it some time, before you find another man. Don't rush into things. You need to get to know a person, not only by his words, but from other people too. Meaning that, you have to know his friends, and be around him at the time you all are together. Being depressed won't help to get over the problem. Start exercising or do something that you love. Wish you luck!
2006-06-19 07:39:45 · answer #2 · answered by russiangrrrl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't think about everything that is related with him, don't listen the songs you listened together, don't look his picture, just try to focus on something else, different.I know that is very hard but I am 18 and a month ago I was in terrible depression because of a guy and I simply started to think"Why he can has so much fun and I am so stupid to sit at home and cry?"I have changed my attitude, I am now focused on much better things, I go out and I see so many guys.I know that they are nothing in comparison with him, but you have to start from the bottom,right?Maybe now you think, that this can not help, but time cures everything.I wish you all the best :)
2006-06-19 07:42:00 · answer #3 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry this happened to you. I know you may not want to hear this, especially now, but you are young and even though this may hurt really bad, you will get through this. That's one of the wonderful things about being human, all things do pass in time.
In the mean time, try to keep yourself busy, talk to people - it helps and know in your heart this relationship was not meant to be, you're way to nice of a person! Please remember no ONE person should have that kind of control over you, they are not worth it!
2006-06-19 07:42:05 · answer #4 · answered by moss03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What?? Are you seriouse? Girl say this and scream it loud:" MOVE OVER,EXCUSE ME..HEHEM , MY LIFE IS WAITING!!!!!." Girl move on, live your life.There are alot more things in life that you are going to accomplish.You are young and you have your whole future ahead of you.Did this situation kill you? No.It will only make you stronger honey.In about 3-4 years( or maybe even less) , you'll be like .." why was I giving myself problems for such a pointless issue?" Tomorrow is another day Babe, and it'll be alot better.And dont loose any confidence in yourself!!!!! Please.No human is worth loosing your confidence for.Email me if you want more advice.Take care
2006-06-19 07:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by star! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know this will sound silly but it works. Get back to nature- ride a bike on an open trail, go hiking, or just be active. Also go to a health food store and buy bee pollen- yes bee pollen is proven to help diminish depression by stimulating the brain. And surround yourself with good people.
2006-06-19 07:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by Jorge E 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
surrounding yourself with people has helped me a lot. also praying helps too. I'm not trying to preach or anyhting but it really does help. Don't think about that stuff what happened. Put it behind you and go looking for someone else. But don' rush the relationship, make sure this guy is the riht person for you.
2006-06-19 07:38:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I hope this loser, isn't your boyfriend any longer. The best way I've found is to change my life style (meaning), doing totally different things. Going places and meeting people that are of interest to me. Doing the same thing woun't help and seeing the same people, will be a reminder of the past.
Good luck !!!
2006-06-19 07:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by quiet times 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it as a valuable lesson. There are other fish in the sea. Be thankful you found out about him now. Next time check the person out. They are not all alike, just as we aren't. As for depression, learn how to be happy with yourself that way you will not need anyone else to lean on.
2006-06-19 07:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by Elaine J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That stinks... but try a five YEAR relationship. They say, that you convert years to months - five years will take you at least five months to get over. Hang in there - it'll pass.
If you're still really depressed:
BOOK: The Feeling Good Handbook
I think it's written by David Burns - but I'm not sure.
2006-06-19 07:36:05 · answer #10 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give into it. as soon as you start to feel depressed, recognize it and stop it. tell yourself positive things. people just be so grateful for what they have, even if a little (ie friends, family, a house, a steady job income, healthy body, etc etc). If you find yourself getting depressed often, do something you enjoy, such as learn an instrument or read a good book!
2006-06-19 07:34:34 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋