My mum (76)was knocked down by a bus. No broken bones but she suffered sub-arachnoid bleeding. Three days unconcious and 11 weeks in hospital, toward the latter end of her stay she was awaiting a "care package" to be put together prior to her release. Then after making staff aware that mum's progress was deteriorating as a result of lack of interaction with therapists (they had done all they needed to..", they finally agreed to let mum return home. A month after her discharge, the care plan still wasn't in place and now, SIX weeks later the plan has come into effect but adds to daily frustrations rather than alleviates them. In ten days we have seen about 8 different carers...so a trust or bonding cannot form. In the original "assessment" for care, we were given a 7.30 to 8.30 "window" for the carer to turn up, yet we've seldom had anyone turn up before 9am and some as late as 10.40....this adds to mum's confused state. As a result of her injuries, mum's memory took a knock and placed her back almost 30 years. We had to deal with her realisation of her mothers death. Her First remark was..."you knew and you didn't tell me.." The accident has worsened her diabetes, taken her from diet controlled, to tablet medication. Six weeks since her release now, and mum still hasn't had a blood sugar monitoring appointment. It was supposed to be today yet with an hour to go before her appointment the doctors rung up to cancel...I explained that mum was becoming more confused and I thought her sugar/insulin levels may be causing this. The last four nights now mum has slept for minutes instead of hours...being her chief carer I have slept even less, becoming more anxious and worried at her breathlessness and lack of sleep. It seems she is getting more and more confused, could this be dementia or altzheimers? and where oh where is the help I need to confirm or deny my fears....when am I supposed to get MY share of sleep? I am becoming weaker myself and more distressed over mum's worsening conditions. Any advice will help and hopefully shed light on what I can or cant ask for...I know there are organisations that help, but the current lack of professionalism by the appointed care agency doesn't offer much hope. I feel imprisoned in my own home, I can't get a job to pay the mouting bills, neither it seems can I trust anyone else to actually CARE for my mother...what can I do?
2007-09-19
03:45:59
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~☆ Petit ♥ Chou ☆~
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Other - General Health Care